Unfair Swinger Rules: The Boundaries That Break Couples

Some swinger rules sound great… until you actually have to live with them. In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into the most common unfair rules in swinging and ethical non-monogamy — the ones couples swear will "protect the relationship" but often do the exact opposite. From "no feelings allowed" to approval rules, same-room-only forever, no single guys, and the classic double standards where one partner can do things the other can't, we break down why these rules exist, where they come from, and how they quietly create resentment, insecurity, and emotional landmines. Adam and Pris get real about their own past rules — including ones they now openly admit were unfair — and talk honestly about fear, jealousy, trust, growth, and why rules without reflection can set couples up for failure. This episode isn't about judging anyone's boundaries. It's about asking the uncomfortable but necessary question: Is this rule actually protecting us… or just avoiding a deeper conversation? You'll hear candid discussions about: Why "no feelings" is one of the most unrealistic rules in ENM The difference between inclusion and ownership Why approval rules feel respectful but can quietly limit autonomy How one-sided rules create imbalance and resentment Why avoiding post-play conversations makes things worse, not better How growth in the lifestyle often means outgrowing old rules If you've ever said, "This rule made sense at first… but now something feels off," this episode is for you. Want to share your experience anonymously? Submit a Beyond Monogamy Confessional at www.beyond-monogamy.com. It's 100% anonymous. You can also find all episodes, blogs, guest bios, merch, and resources on our website — built for the community, by the community. Beyond Monogamy streams on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central.