Why Listening Changes Hearts Faster Than Lecturing

Subscribe to get each episode delivered to your Inbox daily: https://bttb.org/subscribe2sft Welcome to the Spiritually Fit Today podcast. Today host Arnie Cole is joined by Laura Coppinger, and Matt Coppinger. In this special Christmas Eve episode, we explore the power of being present with our children and families, especially during the holidays. Drawing from John 1:14, "And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us," we discuss how God’s love moves toward us, and how our love should move toward our families—not just by lecturing or ruling over, but by being with them in meaningful ways. Laura and Matt share real-life stories from their journey as parents to both biological and adopted children, highlighting how presence, patience, and offering choices can turn conflict into connection. They offer practical tips for de-escalating tense moments, setting boundaries with love, and creating 10-minute habits that foster deeper relationships—like inviting kids to help in the kitchen or with household tasks, even when it takes longer. This episode challenges us to reflect on our own habits: Are we truly present with our loved ones, or are we distracted? How can we move toward those who are hardest to love, especially during the holidays? Take action with the 4 R’s: Read: John 1:14 – "And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us." Reflect: Consider how God’s presence with us models the way we should be present with our families. Are there moments when you lecture instead of listen? How can you offer choices and connection instead of control? Respond: Pray, "Father, thank you for coming so close to us. Teach me to lead like you—firm in truth, rich in mercy, and always present. Amen." Reveal: Show the truth of this passage by intentionally spending 10 minutes today with a family member or child—especially someone who is hard to reach. Listen to them, help with a task, or simply be present without distractions. For questions or to connect, email Arnie Cole at [email protected]. Keywords: Christian parenting, family relationships, presence over control, John 1:14, Christmas Eve, foster care, adoption, conflict resolution, parenting tips, Back to the Bible, Arnie Cole, Laura Coppinger, Matt Coppinger, Bible study, Christian family, holiday stress, parenting advice, faith and family, spiritual growth, practical faith, Christian podcast, soul care, parenting with God