Why You Over-Explain When You Feel Misunderstood

Do you ever feel like being misunderstood doesn’t just hurt, it sends your whole nervous system into shutdown?In this short episode, Dr. Tracy reflects on a powerful insight about highly sensitive people and highly sensitive children: sometimes the hardest part isn’t being perceived, it’s being perceived wrongly. She explores why the fear of being misunderstood can lead to over-explaining, rereading texts, defending your intentions, or trying desperately to prove that you meant well.Dr. Tracy also names the deeper work underneath it all: learning to remind yourself that being misunderstood may be uncomfortable, but it is not always dangerous. Instead of abandoning yourself to control someone else’s perception of you, what might change if you comforted the part of you that is afraid of being misread? 🔗 WANT TO GO DEEPER? Be Connected — 24/7 relationship support, including Dr. Tracy AI trained on Tracy's clinical work. Get real answers in the moment, even when your partner won't do the work with you. Understand what you need to repair in your relationship. 2 minutes. Your partner will know exactly what to say.  One spot left for a couples intensive with Dr. Tracy — a 2-day deep dive designed for couples who are stuck and not seeing results from weekly therapy. In-person or she travels to you. Read the book: ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Free Resource: Challenge Your Assumptions and Perceptions Get your question answered here on the podcast. Submit them here.   Get exclusive 1:1 support with Dr. Tracy. Find out more here..   Not sure where to start? Find your relationship's negative cycle — free quiz here. Is your partner defensive?  Download my FREE scripts to respond to a defensive partner. Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 📲 FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to You Tube   Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices