Why Tiny Things About Our Partners Drive Us Mad

Frequently the flashpoints in our relationships come not around large themes, but strangely and almost humiliatingly small issues, like crumbs near the breadboard. We shouldn’t feel bad; ‘small things’ are generally the carriers of very big ideas. We have to get better at seeing what is really at stake beneath our pettier struggles. Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/I639w Be more mindful, present and inspired. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/RjCKd FURTHER READING “Lovers who’ve been together awhile tend almost universally to get maddened by what look (on the surface) like certain absurdly small matters. An otherwise quite reasonable and decent person might admit to a range of acute sensitivities around some of their partner’s rather minor habits – and a tendency swiftly to lose their temper on encountering them: they press far too hard on the chopping board; they don’t put their seat belt on until after the car is started; in their handwriting ‘b’ and ‘h’ are practically indistinguishable; they squeeze the toothpaste tube the wrong way (pressing at the neck rather than the bottom); they use the word the word ‘tragic’ to mean ‘sad’; they leave drawers fractionally open; when they drink a glass of water they never drink it right down to the end but always tip out the last few drops into the kitchen sink...” You can read more on this here: https://goo.gl/JWub6V MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: https://goo.gl/NdGqUY Watch more films on RELATIONSHIPS in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLrelationships You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: https://www.youtube.com/timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: https://support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Ana Mouyis http://www.anamouyis.com/ https://vimeo.com/anamouyis #TheSchoolOfLife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices