Try Softer

Rebecca and Olivia explore the concept of "trying softer" and how loosening our grip on control can transform our lives, especially in the demanding world of foster care and adoption.• Recognizing when we're trying too hard from a place of insecurity or fear of being "found out" as not good enough• Understanding how our tendency to meet everyone else's needs often comes at the cost of our own wellbeing• Examining the difference between authentic presence versus performing or dissociating• Learning that sustainable care means acknowledging our limits and practicing self-care• Discovering what it means to "unclench our fist" from trying to control outcomes• Finding joy in activities without productivity goals attached• Practicing radical acceptance of circumstances we cannot change• Recognizing that showing up authentically has more value than perfect performanceI hope that you enjoy this conversation, and that it helps you work through how we can loosen our grip on control and try a little bit softer in our worlds.We know that foster care and adoption present unique challenges for your marriage, so we created this Same Page Checklist as a conversation starter for you and your spouse. You can download it for free on our website at https://www.havenretreatsinc.org/couples-free-resources-1. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram:Haven Retreats- https://www.instagram.com/haven.retreats/?hl=enBehind the Curtain Podcast- https://www.instagram.com/behind.the.curtain_pod/