EPISODE · Feb 16, 2026 · 26 MIN
Why You Say You Want Peace… But Refuse to Do the One Thing That Brings It
from GET UNHOOKED PODCAST · host Jason Coombs
Send us Fan MailWhy You Say You Want Peace… But Refuse to Do the One Thing That Brings ItMost families say they want peace.But when it comes time to grieve the loss of the relationship they hoped for…they tighten their grip instead.In this deeply honest episode, Jason reveals:Why control disguises itself as loveHow fear keeps families emotionally hookedThe grief step most people skipWhy surrender is not giving upAnd how to finally reclaim your life — even if your loved one hasn’t changedThis episode is both confronting and freeing.If you’ve been strong for far too long…this one will hit home.⏱ Episode Highlights[01:01] Why families show up strong, not weak — and how control hides behind love[03:12] Step 1: The Hula Hoop Principle — what’s yours and what’s not[05:23] Step 2: Facing your worst fear without catastrophizing[07:12] Step 3: Letting go of attachment to specific outcomes[09:04] Step 4: The grief stage most families avoid (and why it keeps you stuck)[11:30] Why families say they want peace but refuse to grieve[14:59] The five stages of grief explained through Jason’s personal loss[20:57] Step 5: Trusting something bigger than your fear[21:37] Step 6: Holding onto hope while releasing control[22:37] Step 7: The daily practice of surrenderWhat You’ll Learn✔ The difference between surrender and enabling✔ Why fear creates the very outcomes you’re trying to prevent✔ How grief breaks the control cycle✔ How to be okay — even if they don’t change✔ A 14-day surrender blueprint to begin reclaiming your peaceA Personal Note from JasonYou don’t have to wait for your loved one to recover before you recover your life.That’s not selfish.That’s sane.Surrender is not giving up on them.It’s finally picking yourself back up.Resources & Support📖 Unhooked: How to Help an Addicted Loved One Recover — Available on Amazon & Audible🌐 Learn more about family recovery support at:https://www.brickhouserecovery.comSupport the showJoin Jason Coombs LIVE each week for tips and tricks and LIVE Q&A’s. Go to https://www.liveunhooked.com/live-unhooked. For information about treatment services visit https://www.brickhouserecovery.com/For more information about Warrior Heart Bootcamp for men visit www.awarriorheart.comhttps://awarriorheart.com/$100 DISCOUNT CODE for Warrior Heart = 2026Brick100To learn more about the women’s retreat, Heart of a Woman: https://theheartofawoman.net/$100 DISCOUNT CODE for Heart of a Woman = 2026Brick100
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Send us Fan Mail Why You Say You Want Peace… But Refuse to Do the One Thing That Brings It Most families say they want peace. But when it comes time to grieve the loss of the relationship they hoped for… they tighten their grip instead. In this deeply honest episode, Jason reveals: Why control disguises itself as loveHow fear keeps families emotionally hookedThe grief step most people skipWhy surrender is not giving upAnd how to finally reclaim your life — even if your loved one hasn’t change...
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