What NOT to say when chatting someone up

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Spooky season has begun and I'm back in your earbuds with another episode of Bonding. This week I talk to you about etiquette - the do's and don'ts when you're chatting up potential kinky partners. I discuss how to initiate conversations with like-minded kinksters and the process that can help create authentic connections with awareness. I touch on leading from a place of safety, trust and respect. Tune in to hear me talk about the importance of first impressions online and how just because you're on a sex positive platform doesn't mean you need to lead with sex. I share my thoughts on how to engage in respectful communication and ways to check in with your intensions before and during engagement. Come join us for our Halloween Cocktails and Kink: 'Blood Lust' party on 30th October at the Looking Glass Cocktail Club in London. Tickets available here Support the show Sign up to my mailing list and get your FREE Limits & Boundaires Checklist! Join The Power Exchange Academy This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit subinthecity.substack.com/subscribe

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