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EPISODE · Aug 20, 2026 · 48 MIN

Why Having a Timeline for Love Can Keep You From Finding It

from Seeing Other People

Isabelle Surielow, PhD candidate, matchmaker, and relationship consultant, joins the podcast to unpack what it really means to find love — and why sometimes the search for a relationship is actually a search for ourselves. We talk about dating with intention, why knowing what you want matters, the difference between standards and preferences, and how focusing on how you want to feel in a relationship can completely change the way you approach dating. We also get into the idea of “spark” vs. stability, what we can learn from relationships that don’t work out, why you shouldn’t sacrifice your peace for the wrong relationship, the pressure to meet marriage and relationship timelines, and whether there really is such a thing as a soulmate. Plus, Isabelle shares some seriously rom-com-worthy stories about meeting people through synchronicity, why you can’t force love, and how staying open to the unexpected might be the best dating strategy of all. Find Isabelle: @izzysurielowALL links here (submit a Q, pitch yourself to the pod, dating coaching & more)Head to LolaBlankets.com and use code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE to get 40% OFF your order. Stock up on the best elevated essentials + get free shipping & 365 day returns at Quince.com/seeingotherpeople Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLEThe best deals go fast on Whatnot, so don’t wait. Download Whatnot today and get freeshipping on your first order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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