What's Behind The Behaviour: Understanding Girls' Mental Health When They Are in Freeze

Send us Fan Mail If your daughter's behaviour feels confusing, unpredictable, or out of character, and you're constantly wondering, "Why is she like this?" this episode offers a transformative reframe that changes everything. Behaviour isn't random; it's a powerful signal from the nervous system, especially in girls' mental health and adolescent behaviour contexts. When girls enter a freeze state, their brain, body, and emotions collaborate to protect them from overwhelm, not to push you away. I break down what freeze looks like in real life, the physiological changes happening during shutdown, why traditional logic and consequences may fail, and how to support regulation effectively without pushing or fixing. This episode provides essential parenting support to mothers who want to improve their mother daughter relationship by understanding behavioural messages deeply. You’ll gain clarity and reduce fear as you learn to see behaviour as the messenger, not the problem. Perfect for mums raising girls who seem distant, flat, or overwhelmed underneath it all. And listen, if you’re sitting there thinking “I need more than this podcast episode”, I’m running a live webinar tonight - 19th February at 7pm GMT. It’s free. It’s 45 minutes. And I’m going to teach you exactly what freeze looks like, why we miss it, and what actually helps. You’ll also get to connect with other mums who are in the exact same place. So if you want in, grab your spot here. Spaces are limited because I want to keep it interactive, so if you’re thinking about it, just register now. If you’re listening to this thinking, “that’s me,” I’ve got something for you. It’s called Connect the Dots. It’s a really simple guide to help you slow down, look at what you’re actually seeing, and then zoom out and consider what else might be going on for your daughter. You can grab it for free here. Don’t forget to subscribe so you’re the first to get new episodes, and leave me a review - it helps other mums find the podcast too. Follow me on instagram or LinkedIn Let me know how you found this episode. See you next time! 💛