Why You Keep Having The Same Fight | Relationships, Trauma, Boundaries & Emotional Triggers with Alisa Lollback

Why do the same arguments keep showing up in our relationships? Different day. Different person. Same fight. According to psychologist and body psychotherapist Alisa Lollback, most of us aren't reacting to what's happening right now. We're reacting to everything that happened before. In this episode of The Stronger Stuff Show, Minna sits down with Alisa Lollback, a registered psychologist, Core Energetics teacher and body psychotherapist who has spent decades helping people understand why they react the way they do. And at several points during this conversation, it feels like she's reading everyone's mind. Including Minna's. We talk about the childhood experiences that quietly shape our adult relationships, why some people become perfectionists, people pleasers, controllers or high achievers, and how old wounds can keep showing up long after we've forgotten where they came from. Alisa shares why anger isn't the enemy, why guilt isn't actually a feeling, and why many of us spend years disconnected from what we're really feeling. She also tells a story about being fully aware she was being mean to her husband......and choosing to keep going anyway. Until the lower-self hangover arrived the next day. Along the way we get into relationships, parenting, emotional triggers, boundaries, conflict, vulnerability, self-awareness, repair, Core Energetics and the surprising freedom that comes from understanding yourself a little better. In This EpisodeWhy you keep having the same fightChildhood wounds and adult relationshipsEmotional triggers and unconscious reactionsPeople pleasers, perfectionists and controllersWhy anger isn't the problemThe difference between guilt, shame and remorseRepairing ruptures with partners and childrenBoundaries, self-awareness and authenticityThe five Core Energetics character structuresWhy your body often knows before your mind doesThe lower-self hangover after conflictHow awareness creates choiceAnd why the safest people are often the ones who know both their light and their dark If you've ever found yourself thinking: "Why do I keep doing this?" Or "Why do we keep having this same argument?" …this conversation might answer more than a few questions. #TheStrongerStuffShow #AlisaLollback #Relationships #EmotionalTriggers #Trauma #Boundaries #CoreEnergetics #Psychology #SelfAwareness #Parenting #PeoplePleasing#PersonalGrowth #Storytelling #ComingAlive #PixieRevolutionStay Connected:Follow us and share the show to keep us going strong! Join the community and flex your stuff @mystrongerstuff Follow The Stronger Stuff Show:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/mystrongerstuff/⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61587590469654⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠linkedin.com/in/minna-walker-75130a138⁠⁠⁠Follow Minna |Artist Pixie Revolution:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/pixierevolution/⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/minna.walker.10⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100068923526719⁠⁠⁠Alisa Lollback:⁠www.alisalollback.com.au⁠Music Credit:Music is written, performed and produced byMinna | Pixie Revolution. ASCAP.© 2026 Pixie Revolution. All rights reserved.Music and Licensing enquiries contact:⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠10% off Abeeco with code THESTRONGERSTUFFSHOW⁠One use by customer.⁠⁠⁠abeeco.com⁠© 2026 Minna Walker. All rights reserved. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only.