Why do other guys have higher conversion rates than I?

Main blog - https://mikemehlman.net/ Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/mikemehlman Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mike_mehlman/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikemehlman.net I took a look at the comments on the last YouTube video and one seemed to get a little attention, which was asking about why some guys might have higher conversion rates compared to other guys. In other words, "Why am I going 1 for 15 on my approaches whereas another guy goes 3 for 15?" This converges back on my talking point in that video about guys fixating on what they're "doing wrong" in their approaches. The worst thing you can do is compare yourself to other guys as though what they're doing somehow relates to you in any way. If you approach enough, you'll see that variation in micro (daily) conversion rates is normal, where you can go, e.g., 2 for 40 on a Tuesday, whereas the very next day you could go 7 for 25. Never worry about your exact numbers on a given day. Fluctuation is normal. You need many data points to see that. There was a day a few months back I had posted about to the WhatsApp group where I went I believe 0 for 70 or 80, before finally breaking through that day. Yet again, I also had a day this year where as part of an acquisition cluster I picked up ~12/16. These things balance out over the macro. I've also discussed before how the more audacious and experienced the male is, the *lower,* not higher, his percentages. This is because if the male is adequately forward and bold, the more, not less, likely he is to get rejected. If you say hi to a girl shopping with her mom, or while she's walking through an alleyway at 8pm, you're more likely to get rejected by default vs if you're only saying hi to girls on a sunny street in the afternoon. So a guy who takes rejections from being bold of course will have lower conversion rates. One of the easy ways to gauge a male's experience level is by his view on "high conversion rates." If he views high conversion as a good thing, it says he doesn't approach enough, because the more the male approaches, the bolder he becomes, and the more he gets rejected and sees it as the most likely outcome from any approach. However let's say we "hold boldness constant," where you take two guys of very different experience levels and have them approach only girls walking through a busy station. Will their conversion rates be different? Well firstly, and as I just said above, you can never analyze micro conversion rates because approach is just a numbers game and one can have low conversions on one day but high the next day. So the exact numbers can't be analyzed from a single day alone. But let's say we compare two guys over the course of an entire month, where they both theoretically approach in the same exact venue, with "boldness held constant"; the guy with higher macro approach volume, who is more audacious and forward, will certainly have higher conversion rates. Why? Because he will be much more likely to push through interactions where the girl doesn't seem receptive, only for her to exchange anyway. The more novice male will think that receptive girls must be smiley and enthusiastic, without realizing that he's ejecting himself prematurely from many interactions because he erroneously believes a girl's receptiveness can be gauged by how she appears on the surface. Continue reading: https://mikemehlman.net/