Why Having Kids Kills Her Sex Drive — And What You Can Do About It

Nobody warns you about this one. You get the "your life is about to change" congratulations after a pregnancy announcement — but nobody tells you exactly what that change means for your sex life. Once kids enter the marriage, for a lot of men, his sex life leaves. And it's usually not on purpose. In this episode I break down the real biology behind it — the testosterone gap that already puts her libido behind yours before kids even show up, then what pregnancy hormones, breastfeeding, and prolactin do to shut the whole system down. I also get into why libido and desire are not the same thing, why the marital bed matters more than people think, what "touched out" actually means, and how her identity shift from wife to mom can quietly bury the woman you married. But this isn't a free pass for either of you. I lay out what you owe her during this season — and what she owes you, including the six-month-to-a-year window where hormones are a legitimate explanation... and what it means if you're still sexless well past that point. If you're in a marriage where the kids became the built-in excuse, this one's for you. 🏡 JOIN MONICA'S COMMUNITY 👉 https://www.skool.com/modernmarriagewithmonica/about?ref=ef239ca470a34e648243770616f65c73 Inside the community you get: ✅ Early access to videos ✅ Free twice-monthly group coaching calls ✅ Direct access to ask Monica questions ✅ Podcast notes ✅ Support from a community ranging from novice to expert relationship experience 📞 WORK WITH MONICA Interested in 1-on-1 coaching? Book a call today: 👉 calendly.com/monicaalmaguer Want to fast-track your results? Check out the course: 👉 https://www.smokinghotmarriage.com/6799b46c Have a question? Email: 📩 [email protected] 📱 FOLLOW MONICA Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/modernmarriagewithmonica Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/MonicaAlmaguerPodcast X / Twitter → https://x.com/MonicaMAlmaguer Spotify Podcast → https://open.spotify.com/show/3U91DRFsdIsReiou3hMA26 All Links → https://linktr.ee/Monica.Almaguer --- #deadbedroom #sexlessmarriage #lowlibido #marriageadvice #kidsandmarriage #ModernMarriageWithMonica #KeepHerNaked