Beyond the Type: An Enneagram-Inspired Podcast about Being Human.

Have you ever realized you're doing a job you never actually applied for? Maybe you're the one who keeps the peace, fixes what's wrong, takes care of everyone, stays prepared, or makes sure everything gets done.  In this Enneagram episode, Sandy looks at the nine types as different "jobs," the patterns each of us can fall into without even realizing it. This episode explores: The invisible job each Enneagram type can take on, and what it's really trying to get, avoid, or protect us from What these patterns can cost us when they run on autopilot A reflection question for each type to help you notice your own pattern in real time A simple process for catching yourself in these patterns, and what support looks like to help you How to start choosing your patterns on purpose instead of running them by default Your Enneagram type doesn't have to run your life. The more clearly you can see the pattern, the more choice you have about what happens next.___ Learn more about Enneagram typing interviews here:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/typinginterview___ Enneagram, self-trust, Enneagram types, personality patterns, personal development, Enneagram typing interview, Enneagram test mistakes, mistyping, self-abandonment, boundaries, people-pleasing, autopilot behavior, empowered decision-making, reflective questions, finding your voice, coaching, ICF certified coach, NBC-HWC health and wellness coach, Sandy Swanson, Beyond the Type podcast, Enneagram Type 1, Enneagram Type 2, Enneagram Type 3, Enneagram Type 4, Enneagram Type 5, Enneagram Type 6, Enneagram Type 7, Enneagram Type 8, Enneagram Type 9, nine Enneagram types, core patterns, personal growth, life coaching, mentor coaching  

You don't have to fix everything you're feeling. You just have to stop treating it like a problem. Have you ever stood in a vet's office doing math on whether you can afford this, while somewhere in the back of your mind you're also thinking about the moving boxes, the email you've been avoiding, and the bill that showed up out of nowhere? None of it is catastrophic on its own. All of it, at once, can feel like your whole life has become something you're failing to solve. In this episode, Sandy explores three ways we tend to relate to overwhelm: resistance, attachment, and presence. She unpacks the difference between saying "I am anxious" and "I'm experiencing anxiety," and why that small language shift creates real space between who you are and what you're moving through. Sandy also touches on how even relentless positive reframing (a pattern common in Enneagram Type 7 energy) can be its own form of resistance - it's just wearing a nicer outfit. In this episode: Why a pile-up of small stressors can feel like one giant, unsolvable problem The difference between resisting an experience and simply having one How attaching to a story ("I'm broke," "I'm unlucky," "I'm behind") makes it harder to let go of, even when you don't like it Why relentless positivity can be its own form of resistance A simple language shift that creates space between you and what you're experiencing If you've ever felt like everything was happening at once and had no idea where to even start, this episode offers a different question to ask instead of "how do I fix this." ___ Connect with me at SwansonCoaching.com ___ feeling overwhelmed, how to stop feeling overwhelmed, overwhelmed by everything, how to deal with everything at once, why does everything feel like too much, overwhelm and anxiety, nervous system overwhelm, coping with stress, letting go of control, presence and mindfulness, emotional resistance, this too shall pass, self-trust, Enneagram Type 7, personal development podcast, life coach podcast, holistic coaching, emotional language, nonattachment, Beyond the Type, Sandy Swanson, SwansonCoaching

Why good coaching isn't about giving advice or fixing you. A lot of people think coaching is about getting advice, setting goals, or having someone hold you accountable. While those things can be part of the process, real coaching goes much deeper. In this episode, Sandy explains what coaching looks like from the inside. She talks about what happens during a coaching session, why she doesn't spend time telling clients what they should do, how coaching differs from therapy and from talking with a good friend, and why self-awareness is often the starting point for lasting change. You'll also hear why Sandy describes her coaching as holistic, how she use the Enneagram as a tool for understanding patterns rather than labeling people, and what makes coaching such a powerful space for reconnecting with your own voice. In this episode, you'll learn: What really happens during a coaching session Why coaching isn't about giving advice How coaching differs from therapy and from talking with a friend What traits the most successful clients share  Sandy's favorite tools she uses in her client sessions Whether you're thinking about hiring a coach, you're simply curious about the process, or you've wondered what all the fuss is about, this conversation gives you a clearer picture of what coaching really is, and whether it might be the right next step for you. If you'd like to learn more about working with me, visit swansoncoaching.com and click the "Work With Me" button. __what is life coaching, leadership coaching, holistic coaching, communication coaching, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, personal growth, the Enneagram, coaching vs. therapy, coaching vs. counseling, coaching questions, decision-making, confidence, self-trust, mindset, behavior change, leadership development, relationships.

Three practices to quiet your mind and build self-trust. Have you ever tried to think your way out of something that was never actually solvable? Maybe it's when a coworker is annoyed with you, or whether an email landed the way you meant it to, or how a future conversation is going to go..? In part two of this two-part series on overthinking, Sandy picks up where part one left off.  The first episode was about understanding why we overthink; this one is about what to actually do about it. Using a story about driving home on a dark back road (and the two hundred feet of visibility her headlights actually gave her), Sandy walks through three practices for interrupting an overthinking loop when it starts. She borrows a concept from Designing Your Life author Dave Evans to help listeners tell the difference between a solvable problem and a "gravity problem," and introduces a simple way to shrink an overwhelming decision down to its smallest next step. Sandy also explores the connection between the Enneagram's Head, Heart, and Body Centers of Intelligence, and why some emotions aren't asking to be solved at all, but simply acknowledged and felt. She also gets honest about what happens when none of it works, and why sometimes what's underneath the overthinking isn't fear at all, but grief asking to be felt instead of solved. In this episode: Why overthinking often fixates on things outside your control, and what to ask instead A simple way to shrink an overwhelming decision into its smallest next step The role of the Head, Heart, and Body Centers in keeping an overthinking loop going A grounding practice for when logic alone won't calm an overactive mind Why courage and self-trust are built gradually, one small practice at a time If you listened to part one and found yourself thinking "okay, now what do I actually do about overthinking," this episode is for you. ___ Connect with me at SwansonCoaching.com   Previous episode: Why Do I Overthink Everything?https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149233557   ___ overthinking, how to stop overthinking, quiet an overthinking mind, rumination, worry, self-trust, courage, fear, Designing Your Life, Dave Evans, gravity problem, Enneagram, Enneagram Head Center, Enneagram Body Center, Centers of Intelligence, personal development podcast, life coach podcast, leadership coach, emotional reactivity, nervous system, grounding, grief, self-awareness, holistic coaching, mental spirals, decision making, Beyond the Type, Sandy Swanson, SwansonCoaching

Fear, self-doubt, and why your mind keeps searching for certainty. Do you replay conversations long after they're over? Second-guess emails you've already sent? Lie awake at night wondering if you made the right decision? If so, you're not alone. In this episode of Beyond the Type, Sandy Swanson explores one of the most common things she hears from coaching clients: "I overthink everything." She unpacks why overthinking isn't a personality trait or a sign that something is wrong with you, the difference between rumination and worry, why the Head Center is constantly searching for certainty, and why more thinking rarely brings the peace we're looking for. You'll also learn why fear disguises itself as planning, researching, and "just thinking things through," and why building self-trust, not certainty, is what finally begins to quiet an overactive mind. In this episode: Why overthinking is a strategy, not a personality trait The difference between rumination and worry How fear fuels overthinking through the Head Center Why your mind keeps searching for certainty A simple question to ask yourself when your thoughts won't stop spinning If you've ever replayed a conversation, second-guessed a decision, or found yourself stuck in an endless loop of "what ifs," this episode is for you.___ Connect with me at SwansonCoaching.com Podcast:  How to Stop Taking Everything Personally (discussion of negativity bias):https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149231647 Podcast:  Enneagram Passionshttps://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149131772 ___overthinking, why do I overthink everything, how to stop overthinking, rumination, worry, negativity bias, fear, self-trust, self-doubt, decision fatigue, anxiety, Enneagram, Enneagram types, Head Center, Enneagram 5, Enneagram 6, Enneagram 7, personal development podcast, life coach podcast, leadership coach, emotional reactivity, nervous system, self-awareness, holistic coaching, mental spirals, Beyond the Type, Sandy Swanson, SwansonCoaching      

What your brain, your Enneagram type, and two simple practices can teach you.  Have you ever spent hours replaying a two-word email, wondering if someone is upset with you? Or convinced yourself that one awkward conversation meant you'd done something wrong? If you have, you're not alone. In this episode of Beyond the Type, Sandy Swanson explores one of the most common questions she hears in coaching sessions: why do I take everything so personally?  She unpacks why certain comments, emails, and interactions seem to lodge themselves in our minds while others pass right through, and why that has less to do with sensitivity and more to do with wiring. Using a story from a walk through nature (complete with sticky burdock burrs and a duck that inspired an unexpected lesson), you'll discover why negative experiences seem to "stick," how the stories we tell ourselves shape our relationships, and how the Enneagram influences the kinds of comments that affect each of us differently. You'll also learn two practical tools that can help you stop spiraling, create space between a situation and your interpretation of it, and train your brain to notice more of what's going right. In this episode: Why your brain is wired to notice criticism more than praise A simple practice for interrupting unhelpful thinking Why different Enneagram types take different things personally A daily habit that helps retrain your brain toward the positive How to become more like a duck... and less like a burdock burr If you've ever found yourself replaying conversations, overthinking emails, or worrying about what other people think of you, this episode is for you.___taking things personally, why do I take things personally, how to stop taking things personally, negativity bias, the story I'm making up, self-trust, Enneagram, Enneagram types, personal development podcast, life coach podcast, leadership coach, emotional reactivity, overthinking, rumination, gratitude practice, nervous system, boundaries, self-awareness, holistic coaching, Beyond the Type, Sandy Swanson, SwansonCoaching

Trust isn't built in one big moment. It's built in hundreds of small ones.Trust is the foundation of every relationship, whether it's with a partner, a friend, a client, or a coworker. And it rarely disappears in one big moment.More often, it erodes through small ones: the phone glanced at mid-conversation, the plan canceled one too many times, the reasoning that was never quite explained.Those moments add up, and they leave people wondering: Do you care about me? Do I understand your thinking? Can I count on you?In this episode, Sandy explores a powerful framework for understanding trust through the Enneagram's three Centers of Intelligence: heart, head, and gut.   She also shares: Personal stories A trust framework inspired by Harvard Business School professor Frances Frei Coaching examples for coaches to consider How each Enneagram type might unconsciously skip over trust Practical ways to strengthen trust through empathy, clear communication, and follow-through. Whether you're a coach, a leader, or simply someone who wants healthier relationships, this episode offers a practical way to recognize where trust starts to wobble and what to do about it. ___ Frances Frei's TED talk on trust:https://www.ted.com/talks/frances_frei_how_to_build_and_rebuild_trust Beyond the Type Episode on Enneagram Stances:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149067197   ___ Are you a coach looking for support?  Check out my new small-group mentor coaching program: Patterns, Presence, and the Enneagram. NBHWC approved for 9 CEs (ICF CCEs pending approval). Learn more here:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/coaches-enneagram ___trust, building trust, rebuilding trust, trust in relationships, how to trust again, trust issues, broken trust, trust and communication, trust in coaching, coaching trust, empathy, active listening, emotional intelligence, communication skills, healthy communication, relationship communication, workplace communication, leadership communication, integrity, follow through, accountability, Enneagram, Enneagram types, Enneagram centers of intelligence, heart center, head center, gut center, personal development, self awareness, relationship advice, healthy relationships, coaching skills, life coaching, leadership development, Frances Frei, three legged stool trust, communication framework, relational trust, workplace trust, trust at work.

Career Change, Divorce, Empty Nest, Retirement, and Other Life Transitions Life transitions come in many forms, but they often ask the same things of us: What do we take with us? What do we leave behind? What needs to be honored before we move forward?  In this episode, Sandy shares seven questions that she uses with coaching clients who are navigating major life changes. These aren't quick fixes or silver linings wrapped in motivational quotes. They're thoughtful questions designed to help you reflect, find closure, and step into your next chapter with intention. You'll explore: • What you want to carry forward • What no longer deserves a seat in the moving van • How to honor the past without getting stuck there • Which areas of well-being need your attention right now • What Sheila from accounting taught us about boundaries and letting go If you're going through a career transition, divorce, grief, an empty nest, retirement, a breakup, or any other major life change, this episode is for you. ___ Beyond the Type Episode on True Self/False Self:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149215312 ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication ___ Are you a coach looking for support?  Check out my new small-group mentor coaching program: Patterns, Presence, and the Enneagram. NBHWC approved for 9 CEs (ICF CCEs pending approval). Learn more here:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/coaches-enneagram ___ life transitions, career change, divorce, breaking up, empty nest syndrome, retirement, grief, personal growth, life coaching, emotional well-being, navigating change, starting over, new beginnings, midlife reinvention, letting go, personal growth, self-discovery, life coaching, Enneagram, identity loss, layoff, job loss, what to do when life changes, how to start over, navigating change, beginning again, life after divorce, empty nester, career transition, midlife women, holistic life coach, personal development, emotional wellness, self-awareness, beyond the type podcast, Sandy Swanson, Swanson Coaching

Why do so many people feel guilty when they slow down, even when their body and intuition are telling them to do exactly that?  If you've ever felt low-energy, nostalgic, or experienced "summer sadness" during the warmer months when everyone else seems to be thriving, this episode is for you. Sandy opens with a personal story about sitting alone in her car on her birthday, feeling forgotten and weepy, listening to the radio, and letting herself be sad for a while. And how, surprisingly, that felt exactly right. She also talks about crabs. No, not those kinds of crabs, yikes - the Cancer season kind of crabs. And what the symbolism of this time of year might have to say about why you've been feeling the way you've been feeling lately. Sandy also brings in the Enneagram, looking at how each type's stance relates to rest, productivity, guilt, and the cultural pressure to always be building, optimizing, or becoming the next version of yourself.  ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication Podcast Ep - Stances:  Why You Withdraw, Talk Too Much,  or Bulldoze Peoplehttps://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149067197___rest guilt, guilty for resting, why do I feel guilty when I'm not productive, summer sadness, summer blues, feeling low in summer, why do I feel sad in summer, summer depression, emotional exhaustion, burnout recovery, permission to rest, slowing down, nervous system regulation, productivity shame, Enneagram and rest, Enneagram personal growth, Enneagram burnout, Enneagram withdrawing types, self-compassion, inner critic, people pleasing and rest, hustle culture, beyond the type podcast, Sandy Swanson, SwansonCoaching, holistic life coaching, emotional intelligence, seasonal emotions, Cancer season, summer anxiety, leadership burnout, rest without guilt

  You've done the work. The therapy, the journaling, the coaching, maybe you've had a few real breakthroughs. And then summer rolls around. And so does the inevitable trip home to see your family, friends, and people from your past. And it feels like all of your hard work just goes right out the window. Why does this always happen??!? In this episode of Beyond the Type, Sandy answers that question, explores why outdated versions of ourselves seem to show up uninvited, and how our Enneagram type (and the types of the people we grew up with) shape that whole experience of "going home". In this episode: Why your nervous system doesn't read a calendar (and why that matters when you walk into your childhood home) How Enneagram Types 4, 5, and 9 relate differently to the past, and what that means for nostalgia What it's like growing up with (or being) a Type 1, Type 2, or Type 6 How big, future-facing energy (Types 3, 7, 8) shows up in family dynamics Three exercises to bring a little more awareness to your next visit home, and why naming things (your fears, your hopes, what "role" you playing when you were younger) is important Sandy also stresses the importance of compassion - both for your family and for yourself - and why it's important to remember to pack some compassion in your suitcase when you're getting ready for that trip home. ___ Beyond the Type Episode on True Self/False Self:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149215312 ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication ___ Enneagram, Enneagram types, Enneagram and family, family of origin, going home for the holidays, family triggers, family patterns, childhood patterns, personal growth, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, family dynamics, Enneagram type 1, Enneagram type 2, Enneagram type 6, Enneagram type 4, Enneagram type 5, Enneagram type 9, Enneagram type 3, Enneagram type 7, Enneagram type 8, holistic life coach, leadership coach, inner critic, people pleasing, family relationships, summer vacation, family gatherings, why do I regress around my family, nervous system regulation, self-compassion, communication skills, Beyond the Type podcast, Sandy Swanson  

If you've ever felt exhausted despite doing all the "right" things, stuck between who you were in January and who you are now, or quietly haunted by a feeling you keep pushing aside — this episode is for you. In this episode of Beyond the Type, holistic life and leadership coach Sandy Swanson invites you to do something radical: stop measuring your progress and start checking in with yourself. And June is an excellent time to do just that. Sandy offers three powerful self-reflection questions to help you assess where your energy has actually been going, where you've felt most like yourself (and where you haven't), and what's been quietly asking for your attention that you keep putting off. In this episode: Why midyear is the most underrated moment for honest self-reflection The difference between healthy adaptation and chronic self-abandonment How "longing" is information — not indulgence Consider this your permission slip to pull over, take stock, and stop dragging around goals that no longer fit — so you can travel a little lighter into the second half of the year. ___ Beyond the Type Episode on True Self/False Self:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149215312 ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication ___ June check-in, midyear check-in, self-reflection, personal growth, Enneagram, life coaching, women in transition, emotional wellness, nervous system, identity, life and leadership coach, Beyond the Type podcast, Sandy Swanson, holistic coaching, Type 2 Enneagram, Type 9 Enneagram, burnout, self-awareness, setting intentions, goal setting, midlife, career transition

Have you ever been told to "just be yourself" and wondered what that even means? In this episode, Sandy explores the difference between the True Self and the False Self through the lens of the Enneagram. We look at how personality patterns develop, why authenticity can feel so difficult, and how each of the nine Enneagram types can lose touch with their deeper essence. Because before we can *be* ourselves, we have to know who that self actually is. In this episode: • What the True Self and False Self really mean • Why "just be yourself" isn't always helpful advice • How the Enneagram reveals the difference between personality and essence • The unique "static" and "signal" of all 9 Enneagram types • What authenticity actually feels like • How presence helps us reconnect with who we really are • Why personal growth is more about uncovering than fixing This episode draws on teachings from Richard Rohr, Mory Fontanez, and the Enneagram tradition. If you've ever felt disconnected from yourself, this episode offers a different way of understanding who you really are. ___ Learn more about Enneagram Typing Interviews here:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/typinginterview Podcast Ep #1 - Start Here: Coaching, the Enneagram, and Your Shade of Blue:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149050344 Podcast Ep - Stances:  Why You Withdraw, Talk Too Much,  or Bulldoze Peoplehttps://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149067197 Richard Rohr - Immortal Diamond (book):https://amzn.to/4dSQv1S Mory Fontanez - Higher Self: Reclaiming the Power of Your Intuition (book):https://amzn.to/4uornoy ___ Beyond the Type episode on True Self/False Self:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149215312 ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide: https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication ___ 🔹Hi! I'm Sandy, Professional Certified Coach (ICF-PCC), National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC), and self-proclaimed Enneagram nerd.🤓🔹I’m a holistic life and leadership coach (some clients call me a "people whisperer"), and I'm dedicated to helping you understand yourself and others more deeply so you can live with confidence, clarity, and compassion.🔹I’m also a mentor coach and love helping brand-new coaches with their coaching skills.🔹 My coaching philosophy:  You don't need to be fixed, you need to be found. 🏳️‍🌈 Proud to support LGBTQ+ and BIPOC communities 🏳️‍🌈 ___Enneagram, true self, false self, authenticity, self-discovery, self-awareness, personal growth, identity, intuition, Richard Rohr, Mory Fontanez, Enneagram types, personality patterns, ego, essence, higher self, finding yourself, emotional growth, spiritual growth, coaching, mindfulness, presence, authentic living.

Feeling exhausted, reactive, emotionally flat, or constantly on edge? It may not be burnout. In this episode, Sandy explores the difference between burnout and nervous system overwhelm - and why so many people feel exhausted, reactive, anxious, emotionally flat, or “on edge” even when nothing catastrophic is happening. We'll cover: • The difference between burnout and nervous system dysregulation • Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn explained simply • How overwhelm shows up in each Enneagram type • Why productivity strategies don’t work when the body feels unsafe • 3 tools to help you navigate overwhelm and stress If you’ve been feeling emotionally exhausted, unusually reactive, disconnected, anxious, or unable to truly rest, this episode may help you better understand what your nervous system is really trying to communicate. Share this episode with someone you love who may be experiencing burnout. <3  ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication Learn more about my group coaching program, Communicate with Confidence through the Lens of the Enneagram:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/bettercommunication Episode on safety:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149114211 Yoga nidra meditation:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149101492   ___ burnout, nervous system regulation, chronic stress, anxiety, emotional exhaustion, overwhelm, Enneagram, fight or flight, people pleasing, stress response, nervous system dysregulation, emotional regulation, yoga nidra, workplace stress

Have you ever been surrounded by people and still felt completely, inexplicably lonely? That hollow, flat feeling has a name: relational hunger. And it's more common than you think. In this episode, Sandy explores the difference between being heard and being truly known, why so many of us are starving for real connection even when our calendars are full, and what's quietly getting in the way. You'll learn about the three Enneagram instincts (self-preservation, social, and sexual/one-to-one) and how each one shapes what you hunger for in relationships, as well as where your blind spots might be hiding. Sandy also shares why knowing your dominant instinct can help you stop showing up to the wrong table and wondering why you're still hungry. Plus: five practical, doable things you can try this week to start feeding that relational hunger -  especially if you're in your 30s, 40s, or 50s and the structures that used to create connection have mostly fallen away. In this episode: Why loneliness is not new, and what HAS changed What "relational hunger" is and how it disguises itself The three Enneagram instincts and how each one experiences loneliness differently A special look at Type 5 and why connection can be a real blind spot Five practical ways to build connection as an adult This one is for anyone who has ever driven home from a great party feeling more alone than when they arrived.  Share with someone who also might be feeling that "hunger"! ___ Learn more about Enneagram Typing Interviews here:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/typinginterview West Health-Gallup survey on mental health:https://news.gallup.com/poll/700079/mental-health-ratings-continue-worsen.aspx ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication Learn more about my group coaching program, Communicate with Confidence through the Lens of the Enneagram:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/bettercommunication ___ loneliness, feeling lonely with friends, feeling disconnected, how to make friends as an adult, how to meet people, sense of belonging, belonging vs fitting in, real connection, emotional connection, surface connection, Enneagram instincts, Enneagram subtypes, self-preservation instinct, social instinct, sexual instinct, one-to-one instinct, Enneagram Type 5, loneliness epidemic, mental health, personal growth, self-awareness, adult friendship, how to feel less lonely, holistic coaching, life coaching, Enneagram coaching, and Beyond the Type podcast.  

Do you reach for your phone without really deciding to? You're mid-scroll at 11pm, exhausted, and yet... you keep going. There's a reason for that - and it has nothing to do with willpower. In this episode of Beyond the Type, Holistic Life and Leadership Coach Sandy Swanson digs into why our phones have such a grip on us:  from the dopamine loop and the slot machine design of social media apps to the algorithm that's working around the clock to keep you engaged (whether that's good for you or not). Sandy also introduces a concept that might sound very familiar: revenge bedtime procrastination, the very real psychological pattern behind staying up until 2am on Instagram after a long, demanding day. You'll also hear how Enneagram Types 2 and 9 can be especially prone to this pattern - and what it might be pointing to underneath. Sandy wraps with three simple, practical tools to help you build a more intentional relationship with your phone; no digital detox app required. This episode is a follow-up to Sandy's earlier episode on boredom and phone use. Links below! In this episode: Why phone use is a design issue, not a character flaw The dopamine loop and intermittent reinforcement (aka: your phone is a slot machine) What the algorithm is actually doing - and why it matters for kids, especially Revenge bedtime procrastination: what it is and why it happens Three tools to help you use your phone with more intention ___ Beyond the Type podcast episode on phone use and boredom:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149101958 Beyond the Type yoga nidra meditation and body scan:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149101492 Jonathan Haidt's LinkedIn post on the experiment of setting up a TikTok or IG account as a 13 y/o girl:https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7452459664929099777/ Jonathan Haidt's book "The Anxious Generation":https://amzn.to/4tu8uQD ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication Learn more about my group coaching program, Communicate with Confidence through the Lens of the Enneagram:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/bettercommunication ___ phone addiction, social media addiction, doomscrolling, screen time, revenge bedtime procrastination, how to use your phone less, mindful technology, dopamine and social media, Instagram addiction, TikTok addiction, Jonathan Haidt, The Anxious Generation, intentional phone use, digital wellness, how to stop scrolling, nervous system and screen time, Enneagram and habits, Enneagram Type 2, Enneagram Type 9, phone habits, healthy relationship with technology, personal development podcast, self-awareness, Beyond the Type podcast, Sandy Swanson, SwansonCoaching.com ___ Some links may be affiliate links, which means I get a tiny percentage of the sale.  As always, I appreciate your support!

Most of us are walking around with a set of beliefs about ourselves that we never consciously chose. Beliefs that were handed to us early, filed away as facts, and have been quietly running the show ever since. In this episode, Sandy will be digging into limiting beliefs:  What they are, how they form, and why they're so stubborn. She'll draw on the work of therapist and author Marissa Peer, including Peer's idea that underneath almost every limiting belief is some version of the same core wound: I am not enough.  You'll walk away with: A clear understanding of how limiting beliefs form and why they're so hard to shake A look at how each Enneagram type tends to experience their own version of "I am not enough" A 3-step process you can do right now to start loosening the grip of any belief If you've ever talked yourself out of something before you even started, this one is for you. ___ Beyond the Type podcast episode on manifesting: https://www.swansoncoaching.com/podcasts/beyond-the-type-an-enneagram-inspired-podcast-about-being-human/episodes/2149057729  ___ About your host:🔹Hi! I'm Sandy, Professional Certified Coach (ICF-PCC), National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC), and self-proclaimed Enneagram nerd.🤓🔹I’m a holistic communication and relationship coach (some clients call me a "people whisperer"), and I'm dedicated to helping you understand yourself and others more deeply so you can communicate with confidence, clarity, and compassion.🔹I’m also a mentor coach and love helping brand-new coaches with their coaching skills.🔹 My coaching philosophy:  You don't need to be fixed, you need to be found. 🏳️‍🌈 Proud to support LGBTQ+ and BIPOC communities 🏳️‍🌈 ___ Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter here and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication Learn more about my group coaching program, Communicate with Confidence through the Lens of the Enneagram:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/bettercommunication___limiting beliefs, how to overcome limiting beliefs, I am not enough, Marissa Peer, I am enough, core wound, self-worth, how beliefs are formed, childhood beliefs, subconscious beliefs, beliefs that hold you back, how to break free from limiting beliefs, stuck in life, fear of failure, inner critic, negative self-talk, somatic exercises for mindset, body-based healing, nervous system and beliefs, self-sabotage, imposter syndrome, personal growth podcast, mindset work, how to rewrite your story, Enneagram and limiting beliefs, Enneagram types and self-worth, Enneagram inner critic, belief origin, where do limiting beliefs come from, how to change your mindset, future self visualization, emotional healing, self-awareness, confidence and self-worth, communication and self-belief, Enneagram, Beyond the Type podcast, coaching for limiting beliefs, somatic coaching, holistic coaching, personal development

Shed what no longer serves you to make space for what DOES. Spring is here, and with it comes an invitation that goes a lot deeper than cleaning out your closet. This short, reflective episode is about the kind of renewal that actually matters — the internal kind. I explore what it really means to "start again," why something has to die first, and what gets in the way (hint: it's probably yourself, e.g., your ego!). I touch on: What needs to "die" in our external world (intolerance, emotional immaturity, the things that divide us) What can be released internally (old behaviors, outdated ways of thinking, patterns that no longer serve you) The role of culture, family, and identity in keeping us stuck Why the ego will resist change, and why that's completely normal Why awareness has to come before anything can shift Before death, there needs to be awareness. And awareness is where everything begins. Whether you're celebrating Easter, Passover, the spring equinox, or just a random Tuesday in May, this one is for you.___ Mentioned in this episode: Easter and Death - Progressive Christianityhttps://progressivechristianity.org/resource/easter-and-death/  Stay in touch! Sign up for my newsletter and receive my 9 Ways to Communicate Better guide: https://www.swansoncoaching.com/communication Learn more about my group coaching program, Communicate with Confidence through the Lens of the Enneagram:https://www.swansoncoaching.com/bettercommunication