When There's No Funeral: Honouring Babies Lost Before 20 Weeks with Melissa King

When Melissa King lost her baby in 2011, she discovered an unexpected silence. No information, no pathway to support, and very few people willing to talk openly about miscarriage. Out of that heartbreak, she founded Miscarriage Information Support Service (MISS), Australia’s first miscarriage-specific not-for-profit providing free resources, care packages, and a sense of community for people affected by early pregnancy loss.In this conversation, Melissa shares her personal story of loss and how it inspired her to create a space where grief is acknowledged, not hidden. We talk about why early pregnancy loss is still misunderstood, how society’s reluctance to discuss death and miscarriage leaves families isolated, and what real support looks like for people going through it.We also discuss the newly opened Butterfly Garden,  a stunning memorial space for families to remember their babies and explore practical ways to honour and remember a baby after miscarriage. Melissa’s compassion and dedication shine through as she offers comfort, truth, and practical tools for anyone navigating the pain of early pregnancy loss.In this episode:How Melissa’s personal experience of miscarriage led to the creation of MISSThe ongoing stigma and silence surrounding early pregnancy lossWhy acknowledging miscarriage matters and how it impacts griefThe importance of support for partners and families, not just mothersMISS care packages, community resources, and how to access supportResources & Links:Miscarriage Information Support Service (MISS)Early Pregnancy Loss Certificate (Births, Deaths & Marriages)Butterfly Garden (Bunurong Memorial Park)GrieflineBeyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 Lifeline:13 11 14Miscarriage AustraliaRed Nose Grief and Loss Pink Elephants  Bears of HopeShared Stories, Coping after Loss and Self-CareHow To Support MISSHappy Birthday in Heaven - written by MelissaRemember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.Take care,CatherineWe'd love to hear from you. Send us a text :-)Death is hard, make death admin easy with the Critical Info Platform. It’s a simple, secure system that helps you prepare and share your legacy, wishes and personal paperwork.It’s packed with prompts, guides and even a To Do List to help you easily gather critical information for a complete end-of-life plan.Leave behind a legacy, not a mess.Sign up now to your free trial at critical info.com.auNo credit card needed. Every Tuesday at 7pm, I host Critical Chat Tuesdays — free, online conversations where you can ask questions or just listen.No pressure. No expectation.Because this isn’t about planning for “someday” — it’s about being ready for whatever life throws your way.Join anytime at criticalinfo.com.au/events MY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?Our guide, ‘My Loved One Has Died, What Do I Do Now?’ provides practical steps for the hours and days after a loved one's death. Download it here.SUPPORT SERVICESIf you're feeling overwhelmed by grief, find support through our resources and bereavement services here.Support the showSupport the 'Don’t Be Caught Dead' podcast with a one-off or regular donation to help Critical Info, a certified social enterprise, keep creating free, high-impact conversations about death, grief and planning—every contribution fuels our mission to reduce the burden on families and build a more death-literate, compassionate community. Donate here now.Learn more: https://criticalinfo.com.au/Connect with Don't Be Caught Dead podcast host Catherine Ashton & Critical info on socials:https://linktr.ee/catherine_critical_info?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=c1879300-84db-4c70-9270-18d17d3ec22aMusic composer: Ania Reynolds - https://www.aniareynolds.com/