Unmasking Defensiveness: Identify your protective patterns

In this episode, we talk about our tells around defensiveness. What are the signs that we are becoming defensive as a listener, specifically when our spouse is sharing pain? Here are a few we identify within ourselves:The desire to edit the details of what the other person is sharingInterrupting the speakerJudging the speakers thoughts and/or feelingsFeeling anger (frustration, annoyance)Wanting to explain myselfThese are signs that our defenses our up and our ears and empathy is off. What are you tells around defensiveness?Finally, we talk about what to do with that defensiveness. Explore what you are actually defending to find out what needs attention within yourself!Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn