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EPISODE · Mar 19, 2026 · 32 MIN

You Don’t Even Like Him… You Just Want to Be Picked. ft Alice Potts

from The Break-Up Diet

If you’ve ever been obsessed with a guy who’s giving you the bare minimum…this episode might be a little bit of a wake-up call.Because sometimes it’s not that you actually like him.You just like the feeling of being chosen.This week I’m joined by Alice Potts, former London matchmaker turned dating coach helping women avoid the wrong men and finally build secure relationships, and we get very honest about what’s really going on in modern dating.We talk about why so many of us end up chasing men who aren’t choosing us properly, why “confusion” is usually a red flag (sorry), and how easy it is to mistake attention for something deeper. Because let’s be real… if he liked you, you’d know. And if you’re overthinking it, that probably tells you everything.We get into the patterns that keep you stuck, why you keep wanting the ones who don’t want you back, and how dating apps have completely warped the way we connect. And also… the slightly uncomfortable truth that a lot of the time, we’re not actually dating for love — we’re dating for validation.This is the kind of conversation you have with your friends after a glass (or three) of wine, where everything suddenly clicks and you’re like “wait… why have I never thought about it like this?”Because we’ve all had that situation where deep down we knew it wasn’t right… but stayed anyway. Overthinking every message, analysing every little bit of attention, and convincing ourselves it meant more than it actually did.If you’ve ever found yourself chasing, confused, or asking your friends “why do I keep doing this?” when it comes to men…this episode is for you.And if you’re ready to actually break those patterns, Alice offers 1:1 mentoring sessions to help you avoid the wrong men and build secure, healthy relationships. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’ve ever been obsessed with a guy who’s giving you the bare minimum…this episode might be a little bit of a wake-up call.Because sometimes it’s not that you actually like him.You just like the feeling of being chosen.This week I’m joined by Alice Potts, former London matchmaker turned dating coach helping women avoid the wrong men and finally build secure relationships, and we get very honest about what’s really going on in modern dating.We talk about why so many of us end up chasing men who aren’t choosing us properly, why “confusion” is usually a red flag (sorry), and how easy it is to mistake attention for something deeper. Because let’s be real… if he liked you, you’d know. And if you’re overthinking it, that probably tells you everything.We get into the patterns that keep you stuck, why you keep wanting the ones who don’t want you back, and how dating apps have completely warped the way we connect. And also… the slightly uncomfortable truth that a lot of the time, we’re not actually dating for love — we’re dating for validation.This is the kind of conversation you have with your friends after a glass (or three) of wine, where everything suddenly clicks and you’re like “wait… why have I never thought about it like this?”Because we’ve all had that situation where deep down we knew it wasn’t right… but stayed anyway. Overthinking every message, analysing every little bit of attention, and convincing ourselves it meant more than it actually did.If you’ve ever found yourself chasing, confused, or asking your friends “why do I keep doing this?” when it comes to men…this episode is for you.And if you’re ready to actually break those patterns, Alice offers 1:1 mentoring sessions to help you avoid the wrong men and build secure, healthy relationships. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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