Maybe Consistency Isn't The Goal

Melissa Greene spent years as a member of the Grammy-nominated Christian music group Avalon before becoming a pastor, speaker, writer, and advocate. But along the way, life began challenging some of the beliefs she had always held—and forcing her to confront an uncomfortable truth: Growth doesn't happen by staying the same. Melissa joins Dr. J.J. Peterson to explore what happens when certainty starts to crack, why changing your mind can feel so threatening, and how curiosity, compassion, and life experience can reshape the way we see ourselves and others. While faith and theology are part of the conversation, this episode is really about something much bigger: growth, identity, and what happens when life asks us to become someone new. Together they explore a question many of us quietly wrestle with: Who are we becoming? What We Explore • Why changing your mind can feel like changing your entire world • What happens when life no longer fits the story you've been told • Why some people stay curious while others double down • The power of meeting people beyond labels and assumptions • Why growth often requires letting go of certainty • What happens when your world gets bigger • Why you shouldn't expect to be the same person ten years from now This episode is for you if you've ever questioned something you once believed, found yourself growing in unexpected ways, or wondered what it means to evolve without losing yourself along the way. Mentioned in This Episode Substack: https://melissagreene.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissagreene Follow Badass Softie Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/badasssoftiepod Website: https://www.badasssoftie.com