EPISODE · Jan 20, 2026 · 23 MIN
What prison research taught me about raising kids without boundaries
from Wildly Appropriate w/ Krissy Marsh · host Krissy Marsh
Prisoners told a researcher the same thing... no boundaries growing up, and they never felt safe.That's from a book called Raising Boys, written by someone who spent years inside the New Zealand prison system. It changed how I raised my three. Boundaries aren't the opposite of love... they're how a kid feels secure. So yes, I smacked them, I put soap in their mouths, and they tell me now they needed every bit of it.What you'll get:• Why boundaries make kids feel safe• Discipline it in the moment, not later• Why bullying is learnt at homeChapters:(00:00) Soap and smacking(01:52) The prison book(04:08) Show them real life(05:46) No phones at night(08:50) Staying consistent(12:00) Where bullies come from(16:14) Teaching resilience(20:44) Don't be their friendSend Auntie Krissy your messiest parenting dilemma. DM the podcast on Instagram @wildlyappropriatepodcast and it might get unpacked on a future episode.Follow:Newsletter: https://wildlyappropriate.substack.com/Instagram: @wildlyappropriatepodcast (https://www.instagram.com/wildlyappropriatepodcast)TikTok: @wildlyappropriate (https://www.tiktok.com/@wildlyappropriate)YouTube: @WildlyAppropriate (https://www.youtube.com/@WildlyAppropriate?sub_confirmation=1)Krissy on Instagram: @realkrissymarsh (https://www.instagram.com/realkrissymarsh)Krissy on TikTok: @realkrissymarsh (https://www.tiktok.com/@realkrissymarsh)Listen:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/wildly-appropriate-w-krissy-marsh/id1790057838Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1TIH5sHckXXmnh8qjMb43SThis is one mum's experience, not professional advice. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or a local support line.Produced by Dreamers Mediawww.dreamersmedia.co
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Prisoners told a researcher the same thing... no boundaries growing up, and they never felt safe.That's from a book called Raising Boys, written by someone who spent years inside the New Zealand prison system. It changed how I raised my three. Boundaries aren't the opposite of love... they're how a kid feels secure. So yes, I smacked them, I put soap in their mouths, and they tell me now they needed every bit of it.What you'll get:• Why boundaries make kids feel safe• Discipline it in the moment, not later• Why bullying is learnt at homeChapters:(00:00) Soap and smacking(01:52) The prison book(04:08) Show them real life(05:46) No phones at night(08:50) Staying consistent(12:00) Where bullies come from(16:14) Teaching resilience(20:44) Don't be their friendSend Auntie Krissy your messiest parenting dilemma. DM the podcast on Instagram @wildlyappropriatepodcast and it might get unpacked on a future episode.Follow:Newsletter: https://wildlyappropriate.substack.com/Instagram: @wildlyappropriatepodcast (https://www.instagram.com/wildlyappropriatepodcast)TikTok: @wildlyappropriate (https://www.tiktok.com/@wildlyappropriate)YouTube: @WildlyAppropriate (https://www.youtube.com/@WildlyAppropriate?sub_confirmation=1)Krissy on Instagram: @realkrissymarsh (https://www.instagram.com/realkrissymarsh)Krissy on TikTok: @realkrissymarsh (https://www.tiktok.com/@realkrissymarsh)Listen:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/wildly-appropriate-w-krissy-marsh/id1790057838Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1TIH5sHckXXmnh8qjMb43SThis is one mum's experience, not professional advice. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional or a local support line.Produced by Dreamers Mediawww.dreamersmedia.co
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