Why You Say Yes When You Want to Say No (Vault)

People pleasing behaviours develop in childhood and become deeply ingrained by age eight, creating a pattern where we believe we must earn love through meeting others' needs. This psychological conditioning leads to resentment, career limitations, and an inability to set boundaries that ultimately holds us back from becoming true leaders and women of influence.• People pleasers have a strong need to be liked, are often high achievers, perfectionists, and struggle to say no• The pattern begins as "parent pleasing" between ages 3-8 when children perceive parental love as conditional• People pleasers develop an overdeveloped sense of personal responsibility for others' problems• Constant people pleasing leads to resentment, bitterness, and feeling unappreciated• Career advancement is limited because leadership requires making unpopular decisions• You can say "no" to others (just as you do to your kids and yourself) once you understand and address these patternsIf this resonated, share it with a friend who needs to hear it today, and don't forget to subscribe to Balance and Beyond for full episodes and more of these bite-sized breakthroughs.Send a text message to JoThe Balance & Beyond Podcast Hosted by Jo Stone, founder of The Balance InstituteFor women who are already succeeding, but beginning to wonder if they're willing to keep losing themselves in the process.We know high achievers, because we are one. This podcast draws on Jo's 20 years in global leadership and thousands of hours coaching executives and ambitious women: the patterns she sees, how to untangle them, and what it actually takes to keep your success without paying for it with yourself.If something landed today, there's more where that came from.And if you know a woman this would resonate with, send it her way.🎙️https://www.balanceinstitute.com/podcast 🔗 www.balanceinstitute.com💼https://au.linkedin.com/in/stonejoanne📷 @therealjostone