Why Encouragement Backfires: Understanding Freeze Response in Girls' Mental Health

Send us Fan Mail If your daughter often shuts down when you offer encouragement, withdraws when things get difficult, or loses motivation under pressure, this episode is essential listening for you. I explore the ins and outs of girls' mental health and the freeze response that can cause teenage behaviour to seem like defiance or laziness. Discover why the common phrase "You've got this" can sometimes deepen her shutdown and what the freeze response feels like within her body and mind. I discuss how overwhelm affects her confidence and self-belief, why avoidance is often a form of protection rather than rebellion, and most importantly, how to rebuild her confidence through parenting support that emphasizes safety and patience. This episode provides a nervous-system-led reframe designed to strengthen the mother-daughter relationship without pressure, helping you understand the behavioural messages your daughter is sending. By tuning in, you'll learn how to support your girl's mental health and foster growth with empathy and insight, paving the way for a stronger, more connected relationship. And listen, if you’re sitting there thinking “I need more than this podcast episode”, I’m running a live webinar tonight - 19th February at 7pm GMT. It’s free. It’s 45 minutes. And I’m going to teach you exactly what freeze looks like, why we miss it, and what actually helps. You’ll also get to connect with other mums who are in the exact same place. So if you want in, grab your spot here. Spaces are limited because I want to keep it interactive, so if you’re thinking about it, just register now. If you’re listening to this thinking, “that’s me,” I’ve got something for you. It’s called Connect the Dots. It’s a really simple guide to help you slow down, look at what you’re actually seeing, and then zoom out and consider what else might be going on for your daughter. You can grab it for free here. Don’t forget to subscribe so you’re the first to get new episodes, and leave me a review - it helps other mums find the podcast too. Follow me on instagram or LinkedIn Let me know how you found this episode. See you next time! 💛