Why "Just Be Yourself" Is Terrible Advice: The Enneagram, Authenticity, and Finding Yourself

Have you ever been told to "just be yourself" and wondered what that even means? In this episode, Sandy explores the difference between the True Self and the False Self through the lens of the Enneagram. We look at how personality patterns develop, why authenticity can feel so difficult, and how each of the nine Enneagram types can lose touch with their deeper essence. Because before we can *be* ourselves, we have to know who that self actually is. In this episode: • What the True Self and False Self really mean • Why "just be yourself" isn't always helpful advice • How the Enneagram reveals the difference between personality and essence • The unique "static" and "signal" of all 9 Enneagram types • What authenticity actually feels like • How presence helps us reconnect with who we really are • Why personal growth is more about uncovering than fixing This episode draws on teachings from Richard Rohr, Mory Fontanez, and the Enneagram tradition. If you've ever felt disconnected from yourself, this episode offers a different way of understanding who you really are. ___ Learn more about Enneagram Typing Interviews here:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/typinginterview Podcast Ep #1 - Start Here: Coaching, the Enneagram, and Your Shade of Blue:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149050344 Podcast Ep - Stances:  Why You Withdraw, Talk Too Much,  or Bulldoze Peoplehttps://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149067197 Richard Rohr - Immortal Diamond (book):https://amzn.to/4dSQv1S Mory Fontanez - Higher Self: Reclaiming the Power of Your Intuition (book):https://amzn.to/4uornoy ___ Beyond the Type episode on True Self/False Self:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149215312 ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide: https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication ___ 🔹Hi! I'm Sandy, Professional Certified Coach (ICF-PCC), National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC), and self-proclaimed Enneagram nerd.🤓🔹I’m a holistic life and leadership coach (some clients call me a "people whisperer"), and I'm dedicated to helping you understand yourself and others more deeply so you can live with confidence, clarity, and compassion.🔹I’m also a mentor coach and love helping brand-new coaches with their coaching skills.🔹 My coaching philosophy:  You don't need to be fixed, you need to be found. 🏳️‍🌈 Proud to support LGBTQ+ and BIPOC communities 🏳️‍🌈 ___Enneagram, true self, false self, authenticity, self-discovery, self-awareness, personal growth, identity, intuition, Richard Rohr, Mory Fontanez, Enneagram types, personality patterns, ego, essence, higher self, finding yourself, emotional growth, spiritual growth, coaching, mindfulness, presence, authentic living.