You Can't Love Him Into Healing | Why Women Stay With Abusive Men | Ep. 006

Send Lisa a question for her to reply in a future episode!This episode is going to hit different. I'm joined by therapist and domestic violence survivor Aishia Grevenberg to destroy the most dangerous myth keeping women trapped: that your love can heal an abusive man.What You'll Learn:• Why high-functioning, successful women become targets for abusive men• The childhood conditioning that teaches us to "perform" for love• How abusers weaponize therapy and self-improvement narratives to keep you hooked• Why individual therapy doesn't work for abusers (it's not a communication problem - it's a control problem)• The exact moments we both realized we had to leaveKey Takeaways:Abuse is a choice, not a reaction to your behaviorThe desire to "fix" him comes from being conditioned to earn love through complianceSelf-love isn't bath bombs - it's protecting yourself and refusing to tolerate harmNo amount of love can stop someone from choosing to be abusiveThis conversation gets real about the psychological traps that keep us stuck - not just the financial ones. If you've ever thought "if I just love him enough" or "once his stress goes away, he'll change," this episode will shatter those illusions and help you see the truth.Guest:Aishia Grevenberg - Therapist and domestic violence survivor who knows firsthand the duality of advocating against abuse publicly while enduring it privately.Connect with Aisha  Follow her on TikTokJoin Lisa Sonni & Dr. Peter Salerno in Boston, MA November 13-15, 2026 here: https://lisasonni.com/unbreakable-and-irreplaceable/ Support the showThis is the podcast they don't want you listening to.👉 Find me at lisasonni.com Book A Session with LisaJoin my online survivor community called She Rises Collective where we are breaking free, rebuilding and dismantling patriarchy. Follow on IGWatch on YouTubeGet My Books HereNew episodes drop every Tuesday.Subscribe, share it with someone who needs the truth - and remember:You’re stronger than they ever wanted you to believe.