Water That Garden

You want your marriage to be different.  You want your husband to be different.  You want him to listen to you and seem to actually give a flying Farquaad for your feelings.You are weighed down with disappointments.  Your wishes seem empty as you note each time he pulls away or says, “You’re just overreacting!”All of the evidence supports your claim that he can’t do relationships and will never make you happy.Unless- you’re not actually considering all the evidence.What if your focus is only on the things that are supporting what you’ve decided- because there is safety and predictability in being right, and justified, even if it means you’re unhappy?And what if you made a conscious decision to become the gardener in your relationship, and to give light, nourishment and water to the aspects you genuinely want to grow?You are already your life’s gardener, you just didn’t realize you’ve been nurturing the prickle bushes and the deadly nightshade.Whatever you shine the light of your attention on, actually gets bigger.  If your focus is continually on the ways he’s falling short, he’s going to keep falling shorter and shorter until he falls out of love and your life.When you’re trying to walk this journey without support, it’s too easy to get discouraged and hang up your cute watering can.  If you’d like to explore the idea of growing that garden with my assistance, send me a message on instagram to schedule your complimentary session.  Please don’t let the crabgrass grow any higher before you take action.  I’m here for you.You deserve all the love and happiness you can hold.bethechangeinyourmarriage.onuniverse.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bethechangeinyourmarriage.substack.com