Vol340.日常英语学习Behind the Lie

获取全部文本资料公众号搜索：yymaster888Repeat with me. Don't just listen. I'm going to ask you something, and I want you to answer me honestly, without trying to change the story or avoid the question. Who was that boy?What are you talking about? What boy? I don't understand that.You're kidding, right? Who was that boy you were hugging outside the cinema?Um... well... Dad, it's not what you think it is. And I feel like you're already imagining something worse than what actually happened.Yeah? Then help me understand it. Because what I saw was very clear. I saw my daughter hugging a boy in a way that didn't look like a simple hello. After you told me you were going out with only your friends. And you said it was just girls.I know what I said. But things changed when we got there. And I didn't expect that situation to happen the way it did. Please.What do you mean things changed? Be specific, Emily. Because right now it sounds like you are trying to find the right words to make your story sound better.Okay. One of my friends invited him without telling me first. And when we got there, he was already there with them. And I didn't want to make a big deal in front of everyone.So, now the story is that one of your friends invited him, and you had no idea before you arrived? That's different from what you said a minute ago, don't you think?I'm just trying to explain everything. But you don't even let me finish before you judge me.I'm not judging you without reason. I'm reacting to what I saw and what you told me. And let me tell you that those two things don't match. That's the problem.It wasn't planned by me, okay? I didn't organize it. I didn't know. And I didn't think it was going to be a problem because we were all together.And the hug? Was that also not planned? Because that didn't look like something casual or uncomfortable. That looked natural, like something you have done before.We... we just greeted each other like that. Some people hug. It's normal.Not like that, Emily. Not like what I saw. Don't try to make it sound smaller than it is, Emily. I'm going to ask you again, and this time I want a clear answer. Why did you tell me you were only going out with girls if there was a boy involved?Ah... because I knew you were going to react exactly like this. And I didn't want to have this argument before even going out. That's it.So, your solution was to lie to me and hope I would never find out? Is that what you thought was a good idea? I can't believe it, Emily.I didn't... I didn't think it was a lie. I just didn't say everything.That is the definition of lying, Emily. When you hide important information because you know the truth will create a reaction, that is still a lie.I didn't want problems. I just wanted to go out, relax, watch a movie, and have a normal time with my friends without feeling controlled.And now look at the result. You didn't avoid problems, you made them bigger. Because now it's not only about the boy, it's also about trust. You get that?It's not fair that I can't have a normal life just because you assume the worst about everything.This is not about controlling your life. This is about protecting you, Emily. Protecting you from situations you don't fully understand yet, even if you think you do.What? I do understand more than you think. I'm not a child anymore.You are 17, Emily. You're not a child, but you are also not fully an adult. You are in the middle. And that is exactly when people make the biggest mistakes.So what? That means I can't have male friends? I can't talk to boys? I can't go out with them in a group? That's what you're saying, Dad?No, of course not. I didn't say you can't have friends. Listen carefully. I said I don't want you getting close to boys in a way that can turn into something more, especially when I don't know anything about them.That's the problem. You don't know anything about him because you don't even try to know him.Because I don't trust easily. And I have my reasons for that, believe me. When I was your age, I saw many situations that looked innocent at the beginning, but ended badly. Boys pretending to be nice. Boys saying they only wanted friendship, but they wanted something else. And many girls believed them because they trusted too fast.I... I understand that. But not everyone is like that, and you know that. You can't put everyone in the same group just because of your past experiences.Uh... all right. Maybe not everyone, but enough to be careful. And I prefer to be careful than to regret something later. Although, you don't understand.But that... you're not being careful. You're being unfair. You're deciding who he is without even talking to him, without even asking me properly.Then, tell me properly. Who is he? Where did you meet him? What do you know about him that makes you trust him like that? Tell me.