Why You Keep Having the Same Fight

Most couples assume the goal is to “resolve” conflict, but Dr. Tracy and Greg pull the thread on a different truth: 69% of relationship conflict is perpetual. The fight keeps repeating not because you’re broken, but because you’re two different people with different histories, nervous systems, and meanings attached to the same moment (yes, even something as small as boots in the hallway).Together, they break down three common kinds of ruptures and why the repair has to match the injury: daily attunement misses, perpetual problems, and deeper attachment injuries that keep reopening the same page in the relationship. The takeaway isn’t “never fight.” It’s learning what the conflict is really about, and practicing the kind of repair that rebuilds safety, closeness, and trust over time. 📎 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Understand what you need to repair in your relationship. 2 minutes. Your partner will know exactly what to say.  Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Is your partner defensive?  Download my FREE scripts to respond to a defensive partner. Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you.. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices