When Niceness Isn't Kindness: The Hard Work of Batterer Intervention

What does true repentance look like for someone who has abused their partner? Is real change possible—and if so, what does it take?In this hard-hitting episode of Hey Tabi, trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with pastor, biblical counselor, and domestic abuse interventionist Chris Moles to dig into the gritty realities of faith-based perpetrator intervention. Together, they unpack:- Why traditional couples counseling fails in abuse cases- What the Men of Peace program teaches about accountability and repentance- How coercive control distorts a person’s view of love, intimacy, and authority- Why emotional abuse is often just the beginning—and how to detect sexual coercion- How pastors can avoid colluding with abusers and instead walk in truth and justice- The vital need for multidisciplinary care teams to support both survivors and perpetratorsWhether you’re a survivor, a ministry leader, or a clinician, this conversation will challenge and equip you with biblical insight, clinical depth, and gospel hope.💡 Listen in as we call abusers to repentance and the church to courage.🔗 Find Chris at chrismoles.org, menofpeace.org📘 Mentioned Resources: The Heart of Domestic Abuse - https://amzn.to/43g0BDqCaring for Families Caught in Domestic Abuse - https://amzn.to/4jXYOd7When Home Hurts - https://amzn.to/3YP3tpq🛑 Trigger Warning: This episode contains candid discussion of abuse, sexual coercion, and spiritual harm.🎧  If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information!Wanna say hi? Send a text!👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information!📖 Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive ControlWanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi📩 Connect with Tabitha & The Journey and The Process:💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.comSubscribe to our YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional.Need to know how to find a great therapist? Read this blog post here.