Why does my partner pull away the closer I get?

What if your partner's withdrawal isn't a refusal of closeness? What if it's the only way their system knows to stay intact? This episode maps the pursue-withdraw cycle from both sides: one person reaches, the other steps back, and the harder you try, the faster they retreat. It's not rejection. It's two different needs colliding on the same spectrum. The question isn't how to chase harder. It's how to stop chasing and start locating where you both actually stand.Where We Are is a podcast about orientation, not diagnosis.Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, psychotherapist and founder of Human(s)e, a framework for locating where you are across the five spaces of a life: SELF, SOMA, MAP, MESH, and IDEA.If something in this episode landed, you can go deeper at humanse.co, where a free orientation tool helps you map where you actually stand. For weekly reflections and new episode notes, the newsletter lives at SubstackFollow along on InstagramNew episodes every other week.Because life happens in the space between.