Tips for Navigating a High Conflict Divorce with Kids with Dr. Howard Selinger | Episode 66

High-Conflict Divorce and Protecting Children in ColoradoIn this episode of Divorce at Altitude, Amy Goscha is joined by Howard Selinger, a clinical psychologist with more than four decades of experience, to discuss one of the most damaging aspects of divorce: high-conflict parenting and its impact on children. Drawing from years of working with families, attorneys, and courts, Dr. Selinger explains how unresolved hostility between parents can escalate through the legal system and deeply harm children’s emotional well-being.Amy and Dr. Selinger explore how parents often lose sight of their children’s needs when conflict takes over, and why involving kids in adult disputes creates anxiety, instability, and long-term emotional consequences. The conversation focuses on practical, child-centered strategies to reduce conflict, avoid putting children in the middle, and help parents realign their behavior with what truly serves their kids’ best interests—especially in high-conflict Colorado divorce cases.Guest InformationDr. Howard Selinger is a clinical psychologist with over 40 years of experience working with individuals, families, and children affected by divorce and high-conflict parenting. He frequently consults with parents and attorneys to help reduce conflict, protect children’s emotional health, and promote child-focused decision-making during and after divorce.Episode OutlineWhat Defines a High-Conflict Divorce How ongoing hostility between parents escalates through litigation and harms families.The Impact of Parental Conflict on Children Why exposure to adult disputes causes anxiety, emotional distress, and behavioral issues.Keeping Children Out of the Middle How negative talk about the other parent destabilizes kids and damages attachment.Aligning Parenting Behavior With Desired Outcomes Why parental actions often undermine the results they claim to want.Encouraging Healthy Relationships With Both Parents How affirming a child’s right to love both parents supports emotional stability.De-Escalation Strategies in High-Conflict Cases Slowing down reactions and choosing responses that reduce—not fuel—conflict.The Psychologist’s Role in High-Conflict Divorce How mental-health professionals help parents refocus on children’s best interests.What is Divorce at Altitude? Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado. To subscribe to Divorce at Altitude, click here and select your favorite podcast player. To subscribe to Kalamaya | Goscha's YouTube channel where many of the episodes will be posted as videos, click here.  If you have additional questions or would like to speak to one of our attorneys, give us a call at 970-429-5784 or email us at [email protected].************************************************************************DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS ON THIS PODCAST IS FOR ENTERTAINMENT AND INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. CONTACT AN ATTORNEY IN YOUR STATE OR AREA TO OBTAIN LEGAL ADVICE ON ANY OF THESE ISSUES.