You Taught Them Not to Worry About You (& it's lonely AF)

Are you the organised one. The one who initiates, who holds it all together, who remembers every birthday and manages every group chat. You're the friend everyone calls when something's going wrong, and you hold space for them beautifully. Except when it's your turn. Then you go quiet. You don't ask for help. You don't let your feelings take up room, not in the group chat, not at the dinner table, not with your partner. In this episode I'm talking about how lonely that identity can feel, even when you're surrounded by people who love you. I share why this role gets built so early (hello, being praised for being "so reliable" as a kid), what it's actually costing you now, and what I had to let go of to stop carrying everything alone. What we cover: Why being "the strong one" isn't a personality trait, it's a role you were praised into from childhood The invisible mental load of constantly tracking, remembering and anticipating for everyone else Why you default to going quiet in your own crisis, even with friends you know would show up for you The difference between being independent and being interdependent, and why independence is actually the lonely one What it actually looks like to let people in, including the small, uncomfortable moment of just saying yes when someone offers to help Why saying yes to support is a gift to the other person, not a burden on them Mentioned in this episode: Put Yourself First Live this September. Grab Early Bird Tickets Here - https://www.khorrocks.com/PYFlive Follow me on Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/⁠ Cherished early bird spots are open now, save £100 on the last round price plus bonus 1:1 sessions over summer. DM me CHERISHED on Instagram for details. DM me COACHING on Instagram to enquire about working together