Why we feel like we’re not reaching our potential (even when we are)

If you’ve ever felt like you were “built for more” despite having a stable, successful life, this episode is for you. We explore why high achievers so often feel mismatched with their own circumstances—and why that feeling isn’t really about accomplishment at all, but incongruence, the mismatch between our identity versus our lived reality.We'll break down five surprising reasons this sense of unmet potential shows up—from former gifted-kid expectations to perfectionistic wiring, counterfactual comparisons, hindsight perfectionism, and simple over-caution. Most importantly, we look at what actually helps: shifting toward alignment rather than more striving. Get full access to How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself at ellenhendriksen.substack.com/subscribe