Togetherness & Belonging (Boys hugging, is that Gay?)

from S.M.I.L.E-ing Boys Podcast · host Kay Rufai

The third episode of the S.M.I.L.E-ing Boys Podcast that explores 1 of the 8 Pillars of Happiness - Togetherness & Belonging, as it pertains to young people, black boys and the society as a whole. In this episode, the theme of boys and men hugging is explored as it pertains to self expression - licence and freedom to show emotions, displays of affection being policed in boys through a myriad of agents such as patriarchy & limited views of masculinityThe host, Kay Rufai ( https://www.instagram.com/universoulartist/ ) explores using his happiness research from the top 5 happiest countries ( You can download the report here; https://mailchi.mp/faddab9bb9a1/pdf-delivery ), how the parameters of togetherness & belonging for boys are ring-fenced by patriarchal structures that prescribe restricted forms of expression, physical touch and exuberance.The episode features audio clips from young boys that participated in the S.M.I.L.E-ing Boys classroom workshops with Kay Rufai exploring their thoughts on showing affection to other boys and the negative stigmas attached to it by thier peers and the society as a whole. These form the anchor for the episode. Read the Guardian opinion piece about Kay Rufai and his work on challenging stereotypes of Black boys in the society (https://www.theguardian.com/global/2020/mar/18/photographs-black-teenage-boys-prejudice-stereotypes )Check out the Guardian Photo Gallery of the S.M.I.L.E-ing Boys Project ( https://www.theguardian.com/world/gallery/2020/mar/18/portraits-black-teenagers-south-london-mental-health )Checkout the Artist - Kay Rufai's website - www.universoulartist.comHere's some further research around happiness for your perusal'Be Worried About Boys' research piece ( https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/moral-landscapes/201701/be-worried-about-boys-especially-baby-boys )Books Referenced - Bell Hooks - The Will To Change ( https://www.amazon.co.uk/Will-Change-Men-Masculinity-Love/dp/0743456084 )JJ Bola - Mask Off ( https://amzn.to/2WowmaL )Terrence Real - I Don't Want To Talk About It ( https://amzn.to/2WpPYve )(https://www.happinessresearchinstitute.com/publications)Watch & Subscribe on Youtube and share the S.M.I.L.Es

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