Why Sobriety Can Make Dating Harder (and Sex Better) | with Phoebe Wilson

Think sober sex is boring? Think again. We’re unpacking what really changes (and what gets better) when intimacy isn’t fuelled by booze or drugs.In this episode, Paris sits down with Phoebe Wilson, founder of A Centred Mind and AOD lecturer, to dive straight into the messy, awkward, and surprisingly empowering realities of navigating relationships in sobriety.From first sober dates (and all the cringe that comes with them) to figuring out when to tell someone you’re in recovery, Paris and Phoebe unpack how getting sober changes intimacy, connection, and self-worth. They talk libido rollercoasters, grieving the “wild nights,” and how to start feeling safe and centred in your own skin again.Phoebe also shares her approach to coaching at A Centred Mind, blending science with spirituality to help people through relationships, transitions, and the challenges of building a new identity in recovery.What we cover:Why sex and intimacy feel so different in sobrietyThe awkwardness of early sober dating and how to handle itWhen (and how) to talk about being sober with someone newLibido spikes, crashes, and everything in betweenMourning the loss of “uninhibited” sex while moving forwardRebuilding sexual confidence and worthiness without substancesHow Phoebe blends science + spirituality in her coaching workA practical tip for feeling more grounded in intimacy early in recoveryIf you’ve ever wondered how to date, desire, or connect differently without substances, or just want to hear a real talk on sober intimacy, this one’s for you.Want to connect with Phoebe or learn more about A Centred Mind?Head to acentredmind.comThank you to our Production Freelancer:Video/Audio Editing: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Steve Dearden⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠— Australia Wide Directory of Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.myservices.org.au/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Western Australian AOD Services:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://wanada.org.au/greenbook/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Aus AOD Phone Line:National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline: 1800 250 015 Aus Phone Lines for Anxiety, Depression, Suicide Ideation:Lifeline: 13 11 14Suicide Call Back Services: 1300 659 467Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636Mind Spot: 1800 61 44 34Head to Health: 1800 595 212Mens Line: 1300 78 99 78Aus Phone Lines for First Nations: 13YARN: 13 92 76Thirrili: 1800 805 801Aus Phone Lines for LGBTQIA+ Community:QLife: 1800 184 527Aus Phone Lines for Children/Youth:Kids Helpline: 1800 55 1800Headspace: 1800 650 890—Follow The Podcast Here:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.shtsfcked.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/shtsfckedthepodcast/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/shtsfcked/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@UChakY4S8T_A1iXIDSzQ8D3g ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/paris-le-maistre-880761b5/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠