‘We’re Housemates Who Share a Bed’ — How Can Emotionally Focused Therapy Help You?

‘We used to be so passionate. Now we’re housemates who just happen to share a bed. I’m scared we’ve lost something we can’t get back.’IIn this episode, sex and intimacy counsellor Debby Poort answers it.This month on DAM SEX, Eva and Debby go into Emotionally Focused Therapy — the attachment-based model that reframes ‘we have a sex problem’ as ‘we have a connection problem.’ They talk about the pursue–withdraw cycle, what it looks like in real couples, and why both people in the cycle are doing the exact same thing: trying to get their needs met. Plus: the A.R.E. framework (Accessible, Responsive, Engaged), what emotional safety actually feels like in the body, and why couples wait an average of seven years before getting help.The cycle is the problem. Not the couple.Debby Poort — Sex & Intimacy CounsellorYellowwood | Amsterdam & AmstelveenWebsite: www.yellowwood.nlDAM SEX is monthly. Every episode builds. Dam Parenting — every Wednesday.