Who Are You, Really?

The personality you’re carrying around and displaying to the general public is only a set of defenses you’ve gradually constructed through your experience of growing up. The way you navigated your childhood and dealt with the needs, pressures and emotions in yourself and others, crafted the set of apparel you wear. Some are sporting a 90 pound suit of armor, and others a sleek pair of stretchy pants à la luchador. Underneath the outfit you’ve manufactured, is your essential self. The word essence is defined as the intrinsic nature or indispensable quality of something, that determines its character. I believe that your essential nature is immortal and divine. I also believe that the more you get in touch with it, the sweeter your marriage will become. Why? Because when you know who you truly are, you don’t get triggered by other people’s misevaluations of you. You just know they're inaccurate. And when you know who you are, you are more likely to have compassion for your blundering, armor wearing husband, than annoyance or disgust. As the late, great Wayne Dyer put it, “As you awaken to your divine nature, you’ll begin to appreciate beauty in everything you see, touch and experience.” So how do you get in touch with it? Many, many ways, but there’s one beautiful exercise in particular I want to share. Learn more: bethechangeinyourmarriage.onuniverse.com Reference: UNDEFENDED LOVE by Jett Psaris, PH.D & Marlena Lyons, PH.D This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bethechangeinyourmarriage.substack.com