Want Better Sex? Start Putting Your Fantasies on Paper

In this episode Paul summarises a study showing that people who wrote sexual fantasies at least twice a week for four weeks experienced increased sexual desire and pleasure, fewer distracting worries during sex, and greater partner connectedness compared with a control group. He advises keeping the exercise private at first, writing by hand or typing, focusing on scenarios that involve your partner or are mutually acceptable, and sharing only what feels comfortable. Writing fantasies can change how you think about sex, improve communication, and even serve as foreplay. There’s a link to the study and tips for trying the exercise at home.