why is the gay community sometimes a bit sh*t?

In this episode, I explore the complicated reality of feeling like an outsider within the gay community, even after coming out. From the unspoken pressure to look, act, and perform a certain way, to the fragility of gay friendships and the loneliness that can exist in the middle of a packed nightclub, I unpack why belonging can feel so elusive. Drawing on psychological frameworks like the Minority Stress Model and the concept of the "wounded child," I examine how early shame, identity-eroding comparison, and validation-seeking behaviours shape our adult relationships and sense of self. This is an honest take on loving a community while also being frankt about the ways it can fall short, and a reminder that you're far from alone in feeling like you don't quite fit in.Want to go deeper? The Hey Gay Boy Substack is where I explore all of this in long form, with thousands of subscribers already in the community. Find it at jameswallis0.substack.comCome and say hello on Instagram @james_wallis and TikTok @jameswallis_If you'd like to support the podcast, you can buy me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/jameswallis.Everything else is at linktr.ee/jameswallis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.