Sex & Bacon

Why does passion fade in marriage, and what can you actually do about it? 💔 In this episode of the Sex & Bacon Podcast, host Sarah sits down with Dr. Diane Mueller, a leading sexologist, educator, and doctor, to break down why sex often dwindles in long-term relationships and how couples can reignite desire, intimacy, and connection. You'll learn: ✅ The difference between "normal" vs. "common" sex patterns in marriage ✅ How male vs. female arousal cycles really work (and why that matters) ✅ The role of hormones, stress, and habits in your sex drive ✅ Why communication is the missing link for most couples ✅ Practical tools to reignite intimacy and keep passion alive Dr. Mueller also shares free resources to help couples deepen intimacy: 👉 Take the Libido Quiz: https://mylibidodoc.com/libido-code/ 👉 Explore her Lube Guide: https://mylibidodoc.com/lube-guide/  Whether you're married, dating, or simply curious about sexual wellness, this conversation will give you real tools to understand desire, strengthen communication, and make sex better with time, not worse. #SexAndBaconPodcast #IntimacyTips #Sexologist #MarriageAdvice We get into:  00:00 Intro 00:30 Understanding Sexology and Its Importance 03:19 Common Issues in Long-Term Relationships 04:31 Distinguishing Between Normal and Common 05:09 The Impact of Testosterone Levels 07:14 Healthy Relationships and Sexual Frequency 11:06 The Female Arousal Cycle 17:14 Communication and Intimacy Tools 18:09 Anatomy and Pleasure Zones 20:58 Enhancing Intimacy with Vibrators 23:31 Addressing Low Sex Drive 26:23 Creating Bougie Sex Nights 27:30 The Connection Between Pleasure and Presence 28:23 Understanding Hormones and Feedback Loops 29:43 Reigniting Desire in Long-Term Relationships 31:55 Overcoming Awkwardness in Physical Intimacy 33:08 The Power of Dopamine in Relationships 35:02 Flirting and Building Anticipation 37:02 Adapting to Changes in Sexual Needs 39:26 The Importance of Communication in Intimacy 39:53 The Role of Lube and Safe Practices 45:24 Embracing Humor and Playfulness in Sex 47:27 Emotional Intimacy and Healing Through Touch 50:52 Final Thoughts and Resources for Couples Connect with Diane X: https://x.com/natureisnude?lang=en  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodoc/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/natureisalwaysnude  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfWNwoCl4f4WMHpagB2KQsw  Website: https://mylibidodoc.com/  Personal website: https://drdianemueller.com/   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

What if the very thing you've been taught to cover up… is the medicine you've been searching for? In this intimate and eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Kerry Kott, licensed physician of Chinese medicine, herbalist, and host of the Naked to Human podcast, for a raw conversation about nudity as healing. Together, they unpack how the simple act of being naked can transform shame, trauma, and body image into self-acceptance, confidence, and liberation. From exploring nudity in nature, to the power of yoni sunning and grounding, Kerry shares her journey of moving beyond sexualization and judgment into wholeness and connection. They dive into why women carry so much shame about their bodies, how retreat spaces create safety and freedom, and why getting naked with intention can be one of the most profound healing experiences available. Whether you've struggled with body image, experienced trauma, or just want to feel more at home in your own skin, this episode will challenge your conditioning and invite you to reimagine what's possible when you let go of the shame, and the clothes. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: How nudity became Kerry's medicine after years in Chinese medicine & herbalism Why shame and judgment around our naked bodies run so deep The difference between nudity, sexuality, and sensual energy Healing trauma, body image, and self-judgment through nudity The power of retreats: women coming together naked in safe, intentional spaces How nature, grounding, and yoni sunning support physical and emotional healing What really happens when women drop comparison and judgment together Navigating nudist spaces vs. sexualized spaces (and how to tell the difference) Why seeing real bodies dismantles perfection myths and Instagram illusions Creating safe practices to explore nudity at home, in nature, or with community If you've ever felt uncomfortable in your own skin, or wondered what it might be like to experience freedom without shame, this conversation will open your eyes to nudity as a pathway back home to yourself. #SexAndBacon #KerryKott #NudityAsMedicine #BodyImageHealing #WomenEmpowerment #TraumaHealing #NudityAndNature #GroundingPractice #YoniSunning #SelfAcceptance #NudistRetreats #FeminineLiberation #SexPositive #ChineseMedicineHealing We get into:  00:00 Intro 03:00 Shame, safety, and why our bodies feel "wrong" naked 07:00 How nudity and sexuality became collapsed in our culture 10:00 Nudist retreats, naturist communities & misconceptions 13:00 Kerry's first transformative experience of being topless in a non-sexual space 14:00 Women, trauma, and body image struggles in naked spaces 18:00 Why being naked together heals more than therapy sometimes can 19:00 The science & energetics of nudity in nature (grounding, elements, cellular healing) 23:00 Yoni sunning: what it is, why it's powerful, and how women experience it 28:00 Inside Kerry's retreats—what to expect, how they create safety 31:00 Menstruation, free bleeding, and deshaming our bodies 35:00 Why cycles matter for energy & retreat experiences 39:00 The power of intentional containers and boundaries 43:00 Body comparison, perfection myths & real-life naked bodies 50:00 Boudoir shoots, photography, and how images distort reality 55:00 Kerry's invitation: creating safe space to explore nudity at home Connect with Kerry X: https://x.com/natureisnude?lang=en  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natureisalwaysnude/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/natureisalwaysnude  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/KerryKott  Website: https://kerrykott.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

What if the relationship model you've been taught your whole life… isn't the only way to love? In this eye-opening and deeply educational episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with sexuality educator, researcher, and author Jim Fleckenstein for a no-BS conversation about polyamory, swinging, open relationships, and the many forms of consensual non-monogamy. With over 20 years in the field, Jim shares the research, real-life experiences, and hard truths that challenge everything you think you know about love, sex, and commitment. From breaking down the different types of non-monogamous relationships to busting seven of the biggest myths people still believe, Jim pulls back the curtain on what makes these relationships thrive—and where they fail. They explore the role of communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in creating healthy dynamics, plus why jealousy might not be the deal-breaker you think it is. Whether you're monogamous, curious about opening your relationship, or already exploring non-monogamy, this conversation will give you the language, insights, and confidence to navigate love on your own terms—without shame. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: The difference between swinging, polyamory, and open relationships Why consensual non-monogamy is more common than you think How society stigmatizes non-monogamy—and why that's changing The surprising research on relationship satisfaction in non-monogamous couples Understanding boundaries, agreements, and emotional safety Why women are often the ones initiating open relationships The truth about jealousy and how to manage it Common myths that keep people from exploring alternative relationship models What makes a non-monogamous relationship healthy, sustainable, and fulfilling How to talk to therapists, friends, and family about your relationship choices If you've ever wondered what it's really like to live, love, and thrive outside of monogamy, hit play, this episode might just change how you see relationships forever. #SexAndBacon #JimFleckenstein #PolyamoryExplained #NonMonogamy #OpenRelationships #SwingingLifestyle #ConsensualNonMonogamy #RelationshipMyths #EthicalNonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #PolyamoryTips #HealthyRelationships #SexPositive #AlternativeRelationships #LoveOnYourTerms We get into:  00:00 Intro 02:52 Jim's Journey into Non-Monogamy 04:57 Research on Non-Monogamy 13:51 Types of Non-Monogamous Relationships 14:31 Swinging and Polyamory Explained 19:04 Open Relationships and Their Challenges 23:44 The Intersection of Kink and Non-Monogamy 25:23 Addressing Stigmas and Misconceptions 35:06 Seven Common Myths About Non-Monogamy 43:57 Debunking Relationship Duration Myths 44:38 Intimacy as a Measure of Relationship Health 46:44 Generational Shifts in Relationship Norms 47:14 Authenticity in Relationships 48:47 Non-Monogamy and Jealousy 52:42 Therapy vs. Coaching for Relationship Challenges 54:26 Nine Polyamory Myths Debunked 58:35 Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships 01:02:49 Inclusivity in the Polyamory Community 01:16:47 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Jim X: https://x.com/JimFleckenstein  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/affirmativeintimacy  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jim-fleckenstein-6936681/  Website: https://www.affirmativeintimacy.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

What if the thing you're most afraid of… is the very key to your healing? In this powerful, raw, and eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Mistress Mia Payne—owner of Pain With Purpose—for a deep dive into the healing side of BDSM. Together, they explore how kink can be a therapeutic tool for trauma recovery, emotional release, empowerment, and reconnecting with the body after pain. From confronting abuse triggers in a collar to understanding the difference between consensual pain and trauma reenactment, this conversation peels back the layers on what it really means to reclaim power through intentional BDSM. Mia shares the science behind "cellular memory," the unexpected link between kink and spirituality, and how her clients—many of them high-powered men and trauma survivors—have transformed their lives through her work. Whether you're kink-curious, healing from trauma, or just ready to ditch shame and explore your full self—this episode offers a radically safe space to reimagine what power, submission, and self-trust can look like. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: How trauma lives in the body—and why kink can help release it The difference between abuse and consensual BDSM (and why consent is everything) What "titration" is and how it helps retrain your nervous system safely Why dominant men often crave submission—and what it reveals emotionally Using pain as a spiritual tool for rites of passage, transformation, and clarity The psychology of humiliation, degradation, and praise in therapeutic sessions What submissives really get out of being "controlled"—and it's not what you think How Mistress Mia's clients overcame anxiety, depression, and trauma (and yes, one got off antidepressants!) Why shame is the true block to pleasure—and how to leave it at the door Hit play if you're ready to heal your body, your beliefs, and your boundaries—one consensual, empowered session at a time. #SexAndBacon #MistressMiaPayne #BDSMHealing #TraumaRecovery #KinkTherapy #PainWithPurpose #RitesOfPassage #DominatrixWisdom #EmotionalRelease #ShameFreeLiving #FemininePower #SafeKink #SexPositiveHealing #AlternativeTherapy We get into:  00:00 Intro 04:48 Understanding the Healing Benefits of BDSM 08:12 Rites of Passage and Spiritual Practices 11:08 Client Experiences and Transformations 17:02 Tools and Techniques in BDSM 22:03 The Therapeutic Impact of BDSM 29:31 Introduction to Therapeutic BDSM 30:17 Challenges and Misconceptions 31:00 Coming Out and Acceptance 32:47 Sex Positivity and Personal Growth 37:03 Session Costs and Customization 40:19 Boundaries and Limits 44:22 Client Relationships and Communication Connect with Mia Payne Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleaburke  Links: https://beacons.ai/michelleaburke Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

What if your biggest heartbreaks, failures, and messy breakdowns weren't the end of your story—but the beginning of your magic? In this bold, beautiful, and brutally honest episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Michelle Burke—author of Hot Mess Magic—for a heart-opening conversation about owning your chaos, finding power in your pain, and learning how to rise without needing to be "put together" first. From losing her dad and grandma within weeks to screaming grief into the sand on a frozen Jersey beach, Michelle shares the raw truth behind what it means to discover the magic in your mess. They explore what "dark feminine energy" really looks like (spoiler: it's not about manipulation—it's about unapologetic power), why emotional availability in dating starts with self-honesty, and how sitting in discomfort is the only way to truly heal. If you've ever felt like a disaster in lipstick—or worried you're too broken to find love, success, or peace—this one's your reminder that messy doesn't mean unworthy. It means you're mid-alchemy. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: What "dark feminine energy" really means—and how to embody it with confidence Why your mess might be your greatest teacher (and how to reframe your pain) The truth about emotional unavailability—his, and yours Releasing rage and grief through physical movement, not emotional bypassing How to date with power—even if your life feels like a chaotic dumpster fire The magic of mirror work, solo dates, and becoming the love you seek Setting boundaries, letting go of friendships, and outgrowing your old self Why vulnerability is the portal to deeper connection, healing, and community 🎧 Hit play if you're tired of pretending you're fine, and ready to feel powerful because of your mess—not in spite of it. #SexAndBacon #HotMessMagic #DarkFeminineEnergy #HealingEra #FeelYourFeelings #SelfWorthJourney #DatingWhileHealing #EmotionalAvailability #ReclaimYourPower #MessyHealing #UnfilteredFeminine #PersonalAlchemy We get into:  00:00 Intro 01:02 What is "dark feminine energy," really? 02:25 Why women put others first—and how to stop 03:56 The birth of Hot Mess Magic and the story behind the book 07:13 Finding magic during grief, chaos, and emotional breakdowns 09:04 "Show me the truth"—the mantra that changed everything 10:56 Don't bypass the pain: feel it, but don't become it 12:00 Rage, grief, and kickboxing as therapy 14:52 What emotionally unavailable actually looks like in men (and women) 17:32 Dating during a hot mess—what to do, what not to 18:56 Becoming the love you want: solo dates, mirror notes, and self-devotion 21:34 Letting go of people you've outgrown—and the guilt that comes with it 24:26 You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with 25:42 Learning to receive instead of chasing in relationships 26:55 The art of not settling—and how to hold your standards 28:44 What kind of man are you actually calling in? 29:51 The masks we wear—and how isolation keeps us stuck 31:00 Releasing shame around money, failure, and public messiness 33:02 The power of safe community, storytelling, and permission 34:44 Final thoughts: give yourself permission to want more—and go for it Connect with Michelle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelleaburke  Links: https://beacons.ai/michelleaburke Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]   

What if everything you believed about love, sex, and marriage was built on shame—and it nearly destroyed you? In this raw, rebellious, and soul-awakening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Carolee and Britton—former devout Mormons turned sexual freedom seekers—for an unfiltered conversation about unlearning religious programming, healing from infidelity, and discovering the power of sex magic. They dive into how growing up Mormon created deep repression, guilt, and silence around sexuality—and how it all came to a head in their marriage through betrayal, disconnection, and years of internalized shame. But instead of falling apart, Carolee and Britton chose the path of radical self-responsibility, spiritual awakening, and shadow work (with a few smashed picture frames and moonlit rituals along the way). From smashing purity culture to manifesting their dream home mid-orgasm, this episode is a masterclass in rewriting the rules—and reclaiming your body, your voice, and your pleasure. 🔥 This one's for anyone who's ever felt broken by belief systems, but still dreamed of rising whole. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: How religious shame shapes our sexuality—and what it takes to unlearn it The silent toll of purity culture on women's bodies, desire, and confidence Infidelity, emotional immaturity, and the deeper wounds underneath cheating Why healing together sometimes means burning everything down first What "sex magic" actually is—and how it can transform your life The power of psychedelic medicine, astrology, and conscious co-creation How Carolee and Britton rebuilt a marriage on truth, not tradition 🎧 Hit play if you've ever questioned the beliefs you were raised with—or wanted a relationship that's wildly more aligned, embodied, and soul-fueled. #SexAndBacon #DeconstructingReligion #SexualLiberation #MormonDeconstruction #InfidelityRecovery #SexMagic #HealingTogether #ConsciousRelationships #ShadowWork #DivineFeminine #MarriageRebirth #ReclaimYourPower #UnlearnAndRebuild We get into:  00:00 Intro 01:52 Growing Up Mormon 03:55 Sexual Repression and Infidelity 04:25 Carol Lee's Perspective on Sexual Shame 10:56 Early Marriage Challenges 25:56 Infidelity and Its Impact 34:32 Therapy and Healing 38:29 Leaving the Mormon Church 42:52 Magic Reenters Our Lives 43:04 Emotional Healing and Sound Therapy 43:36 The Journey of Reeducation 45:33 Facing Betrayal and Healing 47:13 Rage and Release Rituals 51:51 Redefining Relationships 56:59 Sex Magic and Manifestation 01:07:44 Overcoming Judgment and Shame 01:17:54 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Britton and Carolee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themagicalstoryofus/  Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7aiuVvWeplDXFJOmTFpwqc TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@themagicalstoryofus  Website: https://themagicalstoryofus.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

What if the person you trusted most turned out to be living a double life? In this gripping, raw, and deeply courageous episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Amanda Quick—author of The Sex Trafficker's Wife—to unravel the unthinkable: what happens when the man you married, the father of your children, is arrested for trying to purchase underage girls. Amanda shares her story with jaw-dropping honesty, walking us through the emotional rollercoaster of betrayal, trauma bonding, courtroom battles, and reclaiming her voice after years of manipulation and gaslighting. This isn't just true crime—it's a masterclass in resilience, motherhood, and choosing yourself when the world expects you to stay quiet. 💥 If you've ever questioned your instincts, felt stuck in a toxic relationship, or needed proof that healing is possible—this episode is for you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: What it's really like to discover your partner's darkest secrets The truth about trauma bonding—and why it's so hard to leave How Amanda fought a high-conflict custody battle against a convicted sex offender Why the system often fails survivors—and how she found loopholes to protect her kids The emotional toll of keeping the family together at all costs How one psychic session changed everything Reclaiming identity, sexuality, and joy after betrayal Why Amanda wrote The Sex Trafficker's Wife—and what she wants every woman to know We get into:  00:00 Introduction  00:47 The Night Everything Changed 01:52 The Shocking Arrest 03:36 Unraveling the Truth 07:14 The Aftermath and Legal Battles 11:42 Struggling with Reality 17:07 A New Beginning 26:34 Custody and Conflict 36:49 Signs of Danger 37:59 Reporting the Incident 40:27 The Rock Bottom Moment 42:06 Seeking Unconventional Help 48:15 A Renewed Sense of Purpose 51:14 Legal Battles and Final Decisions 53:30 Life After the Divorce 57:30 Healing and Moving Forward 01:12:55 Raising Awareness and Final Thoughts Connect with Amanda Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaquickhealing/  TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXSgN-AqMzk  https://www.thesextraffickerswife.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

Is reading smut mental cheating? Or is it the secret weapon to a more empowered, pleasure-filled life? In this juicy, no-holds-barred episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with erotica author and podcaster Ruan Willow to explore the world of erotic romance, female desire, and why stories that turn women on are about so much more than sex. From reclaiming "dirty" words to using fiction as foreplay, Ruan breaks down how smut, sensual stories, and sex-positive conversations can actually heal shame, unlock confidence, and transform relationships. Whether you're new to erotic lit or a longtime lover of open-door romance, this episode is a spicy invitation to rethink what turns you on—and why that's more powerful than you've been told. 💥 If you've ever felt guilty for what you like, or wondered if you're "too much"—this one is for you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Why reading smut isn't mental cheating—and might actually save your sex life The difference between porn and erotic romance (and why women crave the latter) How erotica helps women reclaim pleasure, power, and their own damn fantasies The healing power of fiction for trauma, shame, and even religious conditioning What most men misunderstand about women's desires Why sexual empowerment is mental health, period Consent, kink, and the truth about ethical non-monogamy Ruan's top writing tips—and how her characters lead the story (and the sex) We get into:  00:00 Introduction  00:50 Ruan Willow's Journey into Erotic Romance 01:55 Debunking Myths About Erotic Romance 04:32 Writing Explicit Content: Challenges and Creativity 16:01 The Healing Power of Erotic Literature 21:51 Exploring Pseudo Incest in Literature 23:40 Family Reactions to Writing Romance 24:19 Diving into the 'Oh Fuck Yeah' Podcast 27:48 Impact of Podcasting on Writing 28:54 Writing About Non-Monogamous Relationships 32:54 Upcoming Erotic Romance Projects 35:06 Normalizing Sexual Conversations 39:21 Connecting with Fans and Final Thoughts Connect with Ruan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruanwillowauthor/  X: https://x.com/ruanwillow?lang=en  Podcast: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/oh-fck-yeah-with-ruan-willow-1592675  Books: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

Most men think they've got sex all figured out… but what if that confidence is exactly what's keeping them from mind-blowing connection? In this candid and wildly eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah is joined by Dallas Bluth, founder of Black Box Dating, to explore why so many men misunderstand what truly turns women on—and how they can flip the script for good. From porn culture and rushed foreplay to emotional unavailability and outdated masculinity myths, this convo dives into the core of male sexuality, desire, and how to create actual intimacy (that leads to the hottest sex of your life). 💥 If you've ever thought "I'm doing everything right… so why isn't it working?" — this one's for you. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: The biggest mistakes men make in bed Why slowing down changes everything What women actually mean when they say they need to feel safe The #1 mindset shift that makes sex hotter How porn rewires expectations and performance The real role of emotional intimacy in physical pleasure Tangible ways men can step into secure, grounded masculinity We get into:  00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:58 Defining Really Hot Sex 02:14 Male vs. Female Perspectives on Sex 02:40 Understanding Male Sexuality 06:07 The Importance of Emotional Connection 16:27 Foreplay in Relationships 20:38 Acts of Service and Masculinity 34:19 Setting Standards in Relationships 46:20 The Impact of Pornography on Relationships 48:18 Desensitization and Addiction 49:47 Emotional and Sexual Escalation 50:42 The Importance of Non-Sexual Intimacy 55:06 Communication and Vulnerability in Relationships 58:18 Challenges in Married Life 01:01:32 Reigniting Passion in Long-Term Relationships 01:04:40 The Role of Masculine Energy 01:16:25 Creating Lighthearted and Carefree Experiences 01:26:59 Conclusion and Contact Information Connect with Dallas Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dallas.bluth/ Website: https://dallasbluth.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode of Sex & Bacon, I'm joined by the vibrant and soulfully wise Shay Moore—a licensed marriage and family therapist with a love for all things messy, magical, and real when it comes to relationships. Together, we dive deep into the labyrinth of modern love, friendships, dating dilemmas, and the wild ride of being a woman who's trying to figure it all out without losing herself in the process. Shay brings raw honesty and therapeutic insight as we unpack the complexities of love, the importance of female friendships, and why your girlfriends really are your soulmates (even if they cook you dinner instead of sending flowers). 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Love in Shambles – From Studying It to Living It Shay shares her journey from being single and skeptical to becoming a therapist helping others navigate love—even when her own heart was still learning. Hyper-Independent Women & The Vulnerability Conundrum Why opening up feels like peeling your own skin off—and how we can soften without falling apart. Dating in the Digital Age – Why Is This So F*cking Hard? We talk about ghosting, texting anxiety, and whether being a "pen pal" counts as connection. Spoiler: it doesn't. Friends Who Love Us Too Hard How our besties can sometimes project their own pain into our dating lives—and how to tell when it's advice or overprotection talking. Sisterhood is Sacred Shay opens up about her own heartbreaks, the friends who walked beside her, and why adult female friendships are the real love story of your life. Healing Through Sisterhood, Honesty, & Hugs From seven-second hugs to "rotting on the couch" dates, we explore the power of being seen, held, and loved by other women—no filter, no judgment. We get into:  00:00 Intro 02:16 The Struggles of Modern Relationships 04:33 Navigating Dating Expectations 09:30 The Role of Friends in Relationship Advice 16:43 Mental Health and Relationship Breakdowns 18:03 Red Flags and Emotional Availability 23:14 The Tall Man Dilemma 23:37 Emotional Availability in Relationships 24:41 The Importance of Open Communication 28:16 Supporting Friends Through Breakups 31:49 Love Languages in Friendships 33:36 The Value of Female Friendships 42:15 Unapologetically You 48:19 Final Thoughts and Advice Connect with Shay Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shifthappenswithshay/  Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2413290/episodes/16781737-the-power-of-vulnerability-how-being-real-strengthens-relationships Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]   

In this episode of Sex&Bacon, I'm joined by the incredibly brave Katey Rickert for a raw, unfiltered conversation about healing after sexual assault, reclaiming power, and the long, winding road of recovery. Katey opens up about her personal story—one that is heart-wrenching, courageous, and deeply human. Together, we unpack the dark aftermath of trauma, the complexities of consent, and how writing, movement, and connection helped her return home to herself. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Surviving the Unthinkable – The Story Behind the Blog Katey shares how her blog was born from a place of pain, resilience, and healing—writing her way through trauma, shame, and the reclamation of her body and voice. Disassociation, PTSD & the Aftermath of Assault What really happens to the body and mind during and after sexual trauma—and why it's not as simple as "fight or flight." Why Survivors Stay Silent – And Why That Needs to Change From shame to broken systems, Katey breaks down the reasons behind the silence of so many survivors—and what happened when she finally reported her assault 8 years later. The Broken Justice System – One Call, No Justice Despite a recorded confession, her rapist walked free. Katey details the gut-wrenching failures of the legal system and why so many survivors don't come forward. The Road to Recovery – Yoga, Therapy & Radical Reconnection Katey dives into how years of therapy, recovery, and somatic healing helped her finally feel safe again—in her body, in relationships, and in her truth. From Trauma to Empowerment – Reclaiming Sexuality on Her Own Terms How she transformed her pain into power, explored her sensuality through photography and writing, and ultimately found healing in conscious, connected love. We get into:  00:00 Intro 01:37 The Impact of Sexual Assault 03:35 Exploring Sexuality and OF 07:15 The Lifestyle Lounge Experience 10:11 The Assault Incident 19:41 Aftermath and Reporting 26:36 Travis County's Sexual Assault Case Backlog 27:55 Dissociation During Assault 32:44 Struggles with Intimacy 33:42 Seeking Help and Recovery 40:24 The Importance of Support Systems 44:35 The Broken System and Reporting Challenges 47:31 Empowerment Through Sharing 49:36 Final Thoughts and Resources Connect with Katey https://www.lamalaloba.com/ (password is kateybea) Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah Davis joins me for a no-holds-barred conversation about dating today—from navigating the wild world of dating apps to uncovering what we truly want in a partner. We get real about expectations, self-sabotage, and why so many of us keep attracting the same type of relationships. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💥 Dating Over 40: Navigating the Chaos – Why dating later in life comes with new challenges, and how to embrace it with confidence and clarity. 🛑 Breaking the Cycle of Settling – Why so many women feel pressure to "just take what they can get" in relationships—and why that's a hard NO. 💡 Attraction & Energy: What Are You Really Looking For? – How Sarah shifted her mindset from a "type" to deeper compatibility (and what that changed in her dating life). 🎭 Men, Women & The Dating App Struggle – The stark differences between dating men vs. women, and why dating apps often feel like a game of luck. 🔥 Red Flags, Green Flags & Wild Stories – From accidental blind dates to the infamous overnight bag incident—Sarah shares the good, the bad, and the in between. 💡 Manifesting the Right Relationship – The power of getting crystal clear on what you want in a partner—and how the universe might just deliver. We get into:  00:00 Intro 04:54 Sarah's Journey: From Marriage to Bisexuality 07:59 Navigating Bisexuality in Relationships 14:26 Dating Dynamics: Men vs. Women 19:42 Worst Date Stories and Lessons Learned 27:50 Importance of Personality in Attraction 33:07 Challenges of Finding Genuine Connections 35:07 Being Upfront About Relationship Goals 35:43 Funny Dating Story: The Wrong Sarah 38:40 Setting Boundaries and Honoring Yourself 44:44 The Scarcity Mindset in Dating Over 40 52:22 Manifesting the Right Partner Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode of Sex and Bacon, Sarah sits down with executive coach and self-sabotage expert Minh-Thu Lam from Higher Alignment Consulting to uncover the sneaky ways we sabotage our own happiness—especially in relationships. From unspoken needs and toxic patterns to the role of the nervous system in love, this deep and raw conversation reveals why we keep making the same mistakes and, more importantly, how to break free. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💥 Why We Self-Sabotage: Minh-Thu breaks down the subconscious patterns that keep us stuck, from childhood conditioning to societal programming. 🛑 Recognizing the Signs: Struggling with ghosting, repeating toxic relationship cycles, or pushing away healthy love? Here's how to identify self-sabotage in action. 💡 Healing Through Awareness: Learn how to stop reacting from fear, regulate your nervous system, and start making intentional choices in love and life. 🔄 Dating with Clarity: Sarah and Minh-Thu discuss how to set boundaries, voice your needs, and stop expecting partners to be mind readers. 🌱 Growth Over Comfort: Unlearning unhealthy patterns is uncomfortable—but it's the key to creating the deep, fulfilling relationships we actually want. 🔥 The Hard Truth: If you keep attracting the same type of partner, the common denominator is you—but that also means you have the power to change it. We get into:  00:00 Welcome to the Sex and Bacon Podcast 02:11 The Root Cause of Burnout 03:43 Understanding Self-Sabotage 04:46 Self-Sabotage in Relationships 06:57 Childhood Conditioning and Relationship Dynamics 18:05 The Importance of Setting Boundaries 26:49 Recognizing Self-Sabotaging Patterns 34:52 Recognizing Old Patterns and Moving Forward 35:06 The Importance of Surrounding Yourself with Positive Influences 35:34 The Role of Coaches and Therapists 37:03 Choosing the Right Coach 38:01 Self-Sabotage and Its Reflection on Self-Worth 39:51 The Importance of Prioritizing Wellbeing in Relationships 43:35 Tools to Overcome Self-Sabotage 46:17 Regulating Your Nervous System 53:04 The Value of Open Communication in Relationships 59:26 Taking Control of Your Life and Seeking Help Connect with Minh-Thu LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/higher-alignment-consulting/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555613204811 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higheralignmentconsulting/  https://higheralignmentconsulting.com/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, we're kicking off a brand-new series—The Dating Circle! Host Sarah introduces us to two incredible women, Jess and Tina, as they embark on their dating journeys, sharing all the juicy details, awkward encounters, and hard-earned lessons along the way. From navigating dating apps and ghosting to defining what they're really looking for in a partner, this candid conversation is filled with laughs, surprises, and some hard truths about modern dating. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: 💘 Dating in the Digital Age: Jess and Tina open up about their experiences with Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating—why some platforms work better than others and what really goes on behind the scenes of online dating. 💔 The Struggles of Modern Romance: From ghosting to awkward first dates, the ladies spill their worst dating experiences—including one that involved a surprise LARPing confession! 💡 What Women Really Want: Confidence, ambition, and emotional intelligence—Jess and Tina break down the qualities that matter most when looking for a partner. 🔥 Who Should Make the First Move? Should men take the lead in planning dates, or is it a mutual effort? The conversation dives into the importance of confidence, effort, and setting the tone for a relationship. 📌 The Homework Assignment: Jess and Tina have two weeks to find and go on a date—who will they meet, and how will it go? Stay tuned for the next episode to find out! We get into:  00:00 Introduction to the Dating Circle Series 01:30 Meet Jess: A Journey Through Divorce and Dating 03:35 Meet Tina: Single Mom Navigating the Dating World 04:45 Dating Apps: Tinder, Hinge, and Facebook Dating 07:44 The Challenges of Online Dating 13:45 Worst Date Stories: Tina's Experience 19:05 Worst Date Stories: Jess's Experience 26:40 The Oven Thermometer Gift 27:43 Debating Dating Expenses 28:33 Splitting the Bill on Dates 32:13 Worst Date Stories 39:17 Online Dating Realities 43:35 What Women Want in a Man 49:49 Dating Homework Assignment Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode of the Sex & Bacon podcast, I'm joined by Corey Ossum, an addiction recovery coach, emcee, and construction professional, who shares his journey of transformation.  Corey opens up about his struggles with addiction, the pivotal moments that inspired change, and how he's now helping others navigate their recovery paths. From the importance of redefining one's legacy to finding joy and purpose after addiction, Corey's story is both raw and inspiring. 🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways: Rewriting Your Narrative: Corey shares the story of legally changing his last name to "Awesome" to leave behind a legacy of positivity and empowerment, emphasizing the importance of creating your own path in life. Hitting Rock Bottom: A sobering experience at the U.S. border marked a turning point in Corey's life, motivating him to confront his addictions and commit to lasting change. The Power of Passion: Corey discusses how his love for emceeing bodybuilding shows became a driving force for his sobriety, illustrating the impact of having a meaningful purpose. Healing Through Coaching: Now an addiction recovery coach, Corey uses his experiences to guide others through a six-week program that focuses on physical, mental, and spiritual growth. Sobriety and Relationships: Corey reflects on how his addiction affected his relationships and how sobriety has redefined his connections with himself and others. We get into:  00:00 Introduction  07:45 Addiction Journey  12:13 Hitting Rock Bottom 18:25 Recovery and Reflection 20:13 Dating and Relationships 26:05 The Booty Blow Job Shot 26:54 From Pool Boy to Party Scene 28:11 The Cycle of Partying and Relationships 29:23 Struggles with Addiction and Sobriety 31:45 Finding Passion in Emceeing 36:29 Building a Coaching Business 41:01 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Social Media Challenges 46:17 Helping Others Through Personal Experience 51:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Connect with Corey Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theossumlife/  To learn more about Corey's coaching program or to book a consultation, visit his Instagram page and access his booking link through the bio.   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]   

Have you ever wondered how a change in persona could reignite the spark in your relationship? In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, I'm joined by  Katie Runyan, founder of Faithful Fling and a roleplay sex expert.  Katie shares her journey into roleplay, starting with a bold experiment in her own marriage that evolved into a successful venture helping couples reignite their connection through creative roleplay scenarios. Katie explains how roleplay can break monotonous routines, enhance intimacy, and keep monogamy exciting while providing listeners with tips and resources to explore their own fantasies safely within their relationships. We get into:  00:00 Introduction 00:04 Meet Katie Runyan: Roleplay Expert 01:29 The Birth of Faithful Fling 05:00 Exploring Roleplay Scenarios 07:19 Overcoming Vulnerability and Rejection 09:34 Starting Your Roleplay Journey 19:15 Popular Roleplay Scenarios 30:52 Transform Your Room with Minimalistic Art 31:36 Roleplay Date Essentials: Tips and Tricks 33:50 Keeping Monogamy Hot with Roleplay 35:43 Workshops and Webinars for Overcoming Insecurities 39:13 The Importance of Emotional Security in Roleplay 40:04 Creating a Sensual Atmosphere 41:07 Personal Consultations and Future Goals 42:16 The Power of Roleplay in Relationships 50:28 Embracing Sensuality and Confidence 57:37 Final Thoughts and Contact Information Connect with Katie Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/faithfulfling/  https://www.faithfulfling.com/    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Andrew Daniel joins me to talk about sexual polarity, holistic sex, and emotional vulnerability from a man's perspective. Andrew helps us navigate important issues on men's perceptions of masculinity, societal expectations of gender roles, and the influence of these elements on personal relationships. He highlights the significance of emotional maturity and self-awareness as key to creating genuine intimacy and having a fulfilling sex life. Andrew suggests that by embracing vulnerability, men can enhance every facet of their life, from relationships to professional success. Andrew Daniel is an award-winning and international bestselling author and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development. His Cinesomatics® workshops are held internationally from New York to London, Tuscany to Switzerland—helping professionals see the elusive patterns that hold them back. This methodology leads the world in cinematic movement diagnostics and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment, shadow work, therapy, and spirituality. His book, Awaken to Your True Self, is a gold Nautilus Book Awards recipient and #1 Amazon bestseller in the US & UK. In his early career, Andrew coded a particle and physics engine by the age of 18⁠, used by top Fortune 100 companies over the 7 years of his software business. His first teaching work, Holistic Sex (Mindvalley, 2014), provided the world with a new paradigm that bridged the divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. Andrew is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization. We get into:  [0:00] Intro [2:48] Why men comes to him for help [7:32] Why men do not feel supported in embracing the masculine and feminine [16:21] Intimacy is more than just sex [21:53] Battle of the sexes [24:19] Making someone's pleasure your pleasure [28:12] Revisiting our north american views on sex and intimacy vs. other countries [36:51] When your body is at odds with your brain [38:50] Developing self awareness [45:46] What is sexual polarity [52:21] Control and safety [56:59] Tips for men to start being introspective with themselves and their experiences Connect with Andrew https://andrewdaniel.org     Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, we talk all about the taboo subject of talking about money in relationships. My guest, Marci Grossman, highlights how financial stress is a significant contributor to a couple's sex life disruption. Marci discusses the importance of being financially literate to avoid money-related issues in relationships.  The conversation also focuses on the impact of financial responsibility in relationships, addressing key factors like communication about earnings, debt, retirement, and savings. We also talk about the importance of having open conversations about financial expectations and circumstances when dating or entering a relationship, and how to manage finances responsibly whenever there's a major shift in life (like losing a job).  Marci Grossman is a CPA with over 30 years of experience helping individuals and businesses with financial matters. She has worked in public, private, and non-profit accounting. Her passion is helping people to improve their relationship with money.  We get into:  [0:00] Intro [2:43] My own experience in my marriage surrounding money [6:15] The conversations about money that need to be had before marriage, and Marci's experience in her own marriage [10:20] Should we put money together or keep it separate? [12:40] Why do people avoid conversations about money while dating [14:20] Are there money deal breakers in a relationship? [18:35] The problems that finances can cause [20:05] Mental health struggles with financial burdens [25:50] Tips for couples to start to look at their finances and set themselves up to be in a better position [27:15] How much to save for an emergency and retirement [33:10] The generational differences between our parents and us Connect with Marci Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/money.marci/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MoneyMarci/  Links: https://www.moneymarci.com/links  www.moneymarci.com    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]   

In this episode, we return from a brief break and introduce Ava, a Tantric expert, who was previously on the podcast, and who I've been working with over the last six months.  We talk all about the various types of female orgasms including clitoral, G-spot, cervical, U-spot, A-spot, P-spot, and anal orgasms. We also talk about how expecting a specific outcome, such as a particular type of orgasm, can limit one's ability to fully experience pleasure, emphasizing that tantric practices are more about healing and self-exploration than only focusing on achieving orgasms. The episode highlights the importance of effective communication, understanding one's emotions, and establishing safety and connection on a physical and emotional level during sex. We also touch on societal misconceptions about pleasure, trauma, and our intricate connections to sexuality. Ava is a Transformational Therapist and Tantra Healer certified by the only government accredited institute of tantra in the entire world - The Institute of Authentic Tantra! She has over 1,700+ hours of training in the field of tantra, as well as psychological, emotional, and spiritual healing modalities. Ava believes that healing shouldn't take years, and primarily guides men, women, and couples through a unique and holistic approach to healing and sexual fulfillment.  We get into:  [0:00] Intro [1:25] Why we're talking about orgasms [2:30] What does it really mean to orgasm  [5:50] The emotional side of an orgasm [10:00] Is there a rank of which orgasm is the best? [15:05] G-spot orgasms  [25:45] GSpot crystal wand, stimulation, squirting [30:30] U-Spot Orgasm [35:35] Cervical orgasm [40:50] A spot orgasm [42:55] Finding these spots for yourself [58:55] Anal orgasms [1:07:00] Sexual trauma and the resistance people might feel when they first start this work Connect with Ava Instagram: https://www.flamewithintantra.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087647945726&mibextid=ZbWKwL    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, we explore the profound impact of relationship trauma on Alyssen's journey and how it has shaped her work. Join us as she candidly shares personal stories, shedding light on the transformative power of addressing past wounds to create healthier relationships.   Continuing the conversation, we delve into the fascinating realm of hormonal fluctuations and the effects of birth control on our sex drives. Uncovering the scientific and psychological aspects, we examine how birth control can influence our intimate lives. Additionally, we talk about the importance of anticipation and scheduling intimacy, sharing practical tools to create deeper connections. We get into:  [0:00] Intro [1:45] The relationship trauma that brought Alyssen into this work [4:35] The impact of birth control on our hormones and sex drives [9:40] Anticipating and scheduling intimacy [13:30] The expectations of how many times you should have sex per day or week [16:40] Why people don't like talking about sex [18:40] Needing to do the inner work when it comes to dating [24:45] Tools to help you do that work [28:00] Being alone vs. filling a void [31:40] Knowing your boundaries and what you will and won't put up with [39:55] Do men attract the same women over and over?   Connect with Alyssen Instagram: https://instagram.com/Elevated.aspects_ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087647945726&mibextid=ZbWKwL    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]   

In this episode, we explore the world of women's health and fibroids with LaToya Dwight. Through her personal journey and experiences, LaToya shares valuable insights on topics such as the impact of diet, advocating for oneself, managing intimacy, and addressing bias in the medical industry, while also shedding light on her non-profit organization dedicated to supporting women affected by fibroids.   Discover the challenges women face when dealing with fibroids and gain a deeper understanding of the symptoms that lead to questioning one's health. Explore practical solutions and alternative approaches for those who prefer non-medical routes, all while being inspired by LaToya's passion for empowering women and her unwavering commitment to raising awareness and providing support in the realm of fibroids.   As a wife, mother, sister, daughter, and loyal friend, LaToya Dwight embarked on a fibroid healing journey after learning about the dis-ease of uterine fibroids by happenstance, when going to her OB/GYN to have an IUD replacement. Leaving the doctors office with little to no guidance, LaToya felt compelled to take her health into her own hands. Participating in various coaching programs, doing yoga, qi gong, meditation, deep breathing exercises, eating for her blood type, and even going vegan, all led LaToya down a lonely 4 year long journey.    After having a successful, minimally invasive procedure, LaToya felt compelled to tell her story in an effort to help someone else. This birthed The Fibroid Pandemic! It's mission is to provide resources to humans with a uterus who are seeking to overcome fibroids through education, support, and tools in order to best advocate for oneself.    We get into:  [0:00] Intro [1:35] How LaToya got into this work [4:10] Finding out she had fibroids [6:15] Did her IUD cause fibroids? [8:15] How diet impacts fibroids [10:30] The symptoms that made her question her health [15:55] Advocating for yourself and getting second opinions [18:35] Was sex painful with fibroids? [20:20] Could she orgasm [22:45] How her flare ups happen [26:50] The bias in the medical industry [30:20] About her non-profit organization [32:50] Safe products women can use during their cycles [37:35] The biggest struggle women face when it comes to fibroids [42:20] What to do if you don't want to go the medical route   Connect with Latoya Instagram: https://instagram.com/thefibroidpandemic Website: www.thefibroidpandemic.com     Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, Kerin shares her inspiring background and triumph over eating disorders, challenging deeply ingrained belief systems formed at a young age.  Explore the power of nourishing your body with foods that make you feel good and delve into the impact of weight on your dating life. Discover the mindset of a confident woman who knows her worth and unravel the toxic patterns that hinder meaningful connections. Gain insights into cultivating a balanced approach to working out, eating, and lifestyle choices, embracing both feminine and masculine energies. Reflect on the significance of setting boundaries around health, wellness, food, and dating, and get ready to gain clarity on your desires within relationships.  Kerin is an Executive Life Coach with a mission to redefine standards in health, body, mind and spirit to truly live in a happy body and lead a successful life. Specializing in the development of emotional balance, confidence, mindset management, and intuitive weight loss, Kerin specializes in the release of trauma from the cellular body and the repatterning of the thoughts and emotions that hold us back from showing up as the person we desire to be.  Join us for an empowering conversation that will ignite personal growth, inspire transformation, and lead to fulfilling connections.   We get into:  [0:00] Intro [1:00] Kerin's background and experience with eating disorders [5:10] The belief system people develop at a young age [8:00] Eating foods that make you feel good [10:45] How weight affects your dating life [12:10] Being a woman who knows her worth [16:00] Toxic dating patterns [17:50] Unraveling your mindset around working out, eating and lifestyle choices [19:45] The balance between feminine and masculine energetics [23:30] Do you need to sleep with someone to know if you like them or not? [25:30] Boundaries around health, wellness, food and dating [32:55] Getting clear about what you desire in a relationship   Connect with Kerin Instagram: https://instagram.com/kerin.eilis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/789941495857983/?ref=share_group_link  Freebie: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62750363ec93244248595fa6    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]   

In this episode, Noah Evan joins me to talk candidly about sex, the gay sex scene, and everything in between.    Noah is a queer podcaster of the "Severely Personal" podcast, who loves to discuss all things intimate through comedy and stories. He loves to find connections and community and is always looking to learn.   We get into:  [0:00] Intro [0:50] Noah's podcast, Severely Personal [2:40] Bringing humor to hard conversations [5:00] The prep work that goes into anal [10:30] Is it hard dating and finding good partners? [12:30] Keeping up with different terms and ways people identify  [16:10] The differences in judgment and stigma for men and women when it comes to sex [17:30] Are gay men hornier than straight men [18:10] How many times you should have sex a week [19:25] Can you heal through casual sex? [20:05] What the sex scene is like in Florida [23:40] Noah's best and most memorable sex experience [33:10] ​​Speaking up and saying what you want in bed [38:10] Why bad sex experiences can ruin sex in the future    Connect with Noah Instagram: www.instagram.com/severelypersonal Twitter: www.twitter.com/severelypersonal   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/severelypersonal  Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/0o1hDWwNMlnLGVOlgO4twk?si=LmuG7ycJQhKSkwN99_D49A&dd=1    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]   

In this episode, Mangala Holland joins me to explore the transformative power of unleashing your orgasms, diving into the importance of sexual liberation and self-discovery.  We also tackle the concept of toxic masculinity and its effects on relationships, shedding light on the connection between toxic chemistry and a dysregulated nervous system.  Join us as we discuss the awakening experienced by women in their 40s and 50s, delving into the challenges and opportunities this phase brings. Additionally, we examine the barriers that block our pleasure and orgasms, including the fear of shame and judgment. We talk about cervical orgasms, demystifying their nature and providing guidance on how to experience them. We also get into the role of the body and nervous system in pleasure, highlighting their crucial role in unlocking sensual fulfillment.  Finally, we emphasize the importance of finding a supportive community that nurtures and uplifts you on your sexual exploration. Mangala is a Sexual Confidence coach, and facilitator of global group programs. She's on a mission to help women and pussy-owners become empowered through loving themselves fiercely, celebrating their sexuality, and overcoming the fear, guilt and shame that keeps them playing small. Having over a decade's experience in the industry, her super power is helping women and vulva owners become deeply connected to their body, pleasure and orgasmic confidence, which is the natural birthright of everyone.  She has a special talent in helping women in midlife access way more pleasure than they ever thought possible and believes that midlife is an opportunity for powerful, positive transformation. She's currently training the next generation of Embodied Female Pleasure facilitators and places a strong emphasis on self-love, embodiment and empowerment in her work, teaching in a no-bullshit, fluff-free, grounded, dogma-free style.    We get into:  [0:00] Intro [3:00] The power of unleashing your orgasms [5:10] Toxic dick [7:55] Toxic chemistry and its correlation to a dysregulated nervous system [11:40] The awakening happening in women who are in their 40s and 50s [15:15] What blocks our pleasure and orgasms [16:15] Fear of shame and being judged [20:40] How to start creating changes in your sexuality [24:55] What are cervical orgasms [29:35] How to have cervical orgasms [32:35] The role of the body and nervous system in pleasure [34:25] Having orgasmic confidence [45:55] Finding a community that supports you   Connect with Mangala Instagram: www.instagram.com/mangalaholland  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mangalatantrika  https://mangalaholland.com/  Free 3 part video series, From Shut Down to Sensual Satisfaction https://mangalaholland.com/sss/    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, we dive deep into the world of relationships, pleasure, and intimacy with renowned Love Educator & Relationship Coach, Railey Molinario.   From overcoming abandonment at birth to becoming a six-figure boss, Railey shares her inspiring journey of transforming pain into a mission of empowering individuals to break free from generational trauma and ignorance. Her teachings on relationship intelligence have been featured on esteemed platforms like the BBC, Medium, and Brainz magazine.   Join us as Railey delves into the nuances of building thriving relationships and lives, providing invaluable tools and techniques for personal growth.   We get into:  [0:00] Intro [1:40] How Railey's pain and trauma turned into her mission [4:40] How to boost your libido [7:25] The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire [10:50] Women's pleasure, erotica and stories  [13:50] Why we need better and more thoughtful foreplay [16:10] Why it's so hard for couples to talk about sex, what turns them on, and desire [19:20] Making time for sexual intimacy  [24:40] How mainstream porn limits our ability to understand and explore amazing sex [28:00] What happens when the connection is missing  [30:40] The misbeliefs that women have about sex [33:20] Why men need to learn about the female body in order to experience deeper pleasure  [36:25] Closing the orgasm gap [44:25] What feeling safe in a relationship can do [48:00] Power couple secrets to have a thriving sex life [54:30] What BDSM and fetishes can to do your relationship   Connect with Tara Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raileymolinario/    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/raileymolinarioloveeducator, https://www.facebook.com/groups/224806782933794  Website: https://www.raileymolinario.com/     Free Ultimate Guide To A Thriving Relationship https://www.raileymolinario.com/cheatsheet    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]   

In this episode, Tara Galeano joins me to talk about psychedelic orgasms and reclaiming your sexuality.   She talks about her journey into the space of sexuality, and emphasizes the importance of exploring sexuality and embracing freedom, despite the shame that still surrounds sex and pleasure in society.    Tara further dives into the concept of psychedelic orgasms and how they are experienced, shedding light on the link between desire and arousal. She talks about the issue of shaming one's own sexuality and emphasizes the importance of overcoming societal conditioning and embracing a healthy attitude towards sexual expression.    Author Tara Galeano is a certified sex therapist who has worked with women and couples for over two decades to get their sexy back. She knows that there is pleasure in the body, beyond our wildest dreams, and everyone can access it. In her book "Rediscovering My Body" Tara teaches us how to show up for pleasure.    Through reconnecting with her body, Tara was able to understand what was right and pleasurable for her, how best to proceed from this wisdom, and most importantly, how to teach these valuable lessons to others so that they too can transform their lives and reclaim their sensuality. Tara offers unique couple's retreats, and ceremonial, sensual journeys that open doors to new experiences and communication with oneself and partners.   We get into:  [0:00] Intro [1:00] How Tara got into this space [3:55] Why having women approach her about sex and sexuality was surprising  [5:45] Exploring sexuality and wanting freedom [7:40] The shame that still comes with sex and pleasure [10:10] The power of an open mind and curiosity [11:00] Sex when you're sick or have a debilitating diagnosis  [18:45] The biggest issue women have when it comes to accepting their bodies [26:00] Reclaiming your sexuality  [32:40] What a psychedelic orgasm is [35:40] How psychedelic orgasms happen [42:40] The link between desire and arousal  [46:35] Shaming our own sexuality [50:30] One key thing to take from this episode   Connect with Tara Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tara.galeano/  Twitter: https:/www.twitter.com/BoulderSexThera  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TaraGaleano  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/taragaleano/  YouTube: https://youtube.com/user/BoulderSexTherapy  Website: https://rediscoveringmybody.com/  Body Wisdom Journal: https://rediscoveringmybody.mykajabi.com/body-wisdom-journal Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

Get ready to uncover the secrets of female desire and pleasure with Danielle Savory.   In this episode, we explore the psychology behind the shame that women often feel when it comes to casual sex, and the healing work required to connect with our bodies.    Danielle dishes out some serious insights on how to create an erotic vessel and how to be your own pleasure advocate. We also delve into the burden of emotional responsibility, communication struggles, and the power of working with Danielle as your coach.   Danielle Savory is a master certified coach, podcast host, and expert in the fields of neuropsychology, mindfulness, sexual pleasure and intimacy.  Danielle brings a unique perspective to coaching, helping clients understand the ways in which the brain and body are interconnected and how this connection can be harnessed to experience the sensual pleasure the body is wired for.   As the host of the popular podcast "It's My Pleasure," Danielle has explored a wide range of topics related to sexuality, relationships, and personal growth - empowering women to embrace their sexuality and prioritize their pleasure. Danielle is a master certified coach with over 10 years of experience coaching hundreds of women with her proven process of increasing desire and expanding orgasmic capacity.   Come join us for a juicy conversation on full-body orgasms, mental and physical stimulation, and tantalizing tips to get back in tune with your body.   We get into:  [0:00] Intro [1:10] How Danielle got into this space [3:30] The psychology behind the shame of wanting casual sex as women [10:40] The difference between 'desire' when it comes to men and women [12:30] The healing women have to do in order to connect to our bodies [15:20] Desire for connection [18:30] The brain and sex [23:10] How to create the most erotic vessel [27:50] Learning how to be your own pleasure advocate [30:05] Why guys are afraid of intimacy [31:45] Why communication is a struggle when it comes to pleasure [34:00] Figuring out the kind of connection you want to have [35:00] The burden of emotional responsibility and keeping men happy  [35:55] Three tips for getting back in tune with your body [43:10] Receiving pleasure through pleasuring someone else [50:20] The psychology behind having full-body orgasms  [57:25] The mental and physical stimulation women need [59:30] The power that comes through working with Danielle   Connect with Danielle Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepracticeofpleasure/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/daniellesavorycoaching/ Website: https://www.daniellesavory.com/ Join Danielle's email list: https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe Podcast: https://www.daniellesavory.com/podcast Free Course: https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-fresh   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In a world where sexual trauma and a lack of education on our desires are all too common, my guest Katie Rudland shares her insights on sexual liberation and healing.    From location-based stigmas to utilizing human design for transformation, she emphasizes the importance of cultivating a relationship with oneself, learning to communicate needs, and healing without being in a relationship. Join her on the journey of sexual transformation and liberation, where healing and true alignment with oneself are possible.   Katie is someone who is always looking to learn and teach. She is passionate about having the freedom to be herself and live authentically. She aims to inspire others to do the same without being dependent on outside authorities.   She is passionate about helping people find emotional freedom within themselves, and she creates and embodies emotional freedom within herself and supports emotional intimacy in others, triggering their healing to birth them onto their own paths and journeys.   Katie guides others to reconnect, heal, and transform, opening them up to transparent intimacy, supporting and empowering them to find freedom of spirit, living in true alignment and union connected to their higher self and infinite wisdom. She is here to help others write their own story, with themselves as the main character.   We get into:  [0:00] Intro [2:10] Katie's take on sexual trauma [6:40] The lack of education around what we truly want from and during sexual experiences [7:55] What sexual liberation means [11:40] Location and culture-based stigmas around sex [15:25] Sexual liberation and trauma healing without being in a relationship [18:15] Human design's role in sexuality [22:20] Utilizing human design for sexual transformation and healing [26:20] The journey of sexual transformation and sexual liberation [30:20] How crucial it is to learn to communicate your needs [35:10] Cultivating a relationship with yourself first   Connect with Katie www.instagram.com/bespoke_journey  https://www.facebook.com/yourbespokejourney https://www.bespokejourney.co.uk/    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

Have you ever considered a non-monogamous relationship? Are you curious about the difference between this and cheating? How do you get your spouse on board? And is it truly what you want in your life and relationship?   This is what we're talking about in this episode with Jess Lynn.   Jess is a licensed therapist and ethical non-monogamy relationship coach. After opening her previously monogamous relationship of six years, Jess quickly learned just how little information there was out there from professionals on how to navigate non-monogamy.   Jess is passionate about helping others in taking steps to design and embrace their relationship(S) dreams! She shares her knowledge and personal stories through the lens of a trained clinician, in hopes that others can reach relationship success.   We get into:  [0:00] Intro [4:50] Is non-monogamy an excuse to cheat? [7:05] How she brought up ethical non-monogamy to her husband [12:05] How she explained her desires to her husband [16:25] The biggest challenges once they opened up their relationship [19:30] How to handle the jealousy that may come up [23:45] The difference between rules and agreements [27:50] Do people end up separating through non-monogamy? [34:20] Why people are so judgmental towards it [37:30] Non-monogamy vs. cheating [39:25] How to become more open-minded   Connect with Jess https://www.facebook.com/groups/nonmonogamousnewbies/ www.instagram.com/nonmonogamous_newbies  www.bothandcoaching.com    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

What are the juicy details behind Tantra? Are you looking to explore your sexuality even deeper? Or maybe you're curious about the world of Tantra and how it can benefit you? Well, look no further because in this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating world of Tantra and sexuality with Ava Pikul. Ava is a Transformational Therapist and Tantra Healer certified by the only government accredited institute of tantra in the entire world - The Institute of Authentic Tantra! She has over 1,700+ hours of training in the field of tantra, as well as psychological, emotional, and spiritual healing modalities. Ava believes that healing shouldn't take years, and primarily guides men, women, and couples through a unique and holistic approach to healing and sexual fulfillment.  From exploring the different types of orgasms women can experience to understanding the psychological side of things, we cover it all. So whether you're a seasoned practitioner or a curious newbie, there's something here for everyone. In the first few minutes, Ava shares her personal journey and how she got into this work. We then go on to discuss what Tantra is, the difference between Lineage-based Tantra and Neo Tantra, and whether it's something you can do solo or if it's couple-based. But it's not just about the physical aspects of Tantra. We also explore the psychological and spiritual benefits of the practice and how it can be a tool for holistic healing. And if you're wondering how long it takes to see results, Ava shares her insights on that too. We also tackle some of the misconceptions about Tantra, using it as a healing modality, and what most women are missing in their sexual experiences. And if you're curious about the impact of porn on Tantra, we delve into that as well. From semen retention to the difference between women and men's sexuality, we cover a lot of ground in this episode. So if you're ready to unlock the power of Tantra and explore your sexuality, tune in and join the conversation.   We get into:  [0:30] How Ava got into this work [3:30] Communicating and exploring our own sexuality  [7:40] What is Tantra, Lineage-based Tantra and Neo Tantra [9:55] Can you do Tantra solo or is it couple-based? [12:45] Not rejecting our human conditioning [14:10] Tantra as a lifestyle [15:20] Starting with the psychological side of things [16:30] Tantra as a tool for holistic healing [18:30] How long this journey takes [21:10] The sexual aspect of Lineage-based Tantra [25:10] Developing trust and vulnerability [26:50] Misconceptions about Tantra [31:00] Using Tantra as a healing modality [32:30] What most women are missing in their sexual experiences [38:05] Why we turn to porn to get stimulated quickly [43:20] Porn and its impact on Tantra [46:40] Why we treat the symptom instead of going to that deeper level [48:05] Semen retention [54:05] The difference between women and men's sexuality [58:25] The science and energetic components of orgasms [59:40] The different types of orgasms women can experience [1:10:00] The power in slowing down and exploring yourself   Connect with Ava Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ava.ashe https://www.flamewithintantra.com/    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, I sit down with Tristan West, a gay adult entertainment star who has been in the industry for about 9 months. Tristan shares his experiences working with various studios such as Cocky Boys, Naked Sword, Falcon, Next Door Studios, Kink Men, Blacks on Boys, and Creamy Bros. He also talks about presenting awards at the GayVN's and the incredible experiences he's had so far in the industry.    We talk about every juicy topic, including how he got into the industry, the nerves he had on his first-ever shoot, having sex on camera for pleasure and not just money, natural chemistry vs. forced chemistry, working with straight men in gay porn, and whether being a bottom or top affects his dating life.    Tristan also shares how he set himself up for success in the industry, how often he goes into the studio to film, his worst experience so far, whether he has ever taken these relationships outside of the studio, and whether it is more intimidating to work with straight men.    How does he warm up and stretch for the set? And how did he decide what his preferences are? We talk about that too!   Tristan shares his thoughts on electro-stimulation, how porn has opened up his own sexuality, and whether he would ever do a sex scene with a girl. Tune in to learn more about the world of gay adult entertainment from Tristan's perspective.   We get into:  [1:05] How he got into the industry [4:25] The nerves he had on his first-ever shoot [5:25] Having sex on camera for pleasure and not just money [6:55] Having natural chemistry vs. forced chemistry [7:40] What it's like working with straight men in gay porn [9:55] Is Tristan a bottom or a top [10:55] Does it affect his dating life? [12:05] Did he tell his friends and family? [12:40] Setting himself up for success in this industry [14:05] How often he goes into studio to film [17:30] The worst experience he has had so far [19:10] Has he ever taken these relationships outside of the studio? [20:00] Is it more intimidating to work with straight men? [21:05] How to warm up and stretch for set [24:30] How he decided what his preferences are  [26:40] What he's most excited about in the industry [28:25] Where you can watch his content [29:20] Fave production companies to work with [31:30] Electro stimulation  [32:10] How porn has opened up his own sexuality  [36:40] Would he ever do a sex scene with a girl?   Connect with Tristan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/xtristanxwestx Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/tristanwestxxx https://linktr.ee/tristanwestxxx    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

Are you curious about what's missing from sex education and how to change the conversation around the shame and stigma around STIs?   In this podcast, we talk to Rae Szereszewski, who is a certified sex educator and Options for Sexual Health SHEC graduate, and has a Bachelor of Design in Fashion and Apparel Design from Ryerson University.  In addition to her experience as a latex designer, she spent 8 years creating sex positive events at Oasis Aqualounge, a lifestyle club, and has worked in a variety of roles in event planning, community building, mentorship, and project coordination.   Rae is currently running Sexual Education workshops, coaching clients, and making art.   We get into:  [2:15] The biggest thing missing from sex education [4:55] Why people consider having an STI as 'dirty' [7:05] How to ask people if they have an STI or not [9:40] The shame and stigma around having an STI [15:45] Having boundaries when it comes to sex [17:10] What teaching sex ed is like [19:50] Letting young people have sexual agency [24:30] Learning how to say no in a clear way [31:30] What is Shibari  [33:30] Emotional and physical safety as important boundaries when it comes to sex [37:10] The impact of casual sex  [41:30] Not having to date everyone you fall in love with [42:40] The types of kink most people ask for [46:00] The importance of communication when it comes to BDSM + dom kinks   Connect with Rae Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wifebaerae/ Podcast: https://www.sharewithrae.com/podcast OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/raezorlatex Twitter: https://twitter.com/wifebaerae Website: https://www.sharewithrae.com/about   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

Welcome to this week's episode of our podcast, where we sit down with Simon Marini, a former professional fighter turned stripper and porn star. Simon shares his journey with us, from the struggles of performance anxiety as a fighter, to hitting rock bottom with depression and attempting suicide. He also discusses how stripping helped him cope with his anxiety and how it affected his dating life.   Simon then shares his story of transitioning into the porn industry, including his initial reservations and questioning his sexuality as a straight male working in gay porn. He also gets candid about the technical aspects of the industry, such as fake cum shots and the differences between gay and straight porn.   As the conversation progresses, Simon talks about his experiences dating women while working in gay porn, as well as the STI scares he's had to navigate over the years. We also touch on the important topic of condom use in porn.   Finally, Simon shares with us how he eventually stepped back into the fighter scene and how his family reacted to his work in the porn industry. Join us as we explore Simon's unique journey and gain a deeper understanding of the realities of the adult film industry.     We get into:  [2:55] Becoming a professional fighter + the performance anxiety that came with it [4:10] Losing his identity, hitting a low depression and attempting suicide  [5:55] How stripping helped with his performance anxiety  [9:25] What dating was like while he was a stripper [11:30] Making the switch into porn [13:50] Was there a moment of questioning his sexuality as a straight male pornstar working in gay porn? [16:45] Does Simon get any pleasure from getting his dick sucked by other men? [21:10] How you do a fake cum shot [27:55] The differences between gay porn and straight porn [29:05] Switching to 'bottom' in sex scenes [31:50] Dating women while doing gay porn  [37:05] STI scares over the years [38:15] Should you use condoms in porn? [43:40] Stepping back into the fighter scene [46:30] How his family reacted to being in gay porn   Connect with Simon Instagram: www.instagram.com/marini.coaching  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087431080467&mibextid=ZbWKwL OnlyFans: Http://OnlyFans.com/iammkage    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, Mizz.Honey Temper joins me to uncover the world of Femdom and Financial Domination. We talk about what it is, what it isn't and hear some of the most wild experiences she has encountered in her work so far.   Mizz.Honey Temper is a Canadian Fetish Content Creator, FetDungeon Event Hostess and Destroyer of men.   We get into:  [1:15] How Mizz.Honey Temper got into the lifestyle [5:10] What Femdom is [9:00] The kind of Femdom work Mizz.Honey Temper does [10:30] What financial domination is [14:30] Is dating more challenging when you're a femdom? [17:40] How to establish boundaries as a femdom [23:30] The most common fetishes and kinks people have [27:35] Why people get off on cuckolding  [31:15] Being open minded as a couple or individually [41:10] The stigma and judgment around this industry [43:45] Some of the craziest things Mizz.Honey Temper has been asked to do    Connect with Mizz.Honey Temper Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mizzhoneytemper/ https://linktr.ee/mizzhoneytemper https://www.fetdungeon.com/   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

What does consent really look like when it comes to sex and intimacy? How do you ask your partner to try new things without crossing a boundary? How do we make sure everyone feels comfortable when we're being intimate?   We're answering all of these questions on the podcast this week with Dr. Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou.   Dr. Avgi is an immigrant Cypriot and Greek psychoanalyst, living and working in NYC. She is on faculty at the NYU Postdoctoral Program, where she also trained, and teaches nationally in several psychoanalytic institutes. Her published work has received numerous prizes, including the annual JAPA Essay Prize and the Ralph Roughton Award.    She is the 2022 recipient of the Scholarship Award from the division of psychoanalysis of the American Psychological Association (Div. 39) and, with Ann Pellegrini, the recipient of the first Tiresias Essay Prize, from the International Psychoanalytic Associations' committee on sexual and gender diversity.    Her interview on relational psychoanalysis is part of the permanent collection of the Freud Museum in Vienna and in 2021 she co-chaired the first US-based conference dedicated to the work of Jean Laplanche. Her book, Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia, is forthcoming in February 2023 from the Sexual Cultures series, NYU Press. When she is not working, she rides her motorcycle, hoping for good weather.   We get into:  [2:00] What 'slave play' is [16:45] ​​Consent when it comes to fetishes and BDSM [21:25] Sexual play organized around trauma [25:20] Violations when it comes to consent [27:40] Urination for erotic pleasure [29:35] Boundaries that get crossed in the bedroom [30:50] Pushing outside of your comfort zone when it comes to pleasure [37:50] The lack of connection and intimacy around sexual acts [40:40] Why people feel the need to cross lines and boundaries [45:10] ​​What to do if your partner isn't into the same thing as you [48:20] How to know what you're into [53:20] About Avgi's book   Connect with Dr. Avgi Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/avgolis98/  Book: https://www.avgisaketopoulou.com/copy-of-published-works https://www.avgisaketopoulou.com/    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, Elliott Finn joins me to talk about his experience in the gay porn industry as a fully straight male.    Elliott started his career in the porn industry after going through a divorce and needing the money. As you'll hear in this episode, he tried working in the straight male porn industry and was always redirected to the gay male niche.   Since, he has grown a presence online and creates content on Only Fans.    We get into:  [1:05] Elliott's background in the gay male porn industry as a straight male [2:10] How he got into gay porn vs. straight porn [5:50] Is it mostly straight men in gay porn? [7:05] Why Elliott primarily did 'bottom' [9:35] Are numbing creams really effective? [11:30] How well the industry pays [14:15] The stigma around the porn industry itself [18:05] How his friendships changed when they found out [18:45] The challenges with dating and getting into relationships [21:20] Starting up an Only Fans with his fiance  [23:45] Is the adult industry hard to get out of? [26:20] The number one judgment people make about the adult entertainment industry [30:30] His worst experience in the industry [33:45] ​​The best experience he's had in the industry [36:05] Separating business and pleasure [41:10] The rules around getting tested   Connect with Elliott Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theelliotfinn YouTube: ​​https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBom2kzQiGlx_JW8wca9P0w TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theelliotfinn?lang=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/theelliotfinn https://linktr.ee/elliotfinn   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, Kari and Casey join me to talk about sex, why we talk about it, why we don't, and opening up a long-term relationship into new sexual frontiers.   Do you have fantasies that you want to explore and aren't sure how to talk to your partner about them?    How do you get the fulfilling sex life you really want with your partner?   Kari and Casey are leaders in this conversation, and share with us how they've transformed the narrative around sex, open relationships, and pleasure.   We get into:  [1:30] How they both got into this space [4:00] Starting to open up sexually to their friend group [7:10] Why people struggle opening up about their sexuality [16:00] Three C's of a successful sex life [26:20] Opening up their own marriage and advice for other couples [37:00] The biggest gaps for couples who can't get on the same page [43:20] Why men cheat   Connect with Kari and Casey Instagram: www.instagram.com/cumwithkc  Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2018368   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, we're talking about why and how sex work is real work – even though many people think it isn't.    Joining me for this conversation is Mona from an organization called 'Answers'.    Mona worked on the streets in the late 1970s/early 80s until the new laws came out in 1985.  A short time after, most of the larger centers in Alberta, including Edmonton, created licensing for the adult entertainment field and she became a licensed escort. Much of Mona's own advocacy is spelled out in Sex Work Activism in Canada - you can find the chapter here https://www.answersociety.org/buy-the-book    We get into:  [1:05] What 'Answers' is [6:35] Why sex work is in fact a 'real' job [8:15] The kind of support 'Answers' provides [15:15] The biggest changes in how society views sex workers today [17:50] Why Mona got into sex work [31:15] Is the sex work industry a dying industry?  [38:45] What Mona likes about being a sex worker [41:30] Where to connect with the organization    Connect with Answers Society  www.answersociety.org  Sign up for the Sex Work is Work Bias Prevention Training offered bi-monthly. They accept small donations. Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, Katherine Zammuto joins me on the podcast to talk about how to have the most fulfilling sex life.   We also talk about why we should be more demanding when it comes to having incredible sex, the benefits, and why using toys can be a good thing.   Kat Zammuto started working in the entertainment and modeling industries at the early age of four (her dad was a TV and video producer). This lifelong experience with video and photography makes her super comfortable in front of the camera, and clients and brands love the natural, organic approach of her work.   Her podcast, Kat on the Loose - Sex, Dating & Relationships, is growing a big and loyal following with over 65k downloads per episode.   We get into:  [1:00] How Kat got into podcasting [2:05] What's changed the most in the dating world [3:00] Being in a sexless marriage [4:15] Discovering her sexuality and what she loved about sex [13:20] Removing the stigma around sex  [19:15] Is bigger really better? [23:05] Why men should learn how to use their hands in bed [25:15] How to have the most fulfilling sex life [27:40] Kat's fantasies she wants fulfilled    Connect with Kat Instagram: www.instagram.com/katzammuto  Twitter: www.twitter.com/katontheloose  https://bio.site/katzammuto   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, we're talking about using cannabis and CBD products to deepen our sexual connection and chemistry.   Joining me is Christina Michael, Cannabis & Holistic Health Professional.   Have you ever used these kinds of products in your sex life? Why or why not? We would love to hear from you!     We get into:  [1:00] Why Christina is passionate about CBD and Cannabis  [3:30] The products that are best for women and supporting women  [7:40] Do these products have lingering effects when taking them? [16:30] Bringing more presence into your sexual experiences [22:10] Paranoia and cannabis use [29:20] The impact of alcohol and sex Resources mentioned in this episode: Forty Acre Blends Topicals  Madge and Mercer https://www.madgeandmercer.com  Prairie Grass https://prairiegrass.com  CANN Social Tonics https://drinkcann.com  Aurora Live Resin Gummies https://www.auroramedical.com/products/new-sour-cherry-live-resin-gummies  Blunt Botanicals https://bluntbotanicals.com  Stewart Farms Bath Bombs https://www.stewartfarms.life/infused-bath-bombs    Connect with Christina Instagram: @_christina.michael or @theentourageco www.theentourageco.com    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

A few months ago I visited The Hive in Arizona to get the scoop of what goes on inside the only social sex club in America.   This episode is a mash up of my interviews with different couples who frequent The Hive with their partners.   The full interviews can be found on my YouTube channel.     We get into:  [1:25] What Pompoir is [1:00] Heather and Max [4:55] Enedina and Denny [10:00] Michael and Diane [13:30] David and Nancy [16:50] John and Jane [19:20] Sean and Priscilla [24:10] Andrea and Jeremie  [27:15] Deb [29:30] Russel and Tristan  [32:20] Christine  [36:20] Mike and Mike [38:00] Patricia and Heather [39:55] Mark [43:45] Sam and Sam [47:30] Richard and Brittany    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, Bel Di Lorenzo joins me to talk about how to do Pompoir for better orgasms.   Pompoir is a sex practice where women gain full control over their vaginal muscles to enhance pleasure, increase libido, and supercharge orgasms.   Students of Pompoir can squeeze, pull, tilt, grip, lock, twist, suck and pulse – using only their vaginas. The combination of motions through the different regions of the pelvic floor muscles makes up over 27 unique sex moves.   We talk about The Oh!lympus Program, which is Gohddess' step-by-step course on Pompoir.    This online training teaches you how to master these exercises in a visual, science-backed way through practical animations, printable guides, and active community.   We get into:  [1:25] What Pompoir is [3:05] Where Pompoir originates from and why it was created [5:30] How Bel got into Pompoir  [12:25] Tips to learn how to do this technique  [17:25] Bel's program and what you learn from it [24:00] Does Pompoir make sex slower [37:25] Delaying orgasms with 'locking'    Connect with Bel Instagram: www.instagram.com/goh.ddess  Website: www.gohddess.com  With the code BACON100 at www.gohddess.com they get $100 off the course   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

How do you get better sex, deeper pleasure, bigger profits and more fulfillment?   Marianne St Clair is an internationally recognized Muse, Mentor, Published Author, International Speaker, and Leader. Marianne works with busy leaders (CEO, C-Suite & Business Owners ) groups, and organizations to amplify their pleasure to increase their income, influence, and intimacy by reclaiming their Sovereignty in all capacities - sexually, emotionally, financially, creatively, and relationally and has taught these techniques to thousands of people around the world.    We get into:  [2:00] The relationship between sex and financial success [5:15] Manifesting during orgasms [11:00] The emptiness of casual sex [18:40] The energy behind intentional sex and using it as a tool for creation [26:50] How sex differs around the world [29:40] Using masturbation for manifestation  [38:50] Choosing and being aware of our sex and pleasure to create the life we desire  [51:05] How to explore our own sexual energy   Resources Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill Connect with Marianne  https://www.instagram.com/mariannestclair/  https://www.facebook.com/mariannestclair https://www.bizofpleasure.com/masterclass https://www.bizofpleasure.com/ www.MarianneStClair.com  http://www.bizofpleasure.com/gift Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

How can you make online dating work?   Honestly, it can feel so overwhelming. There's so many people on the apps, a lot of them are hookups only, and you invest so much time for ultimately nothing to happen.   Is it just this day and age? Are all people on these apps really like this?   How can we make online dating better to have more fulfilling relationships?   Renée Suzanne helps women over 40 start dating better men immediately so they can meet and marry the man of their dreams.  She is the creator of the COURTED method, a process that helps women date in order to create the lasting connection they really want.     Renée is the author of "Beloved: How to go from relationship-challenged to relationship-ready" and "Ten things you can do to upgrade your love life".. When she's not helping women find true love, you can find her out ballroom dancing with her husband or walking her dog on the trails near her home in Chicagoland.   We get into:  [1:30] How Renée got into this work [3:35] Are men supposed to chase women? [5:45] How to position yourself for your love interest to pursue you  [10:20] What to avoid talking about when getting to know someone [16:20] Should you talk about sex and intimacy in the beginning? [22:05] Does the online space limit who you can talk to? [26:55] How Renée personally used online dating and found success with it [29:20] How to make online dating less daunting and exhausting  [40:10] How Renée leans into her sexual side   Connect with Renee https://www.reneesuzannecoaching.com  https://www.facebook.com/reneesuzannecoaching  https://twitter.com/reneesuzanneluv https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvB6_z7P1KXJ8IOsYa8LLTg  https://www.linkedin.com/in/reneesuzanne/ Beloved: How to go from relationship-challenged to relationship-ready Ten things you can do to upgrade your love life Mini Training: https://bit.ly/relationshipUwant   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

Learn how spirituality and sexuality are intertwined.    Joining me is Kortni Chimko, and she is the CEO of Touch of Serenity & Co-Founder of Wholistic Co., Kokoro and Jade and the Soul Haven Podcast. She is an Aesthetician, Reiki Practitioner and Oracle/Angel card reader.    Kortni has a huge passion for helping others and within the last five years has really dove into her spiritual & health journey. She is certified in level 1 & 2 reiki and uses her healing gifts on herself and integrates it into her businesses. Kortni is the host of the Soul Haven Podcast where she chats openly and honestly about all topics from health, spirituality, business and more. No topic is off limits. Kortni and her guests use Soul Haven as a safe space with no judgment to share experiences, journeys and to educate her listeners each week.    We get into:  [1:45] How Kortni got into this work [4:30] Finding balance between spirituality and healing [11:30] The judgment we put on ourselves when it comes to sex [14:30] How to protect our energy when with different sexual partners [24:45] Honouring your own sexual needs [32:45] The taboo parts we need to unlearn when it comes to sex and sexuality  [35:45] How Kortni honours her own sexuality   Connect with Kortni Instagram: www.instagram.com/soulhavenpodcast  Instagram: www.instagram.com/kokoroandjade  Instagram: www.instagram.com/touchofserenity  www.kokoroandjade.com  20% off entire order (code doesn't expire) - www.kokoroandjade.com Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, we're talking about what happens at swingers' clubs with Franco Malanga.   Franco spent 32 years as a firefighter and 28 years as an emergency medical professional. He started the development of The Hive about three years ago. The club launched 12 months ago and it's been a wild ride ever since.   He has been in the lifestyle since 2010.     We get into:  [1:10] How Franco got into the industry [3:30] The swingers lifestyle [13:20] How people get into the lifestyle [19:05] How the rooms and spaces within the club work [25:30] How they ensure safe sex [34:35] Handling the fear of rejection   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, we're talking about how to have an open relationship, and joining me is Gayle Lynn.   Gayle Lynn is a relationship coach focused on "What do you do when your partner wants to have sex with another person?" or maybe "You want to have sex with someone else?"    She has a passion to empower women to make educated choices about their relationships. She has personally experienced her spouse coming to her and expressing his desire to have sex with someone else, as shares in this episode.    So many people will go out and cheat on their partner when there is a better way to handle the situation. Creating open and honest communication is key in these situations. Big feelings come up and many people don't know how to process them. Having someone who has no agenda and creates a space where there will be no shame or guilt is what her clients experience.    We get into:  [0:55] How Gayle's husband asked her for an open relationship [6:15] Orgasmic meditation [11:40] Gayle's thoughts on open relationships at the beginning [13:35] How they set rules in their open relationship [17:25] How to navigate your partner asking you for an open relationship [20:15] How their community, friends and family reacted [29:50] The difference between polyamorous relationships and open relationships [38:25] Three things you need consider when asking your partner for an open relationship Connect with Gayle Instagram: www.instagram.com/Relationships_Evolving  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RelationshipsEvolving Facebook Group for Women: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshipsevolving  https://relationshipsevolving.com    Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

In this episode, we're talking all about clitoral orgasms, oral sex, and what you don't know about sex with Tamara Schoon.   Tamara Schoon hosts the Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating Podcast with her soothing and sultry voice. She helps the masses of clueless daters out there with frank conversations about their sex lives and dating.    Tamara provides education, tools, and resources to help people have fulfilling sex and dating including eliminating the double standard and normalizing sex. With her background as a stand-up comic, she can say what you are thinking but are too afraid to ask.    She had her best orgasm at 18 but even before she ever had sex, she knew she wanted to be with someone that knew what they were doing. Tamara loves empowering everyone to have GREAT sex, tonight!   We get into:  [0:00] Intro [0:45] How Tamara got into the sex podcasting space [3:00] Stigmas around what being a sexual person looks like [5:20] Things people don't know about when it comes to sex [11:50] Orgasms from oral sex  [29:20] Exploring sexual preferences in long term relationships  [44:00] Using toys during sex  [50:15] Tamara's number one sex tip   Connect with Tamara! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tamara_schoon_comic  Twitter: www.twitter.com/tamarapodcast   www.straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/  Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected] 

We're talking about healing from sexual trauma with Michelle Nicole.    Michelle is Breathwork & Somatic Facilitator, and sexual trauma survivor. She shares about her journey to sexuality and self, and how leaving an abusive marriage was the trigger for her to choose a different path and be more fully present with herself.   If you are in this cycle right now, or know someone who is, be sure to share this episode with someone who needs it.   We get into:  [2:05] Michelle's journey through marriage and infidelity  [7:25] Associating sex with abuse and how to break that cycle [8:55] How trauma and abuse affects the next relationship you're in [20:35] The energy transfer during sex  [27:55] Are people capable of healing from sexual trauma and societal beliefs? [32:55] Where we're at culturally vs. other parts of the world when it comes to sex  [40:45] Using Tantra to heal sexual trauma  [46:05] Michelle's advice to those on this journey   Connect with Michelle Instagram YouTube Podcast TikTok   Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065  Email us: [email protected]