Tools for Healthy Relating (Part 1)

Last week we talked about emotional maturity. This week we have some guiding principles for practicing this, care of Marshall Rosenberg's method, Nonviolent Communication. Similar to the 8 limbs of yoga, where we have yamas (what we abstain from) and niyamas (what we cultivate), he offers a list of behaviors we don't want to participate in. These, like the yamas in yoga: ahimsa (non-violence), satya (truthfulness or non-lying), asteya (non-stealing), brahmacharya (energetic containment), and aparigraha (non-greed), show us what to avoid in order not to contaminate our good relations. The first step is cutting out the bad stuff, ie in our diet, and in our behaviors, in order to have a better experience. His list is as follows:1. Stay away from right vs. wrong (moralistic judgments)2. Don't make comparisons3. Don't deny your responsibility (blame)4. Don't communicate your desires as demands5. Don't offer punishment and rewards6. Don't give praise and compliments as bribes 7. Don't correlate observations with evaluations8. Stay away from always and never statementsTo learn more about yoga and coaching on my website here. Check out my Substack for the Astrology here.Sign up for my mailing list here.Thanks for listening, and have a great week!