Why Women Struggle to Ask for What They Want: Finding Your Voice in Love and Sex

SummaryIn this episode of the Burn the Rule Book podcast, Rachel Boyle discusses the phenomenon of perimenopause and its impact on women's relationships and behaviors, particularly the shift away from people pleasing. She explores how hormonal changes during this stage can lead to increased irritability and a decreased tolerance for traditional societal expectations. Rachel emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, effective communication, and embracing the changes that come with perimenopause as a path to empowerment and healthier relationships.Chapters00:00 Understanding Perimenopause and People Pleasing09:42 Navigating the Shift: From People Pleasing to Authenticity12:46 Tools for Healthy Communication and Boundaries17:28 Embracing Change: The Path to Empowerment19:06 BRB outro__ jun 20, 2025 001_audio_only studio.wavTakeaways• Perimenopause can change how women show up in relationships.• People pleasing is an unconscious survival strategy for many women.• Cultural expectations often pressure women to prioritize others' needs over their own.• Hormonal fluctuations during perimenopause can lead to mood swings and irritability.• Women often internalize societal norms that dictate their behavior.• The shift away from people pleasing can lead to personal empowerment.• Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.• Effective communication involves switching from complaints to requests.• Cherishing and appreciating partners fosters a supportive relationship environment.• Embracing the changes of perimenopause can lead to profound personal growth.Keywordsperimenopause, people pleasing, relationships, boundaries, assertiveness, hormonal changes, communication, empowerment, mental health, women's health