Why do People view porn before bed?

Why do I view porn before bed?If you are listening to this podcast, you are probably like everyone else on the planet and have chosen to do something that feels good right now at the expense of sleep.  I know I’ve done it.  Whether it is watching one more episode of that binge-able new tv show until you look over and its 4 am or knowing you are so tired but you just keep scrolling social or crawling into bed, feeling ready to sleep then, your mind offers you that “you’re alone” and “you might as well get away for a bit.” These are all real-life examples from my life, Darcy’s life, and the lives of my clients.   And if you are human, as imagine there is an example like this in your life that makes you wonder, “Why did I choose that instead of sleep?” For many of my clients, the hour before bed is a regular time when they choose pornography.  Today we’re going to look at why that may be and give you some really clear, actionable tools to put you in a position to make the decisions that meet your values when confronted with the urge to view porn before bed.  It can feel easier short termIt’s easier to do than quieting our mind It’s easier than laying there restless It’s easier than tossing and turning It’s easier than transitioning to the next thing It can be engagingCuriosity is probably one of the key reasons our brain engages us in pornography viewing.  What does this person look like nude?  Who is this person?  How can I see more of this person?   Problem-solving is one of the most powerful things our brain does.  When it comes to viewing porn or binging screens late at night, the problem solving feedback here is twofold.  First, it is solving for anxiety by avoiding it.  Second, it is solving for our desire to know as much as we can. Learning is an outgrowth of curiosity and problem solving and our brain feels justified in learning everything it can about the world around it.      It can feel greatDopamine,  Arousal Escape from responsibility It has been shown to help sleep quality A study reported that 65% of participants who had an orgasm before going to bed reported better sleep quality.  in order to attain high-quality sleep, our bodies should be able to enter a state of relaxation and calmness. Cortisol is a stress hormone that prevents that. It’s often associated with our body’s fight or flight response, making our bodies feel more alert and restless. Fortunately, research shows that masturbation and sexual intercourse inhibit this stress-inducing hormone's production. Cortisol is also often associated with a slew of health problems, from high blood pressure and fatigue to decreased bone density, so it’s always ideal to have a low count of cortisol in your body. (https://primemensmedical.com/blog/does-masturbating-make-you-tired/#:~:text=But%20here%20comes%20the%20kicker,bed%20reported%20better%20sleep%20quality (https://primemensmedical.com/blog/does-masturbating-make-you-tired/#:~:text=But%20here%20comes%20the%20kicker,bed%20reported%20better%20sleep%20quality)) I’ll link to that information in the notes.  I want to be clear, I’m not advocating viewing pornography and masturbation in order to improve your sleep.  What I’m offering is an understanding of why this habit may have formed and why you may be engaging in it as you do fall asleep.  This is about realizing that you might be using orgasms to manage stress and cortisol levels. Fortunately, these are not the only ways to manage your stress, cortisol, or sleep patterns.  And just knowing what you are facing gives you a lot of power to make changes and change patterns. That’s why we have the membership, so you can figure out what is happening and resolve it, even if you can’t see it yourself at first. I know that for me, there were many times that I lay awake at night, and...