What I Love About Sex
by Stephanie Ganowski
What I Love About Sex is the podcast for successful men who overthink sex. If you're confident everywhere else but your sex life, this show is especially for you.Hosted by clinical sexologist and men's sex coach Stephanie Ganowski, each episode gives you practical, judgment-free tools to get out of your head, feel confident with her, and ask for what you want.Topics include: how to last longer in bed, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and staying hard, delayed ejaculation, performance anxiety, overthinking during sex, low sex drive and mismatched desire in marriage, how to initiate sex, how to talk to your wife or girlfriend about sex, porn and masturbation, and sexual confidence for men.New episodes every week.Free guide, Overthinking Sex?: https://stephanie-ganowski-coaching.kit.com/839b5aea82Apply for 1:1 coaching: stephanieganowski.com/coaching
Episodes
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How to Stop Small Tension From Ruining Your Sex Life #448
Most couples don’t need fewer 'fights'. They need to get better at what happens right after them. In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most important and underrated skills for a great relationship and sex life: repair. Repair is how you keep one bad moment from becoming a bigger story...
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3 Ways to Create More Chemistry in Your Relationship #447
If you’ve ever wondered whether your woman is still as attracted to you as she used to be, or why your sex life doesn’t feel as exciting anymore, this episode is for you. Chemistry isn’t something you either have or you don’t. And it doesn’t have to disappear just because the honeymoon phase is...
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Waiting for Your Sex Life to Get Better Is Making It Worse #446
If you know something in your sex life isn’t working, waiting usually doesn’t make it easier to address. It makes the conversation heavier. You start thinking about it more. You become more frustrated. More meaning gets attached to every initiation, rejection, good night, bad night, or stretch...
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Why Porn Can Make You Feel Less in Control During Sex #445
If you feel like you have more control when you masturbate but lose that control when you're highly aroused with a partner, porn may be playing a bigger role than you realize. In this episode, I break down how the way you use porn can train your brain and body to rely on visual stimulation…
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When Sex Goes “Wrong,” You Play! (My Embarrassing Sex Stories—and Yours) #444
Yes, I’m a sexologist. And yes, I’ve had moments during sex that made me want to disappear in the moment, but I made it fun anyway- because I get to. 😂 In this episode, I’m sharing three of my favorite embarrassing sex stories—including an anal mishap, an unexpected request, and a backyard...
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You Don’t Need the Perfect Words to Be a Confident Man #443
What if confidence isn’t about always knowing the right thing to say, but knowing who you want to be, even when you get it wrong? In this episode, I share the perspective of how to stop chasing perfection and start acting with agency in your relationships and sex life. You can’t control every...
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You get along - but do you feel close? #442
Apply for 1:1 coaching What you'll learn in this episode: You get along, care about each other, and rarely fight...but how close are you really ? In this episode, I explore the difference between a pleasant relationship and a close one, and how keeping things comfortable can leave important…
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The 100-Man Project: My Thoughts After the First 25 Conversations #441
Want to join The 100-Man Project? In this episode, I'm giving you my raw thoughts on the first 25 conversations I've had with men for the 100 Man Project. I haven't organized my notes yet, so this is really me, for the first time, putting thoughts together on The patterns that have come up The...
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Why I'm talking to 100 men about sex #440
Be part of the 100-Man Project here! Most men have never actually talked about their sex life out loud. Not to their woman, not to their friends, not to a doctor/therapist. They've been carrying it alone for years, convinced they're the only one dealing with what they're dealing with. I want to...
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Stop Playing It Safe With Her #439
In this episode, I give examples of what it means for you to "play it safe" with your woman. Why you play it safe What it sounds like to stop playing it safe, and why this is so important for your connection and sex life! Do you resonate with this and you're ready to do something about it? Apply...
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Can't Stay Present During Sex? Do This. #438
In this episode, I compared me running two miles to your sex life lol. There are distractions, discomforts, doubts, etc. But when you focus on being present with what you want to experience (over and over again), you can quiet the noise. What if you're not missing the 'technique' to have great…
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Practice non-sexual touch (use these examples!) #437
In this episode, I give you a list of examples so you can start initiating more non-sexual touch with your wife or girlfriend. This is soo important for your connection (connection is the foundation of a great sex life). If you're a man who has an active sex life and feels loved by his woman but...
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3 MORE Tips Every Man Needs to Know to Give Her Pleasure (part II) #436
In this episode, I'm sharing three more ways to give her more pleasure during sex and these are separate from the tips in Part 1, so if you haven't caught that one yet, go back and listen first :) I'm Stephanie, sexologist and sex coach for men. I help men overcome performance pressure and have...
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3 Sex Tips Every Man Needs to Know to Give her Pleasure #435
In this episode I'm breaking down 3 things that actually bring most women more pleasure during sex. 1️⃣ Getting her fully turned on before penetration 2️⃣ Trading the nonstop fast pace for intentional, slower thrusting and why pausing can feel amazing 3️⃣ Letting her grind instead of bounce when...
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You Trained Yourself Into Anxiety. You Can Train Yourself Out. Find a Way! #434
Most people give up too easily and the people around you, the Reddit threads venting, the "this is just normal" advice from doctors and therapists, are actually reinforcing the belief that you're stuck (when you are not!). In this episode, I break down why so much performance anxiety, ED, PE, and...
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This is what gives you the confidence you've been wanting #433
To make changes for yourself and your relationship, it requires acting before you're "ready" so you can build trust in yourself and learn that no matter what happens, you will adapt and be more than ok. If you don't trust yourself in your relationship it looks like: You not addressing 'elephants…
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When You Stop Needing Sex, You Take The Pressure Off It #432
When you need sex (or other external things) because it's the only way you can feel a certain way (love, connection, masculinity, feeling seen, appreciation, etc.), you lose trust in yourself and you lose options. Relying on yourself provides you a sense of freedom and ease in your body and in…
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Changing the Feedback Loop of Your Sex Life #431
When the sex you're having doesn't go according to plan, most men go quiet, spiral into "woe is me," and wait for their partner to reassure them, instead of taking the lead. In this episode, I break down a recent client breakthrough that shows why that pattern keeps your sex life stuck and what...
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The 3 Ways Men Initiate Sex That Almost Guarantee Rejection #430
Ever turned to your partner at 9:30pm, asked "you wanna…?" and rolled over disappointed when she said no? She didn't reject you... she rejected the way you initiated. In this episode, I break down the three ways most men initiate sex that almost guarantee a "no". None of them are your fault, you...
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Don't avoid the "sensitive topics" #429
In this episode, I teach you why it's so important to be able to talk about everything with your woman - especially when it impacts your relationship. Book your Attraction Audit for 1:1 coaching
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The 1% Relationship: Doing What Most People Won't #428
If you want a relationship most people don't have, you have to do what most people won't. Sometimes that's uncomfortable and that's ok! In this episode, I'm breaking down just a few of the behaviors that separate the 1% of relationships from the rest These skills aren't something you're born…
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Last longer in bed with this move! #427
Listen to this episode and learn: How shallow penetration can help you last longer in bed What it means for men to be "black and white" in their thinking around sex while women are like "rainbows" That maybe you can think twice before going down on her for the purpose of making her horny The 1%...
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Are you having 'relational conversations' with her? #426
In this episode, I'm reminding you of why it's important to have conversations about your relationship instead of either conversations about planning/family stuff or conversations that are very sex-specific. There is this whole middle area that you're probably not capitalizing on and it's where...
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Settling for a 'good' sex life? (Your tricking yourself) #425
In this episode, I'm showing you the difference between a man who has an "ok" sex life that he even tricks himself into thinking that it's "good", and a man who has a great sex life and he knows it and feels it. I did not edit any of this episode so hopefully it didn't need editing lol. Work with...
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Les Chandelles: What It's Really Like Inside Paris's Exclusive Sex Club #424
In this episode, I'm taking you inside one of Paris's most talked-about and notoriously hard-to-get-into sex clubs: Les Chandelles (aka "The Candlesticks"). Andrew and I had been planning this Europe trip for a while, and visiting this club was on our list. I share what it was actually like…
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Q&A: Your Sex, Intimacy & Relationship Questions Answered #423
Stephanie answers your sex questions (from Instagram audience) in this juicy Q&A episode. Covering everything from how to be more romantic and intimate outside the bedroom, to what's really behind a woman's low libido (hint: it's usually not what you think). She also gets personal about…
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Sexless Marriage: What Vulnerability sounds like #422
Most men know they're "supposed to be vulnerable." Almost none of them know what that actually means in practice... what to say, how to say it, and why it works. In this episode, I break down what real vulnerability sounds like in a relationship and what it does to your partner when you show up...
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Are you attracted to yourself? #421
Do you find yourself desirable? When's the last time you actually felt sexy- not because she told you, but because you believed it? In this episode, Stephanie breaks down why self-attraction is the foundation of how you show up in your relationship and your sex life. In this episode, you'll…
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What sex coaching for men really looks like (Kyle's story) #420
If you're a man who feels lost, insecure, or unsure of how to own your sexual confidence, this episode will hit home. My client, Kyle, came to coaching after a divorce, a career change, and a lifetime of quiet shame around sex. Kyle opens up about the uncomfortable but sexually freeing journey of...
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Don't Expect Desire If You've Stopped Being Desirable #419
Attraction doesn’t die because of time. It dies because of complacency. In this episode, we talk about the uncomfortable reality many men avoid: how comfort, routine, and a lack of self-leadership quietly erode sexual desire in long-term relationships. This isn’t about shaming men or blaming...
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The Mind-Body Disconnect Problem #418
In this episode, Stephanie lists the reasons why so many men feel disconnected from their sex lives and how her new app Ronan can help! Join the early access list for Ronan here. When you do, you'll get more info on the exact day it launches and the bonuses you get if you join in the first 3 days...
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Your Sex Life Changes When You Do #416
You’re not born confident. You build confidence by stepping into the man you want to be, even when it feels unknown or uncomfortable. In this solo episode, Stephanie breaks down why who you’re being: in your relationship, your sex life, and your mindset - is everything. ✅ You’re not your past. ✅...
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How a Secure Couple Talks About Sex: A Real Conversation With My Boyfriend #415
It feels a little vulnerable getting my boyfriend on the mic with me to talk a bit openly together for strangers lol. I also wondered if this episode would come across like I was bragging about my relationship being in a good place when I know so many people struggle, or if it would be too boring...
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The Truth About Masturbation, Porn, and Your Sexual Confidence #414
What happens when you stop masturbating to porn and start using your mind and body for pleasure instead? In this episode of What I Love About Sex, Stephanie explains how mindful masturbation helps men rebuild confidence, overcome sexual performance issues, and reconnect to real pleasure, both…
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Becoming Stronger Through Pain Episode #413
In this episode, Stephanie opens up about losing her dad and how that experience reshaped her understanding of emotional strength, healing, and resilience. Inspired by Alex Hormozi’s reflections on grief, she shares how pain can become a teacher and how growth doesn’t mean avoiding emotion, but...
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The One Question That Stops Fights and Builds Trust Episode #412
If you want to stop recycling the same arguments in your relationship—and actually get somewhere—you need one simple question in your back pocket. In this episode, I explain why this question is the ultimate tool for diffusing conflict, deepening connection, and becoming the kind of man who leads...
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Why You’re Missing Her Progress in the Bedroom (and How to See It Clearly) Episode #411
A lot of men get frustrated thinking their partner isn’t making enough effort in the bedroom. But what if she is—and you’re just not seeing it? In this episode, I break down why women’s progress often looks slower or smaller than what you expect, how those “invisible wins” actually matter, and…
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Silence isn't strength (speak up with courage) Episode #410
Too many men believe staying silent in moments of conflict makes them strong. In reality, silence creates distance, erodes respect, and weakens your identity. In this episode, I share why real strength is found in speaking up with calm courage and curiosity, even in the small, everyday moments. ✅...
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PE, Pleasure & Candid Sex & Relationship Insights with Promescent CEO Jeff Abraham / Episode # 409
Click here to shop Promescent and automatically receive 15% OFF your first Delay Spray purchase. What starts as a conversation about premature ejaculation turns into a lively, no-filter discussion on sex, relationships, and confidence with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent. We cover the real stigma...
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Do You Have a System for Handling Conflict in Your Relationship? / Episode #408
When arguments spiral into emotional chaos, most couples default to blame, defensiveness… or makeup sex with no resolution. But if you’re serious about leading your relationship with clarity and strength, you need a system. In this episode, Stephanie breaks down a 3-step framework that turns…
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Hug the Porcupine: How to Lead with Love When She’s Upset / Episode #407
Ever feel like your partner’s mood completely hijacks yours? In this episode, Stephanie breaks down the mindset shift that will change how you show up in tense moments and how to become the emotionally grounded man your partner needs when conflict arises. ✅ Top Takeaway #1: Matching her negative...
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What If Masturbation Was Never the Problem? / Episode #406
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel good. But what if your urge to cut out masturbation completely was just a way of avoiding discipline, not building it? In this episode, I discuss the psychological power behind the NoFap movement, why it’s largely a placebo, and how to shift your mindset...
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7 Ways to Make Her Feel Emotionally Safe (and Sexually Open Up) / Episode #409
Do you know what it really means to make a woman feel emotionally safe—and why it’s the foundation for her opening up sexually? In this episode of What I Love About Sex, I break down 7 powerful actions you can take to build trust, connection, and desire in your relationship. You’ll learn how to…
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#405 From Sexual Reactivity to Sexual Power
In this episode, Stephanie dives into how your automatic urge to release sexual tension may be quietly undermining your power, not building it. If you're used to chasing release through porn, masturbation, or even sex itself just to “feel okay,” you're stuck in a loop of dependency, not control....
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#404 3 Sex Myths That Are Destroying Good Relationships
There are a few beliefs around sex that seem harmless, but are quietly eroding your connection, confidence, and communication in the bedroom. In this episode, I break down the 3 most common myths I hear from men—and why believing them will leave even high-quality couples feeling confused…
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#403 Sex 3x a Week Starts With This One Leadership Shift
In this episode of What I Love About Sex, I'm breaking down exactly how one of my private clients went from disconnected and frustrated to having deeply connected, fulfilling sex three times a week, with the same woman he was barely connecting with once a month. We didn’t change his wife—we…
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#402 She’s Not Feeling Loved? It’s Not What You Say—It’s How
Flat words kill connection. In this episode, I break down a game-changing insight most men overlook: how your tone, delivery, and emotional presence transform your words from “meh” to magnetic. You might be saying all the right things, but she’s not feeling them. ✅ Tone Is Everything: Saying "you...
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#401 Why Every Man Should Buy His Woman a Vibrator
This episode is going to challenge your assumptions—and possibly transform your sex life. If you're the kind of man who values real connection and takes pride in your partner’s pleasure, this one’s for you. Top Takeaways: ✅ Vibrators are not your competition—they’re your secret weapon. When a…
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#400 The Real Reason You’re Finishing Too Fast (And How to Take Control)
If you finish too quickly during sex, you’ve likely tried it all—Kegels, squeeze techniques, delay sprays. But what if the real key to lasting longer is restructuring your routine? In this episode, Stephanie dives deep into a powerful, often-overlooked strategy that’s been a game-changer for her...
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#399 Q&A: Cream Pies, Gag Reflexes, Erectile Confidence & More
In this no-holds-barred Q&A, we will answer your most honest, awkward, and important sex questions—covering everything from ejaculation issues to prostate play, threesomes, and navigating insecurity in the bedroom. Whether you're looking to boost confidence, improve connection, or get real…
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About this show
What I Love About Sex is the podcast for successful men who overthink sex. If you're confident everywhere else but your sex life, this show is especially for you.Hosted by clinical sexologist and men's sex coach Stephanie Ganowski, each episode gives you practical, judgment-free tools to get out of your head, feel confident with her, and ask for what you want.Topics include: how to last longer in bed, premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and staying hard, delayed ejaculation, performance anxiety, overthinking during sex, low sex drive and mismatched desire in marriage, how to initiate sex, how to talk to your wife or girlfriend about sex, porn and masturbation, and sexual confidence for men.New episodes every week.Free guide, Overthinking Sex?: https://stephanie-ganowski-coaching.kit.com/839b5aea82Apply for 1:1 coaching: stephanieganowski.com/coaching
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