When You Speak Up

No matter how much of a canker blossom your husband is, you can be at peace in your heart, and find sweet hope for your future. You can even learn to love him, and find all kinds of creative and liberating ways to inspire him to be far less of a canker blossom. This is what I love to jam with you on. Let’s brainstorm! (Complimentary Session)What do you need more of in your life? More laughter, more silence, more fun, more poetry, more inspiration, more help? Let’s find a way to get them. If you know in your heart of hearts it’s a good thing, and reasonable, don’t let his disagreement or disapproval stop you. Move forward. However gradually. What is the worst thing that can happen? Yelling and door slamming? The silent treatment? You come from strong stock, you can weather that storm. If it’s just unthinkable, let’s talk about why. What are you making it mean about you? What is the secret horror that’s being activated? How can you nurture and heal yourself through it? Remind yourself that you are of infinite worth and loved beyond measure, that you are a work in progress, and any regrets you have are a reason to celebrate your growth, NOT devalue yourself. If you look back and feel bad about something you did or said, that just means you’re learning, discovering and growing, which is exactly what you were put on this earth to do. Also, there is no shame in being afraid. That’s just your brain trying to keep you safe. But you are a rebel, and a queen, and you don’t have to do everything your brain says. Let’s say, you’re afraid of confrontation, but you feel the fear, encourage yourself through it and speak up anyway. You say…bethechangeinyourmarriage.onuniverse.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bethechangeinyourmarriage.substack.com