Why You Keep Sabotaging Your Relationships (And How to Stop!) | Self-Sabotage & Love with Minh-Thu Lam

In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah sits down with executive coach and self-sabotage expert Minh-Thu Lam from Higher Alignment Consulting to uncover the sneaky ways we sabotage our own happiness—especially in relationships. From unspoken needs and toxic patterns to the role of the nervous system in love, this deep and raw conversation reveals why we keep making the same mistakes and, more importantly, how to break free. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💥 Why We Self-Sabotage: Minh-Thu breaks down the subconscious patterns that keep us stuck, from childhood conditioning to societal programming. 🛑 Recognizing the Signs: Struggling with ghosting, repeating toxic relationship cycles, or pushing away healthy love? Here's how to identify self-sabotage in action. 💡 Healing Through Awareness: Learn how to stop reacting from fear, regulate your nervous system, and start making intentional choices in love and life. 🔄 Dating with Clarity: Sarah and Minh-Thu discuss how to set boundaries, voice your needs, and stop expecting partners to be mind readers. 🌱 Growth Over Comfort: Unlearning unhealthy patterns is uncomfortable—but it's the key to creating the deep, fulfilling relationships we actually want. 🔥 The Hard Truth: If you keep attracting the same type of partner, the common denominator is you—but that also means you have the power to change it. We get into:  00:00 Welcome to the Sex and Bacon Podcast 02:11 The Root Cause of Burnout 03:43 Understanding Self-Sabotage 04:46 Self-Sabotage in Relationships 06:57 Childhood Conditioning and Relationship Dynamics 18:05 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 26:49 Recognizing Self-Sabotaging Patterns 34:52 Recognizing Old Patterns and Moving Forward 35:06 The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with Positive Influences 35:34 The Role of Coaches and Therapists 37:03 Choosing the Right Coach 38:01 Self-Sabotage and Its Reflection on Self-Worth 39:51 The Importance of Prioritizing Wellbeing in Relationships 43:35 Tools to Overcome Self-Sabotage 46:17 Regulating Your Nervous System 53:04 The Value of Open Communication in Relationships 59:26 Taking Control of Your Life and Seeking Help Connect with Minh-Thu LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/higher-alignment-consulting/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555613204811 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higheralignmentconsulting/  https://higheralignmentconsulting.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]