You Reap What You Sow

From my album Sticks & Stones, this song is about having to be firm with boundaries in my relationship with my mom, who was abusive and alcoholic. It's very much about my own healing and health - and how hard it is to differentiate from a mom who tells you you're terrible.A central theme explores how our relationships reflect our own feelings and beliefs, and how we create our own reality in some ways. The chorus reminds us: "You get what you give, that's just how it is. Love is conditional."This song captures the painful work of setting boundaries with someone who shaped your earliest sense of self, and the journey toward understanding that the love we receive is often a mirror of what we're able to give—to ourselves and others.My album Sticks & Stones by Red Letter is available wherever you stream music.My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books.For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com