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EPISODE · Jun 17, 2019 · 26 MIN

What is "The Hijackal Trap?" Am I Caught in It?

from Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

Are you caught in The Hijackal Trap? You really need to know, so you can make clear choices. The Hijackal® Trap is often very hard to recognize because it is often subterranean, deep in the murky areas of the relationships only showing up every now and again. Or, maybe, it's showing up increasingly frequency now, and you need to know right away.You get glimpses of it in confusing early moments in your relationship, and if you're like most people with a desire to be in love, you ignore those glimpses because you want everything to be wonderful, solvable, and moving in a great direction towards one another. Right? That's the way it's supposed to work. It doesn't work that way with #Hijackals, sadly.The Hijackal Trap is illusive. Now you see it. No, you don't. And, because you don't really want to see it, you likely ignore it or make excuses for it when it does raise its ugly head.You're listening today because you know you are tired of feeling put down, worn down, or torn down...and, usually all three!Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult people with the patterns, traits, and cycles shared by those with narcissistic, passive-aggressive, sociopathic, histrionic, psychopathic, and borderline tendencies--can be very charming. For sure, they are full of immediate excuses for the their behavior. Worse, though, is that the have a tendency to make everything your fault! Familiar?You'll know if you're caught in The Hijackal Trap very soon. I think you're suspecting it's true, right?--------------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Recognizing the Hijackal TrapWhy things may seem comfortably uncomfortable, or familiarWhy you may have consciously or unconsciously missed the red flagsWhat to watch forHow to know if you're caught in the Hijackal TrapDon't worry. Other episodes will definitely help you get out of the Trap, and out of the relationship if that is what you want to do. You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.No emotional safety when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!Once, you recognize this, you'll need more information to change that. You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful webinars and access to the webinar libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #recognizenarcissism #seeingthecyclesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you caught in The Hijackal Trap? You really need to know, so you can make clear choices. The Hijackal® Trap is often very hard to recognize because it is often subterranean, deep in the murky areas of the relationships only showing up every now and again. Or, maybe, it's showing up increasingly frequency now, and you need to know right away.You get glimpses of it in confusing early moments in your relationship, and if you're like most people with a desire to be in love, you ignore those glimpses because you want everything to be wonderful, solvable, and moving in a great direction towards one another. Right? That's the way it's supposed to work. It doesn't work that way with #Hijackals, sadly.The Hijackal Trap is illusive. Now you see it. No, you don't. And, because you don't really want to see it, you likely ignore it or make excuses for it when it does raise its ugly head.You're listening today because you know you are tired of feeling put down, worn down, or torn down...and, usually all three!Hijackals--those relentlessly difficult people with the patterns, traits, and cycles shared by those with narcissistic, passive-aggressive, sociopathic, histrionic, psychopathic, and borderline tendencies--can be very charming. For sure, they are full of immediate excuses for the their behavior. Worse, though, is that the have a tendency to make everything your fault! Familiar?You'll know if you're caught in The Hijackal Trap very soon. I think you're suspecting it's true, right?--------------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Recognizing the Hijackal TrapWhy things may seem comfortably uncomfortable, or familiarWhy you may have consciously or unconsciously missed the red flagsWhat to watch forHow to know if you're caught in the Hijackal TrapDon't worry. Other episodes will definitely help you get out of the Trap, and out of the relationship if that is what you want to do. You deserve to create a life that is calm, peaceful, creative, and productive. A #Hijackal wants to be sure that you do not.No emotional safety when you're in a relationship with a Hijackal!Once, you recognize this, you'll need more information to change that. You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!If you need help with any part of the journey with--and from--a #Hijackal, I'm here for you. Let's talk soon. I make it easy and accessible for you to have your first one-hour session with me for only $97.Make positive changes NOW.Big hugs,RhobertaRhoberta Shaler, PhD,The Relationship Help DoctorTransformingRelationship.com or ForRelationshipHelp.comP.S. Subscribe to my newsletter, Tips for Relationships, HERE.WANT THE PRIVACY AND SAFETY OF MY SUPPORT & GROWTH GROUPS AWAY FROM FACEBOOK?You can have that, and:access to my Optimize Circlesmy 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy programmonthly "Ask Me Anything" calls, sometimes twoat least monthly insightful webinars and access to the webinar libraryYou can get most of this right now for the price of one latte a month! This offer is going away soon, and the prices will double. Join now!ForRelationshipHelp.com/CirclesCONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comPodcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctorYouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelpYou can also listen to the last 32 episodes of Save Your Sanity on Mental Health News Radio Network. That's a great place to get in-depth insights for shoring up mental and emotional health of all kinds.#Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorders #MHNRNetwork #recognizenarcissism #seeingthecyclesSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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