When a dad stops going it alone and finds his people

Real Talk for Special Needs Dads: Community, Communication, and Caring for YourselfIn this episode, I sat down with advocate and educator John Fella to talk candidly about fatherhood, support, and raising an autistic, nonverbal teen. This one’s practical, honest, and full of encouragement.Key Topics CoveredWhy dads often feel isolated—and how to build intentional community that actually helpsSupporting nonverbal communication: AAC, letter boards, and why there’s no one-size-fits-allABA today: what’s changed, what still depends on the therapist, and how to set boundariesHow to create better IEP relationships and reduce friction with school teamsSimple ways dads can bond with their kids when “traditional” activities don’t fitMain TakeawaysDon’t do this alone: Community isn’t optional—it’s protective. Start with one person who “gets it.” If groups feel like too much, go one-on-one first.Vulnerability is strength: You can’t get the right help if you won’t say you need it. Share as much as you’re ready for—then let people show up.Communication is multi-path: AAC (like TouchChat), signs, body language, and typing can work in combination. Follow your child, not the hype. Progress requires patience—and fit.ABA is about the person delivering it: A great therapist adapts and respects your child. If it’s rigid, repetitive, or stressful, speak up and adjust.Build IEP relationships early: Humanize your child with classroom talks, share what they love, and connect outside high-stress meetings. Collaboration beats confrontation.Redefine connection: If playing on a team isn’t realistic, watch games together, shoot hoops your way, or take short walks. Consistent moments matter.Find structured support: Organizations like the Special Fathers Network offer groups and one-on-one mentoring—local and virtual.“One person is a start. If you don’t have that person yet, reach out—today.”John’s resources and writing are at johnfella.com. He also has a memoir coming soon and a contribution to a book with Temple Grandin for educators and therapists.Listen to the full conversation for practical examples, how John mentors dads, and what’s worked with his son—so you can apply it in your own life today.Hosted on Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.