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EPISODE · Jun 10, 2026 · 16 MIN

When You Stop Needing Sex, You Take The Pressure Off It #432

from What I Love About Sex · host Stephanie Ganowski

When you need sex (or other external things) because it's the only way you can feel a certain way (love, connection, masculinity, feeling seen, appreciation, etc.), you lose trust in yourself and you lose options. Relying on yourself provides you a sense of freedom and ease in your body and in your relationship with your partner. That ease and those options allow you to practice other ways to feel what you want to feel and this is where you build confidence and also more attraction within yourself and your relationship. Something I want to add that I didn't mention in this episode when I shared my boyfriend's take on this, is how it impacts me as his partner. I feel his ease and his want for sex over his pressure and need for sex. It makes our sex life be something we do to add to our love and connection, not the only source.  Do you have a specific situation in your relationship you want to be coached on so you have specific actions for moving forward? Whether it's around your delayed ejaculation, ED, premature ejaculation, sex skills, mindset or a situation with your woman where you feel stuck... Join Built Daily You'll be anonymous and you'll see the questions and coaching I provide other men in Built Daily (which I'm sure you can relate to).

When you need sex (or other external things) because it's the only way you can feel a certain way (love, connection, masculinity, feeling seen, appreciation, etc.), you lose trust in yourself and you lose options. Relying on yourself provides you a sense of freedom and ease in your body and in your relationship with your partner. That ease and those options allow you to practice other ways to feel what you want to feel and this is where you build confidence and also more attraction within yourself and your relationship. Something I want to add that I didn't mention in this episode when I shared my boyfriend's take on this, is how it impacts me as his partner. I feel his ease and his want for sex over his pressure and need for sex. It makes our sex life be something we do to add to our love and connection, not the only source.  Do you have a specific situation in your relationship you want to be coached on so you have specific actions for moving forward? Whether it's around your delayed ejaculation, ED, premature ejaculation, sex skills, mindset or a situation with your woman where you feel stuck... Join Built Daily You'll be anonymous and you'll see the questions and coaching I provide other men in Built Daily (which I'm sure you can relate to).

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