Victim Mentality

Victim-hood and the blame game.-      Not too many people think or express that they are the victim.-      Not weakness, just our brain justifying our behavior-      Indicators of victim mentality.-      Blameo  If my spouse would just meet my needs bettero  If I just hadn’t looked at porn that first timeo  If my church leaders would just help me moreo  The house clean on ramsey –o  If only the circumstance was differento  Ask yourself, do I blame anyone else for things that I don’t like about myself or my behavior?-      Defensivenesso  Byron Katie talks about defensiveness as the first act of waro  That person doesn’t know my situationo  My life is different.o  No one else can understand what I’m going througho  No matter what I do it’s never good enougho  Zach drivingo  This is a place of defending your actions even though you might want to change but think you don’t know howo  Ask yourself, is there someone in my life that is causing my pain?o  -      Complainingo  I just can’t catch a breako  Also, just plain negativity,o  this is never going to work, nothing I do workso  You feel sorry for yourself and feel trapped.o  You know this person in your life, they are constantly looking to engage in a conversation that is negative..o  Building a business has really challenged me in this areao  I just have to ignore those thoughts and move forward with my best plans.o  Ask yourself, do I complain    , do I excuse my behavior, are my thoughts and words negative?o  -      Key indication is that the stories that you tell involve “someone did something to me” “it happened to me”-      “I was reading the news and the site showed an article that made me want to click further and that took me down the rabbit hole” – it just happened to me-      Be careful about your words – look for a victim and villain