Why Intimacy Feels Different After 40

In this episode, I speak with Elana Auerbach, author of The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark, about intimacy, desire, shame, body confidence, communication, and reconnecting with yourself in midlife.Elana shares how a simple weekly practice helped transform her marriage after years of frustration, resentment, and emotional distance. But this conversation goes far beyond physical intimacy. It is about learning what you want, understanding how desire can change, feeling more comfortable in your body, and giving yourself permission to stop disappearing from your own life.Elana and I also discuss spontaneous desire, responsive desire, body confidence after 40, self-love, and how couples can begin honest conversations when intimacy has changed.Please note: This episode includes mature topics around intimacy, pleasure, and relationships and may not be suitable for younger listeners.Music:Epidemic SoundCall to Action:If this conversation helped you, please like, share, subscribe, and come back next week for another episode created just for you.Until then, keep dreaming big, take care of yourself, and remember you are beautiful, strong, and capable of creating the best version of yourself. 📕 Resources: https://createthebestme.com/ep172https://surethingexperiment.com/ Related Episode:🎧 Listen to this episode next:https://www.buzzsprout.com/1949561/episodes/18377811  #IntimacyAfter40 #MidlifeWomen #CreateTheBestMe #WomenOver40 #WomenOver50 #MidlifeRelationships #DesireAfter40 #BodyConfidence #SelfLoveAfter40 #MarriageConnection #ResponsiveDesire #ElanaAuerbach #TheSureThing📨 Newsletter:https://createthebestme.com/newsletter/ 👀 Connect With Me:Website: https://createthebestme.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/createthebestmeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/carmenhecox/TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@carmenhecoxYouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@createthebestmeLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carmen-hecox 📽️ Video Request:https://forms.office.com/r/LvLV1AsBfv