You're Not Losing, You're Lasting

If your ex’s attorney is loud, aggressive, or constantly stirring up drama, it’s easy to panic. Especially if your attorney is calm, measured, and quiet. You start wondering—am I losing?In this episode, divorce coach Corey Shapiro breaks down the third divorce attorney style: The Boxer. Not flashy. Not chaotic. But steady, strategic, and ready to strike—only when it counts.You’ll learn:What a “Boxer” attorney looks like (and why they might seem disengaged)Why tactical silence can be stronger than reactive noiseHow to know if your attorney is playing defense—or building a quiet offenseWhat questions to ask if you’re unsure who’s really fighting for youPower Line:“You’re not losing. You’re lasting.”Because lasting takes more strength than lashing out.Next Steps:Ask your attorney: Are we being tactical or just quiet?Get clear on the plan. If they’re prepping depositions, trial outlines, or settlement proposals—they’re moving.If they’re not? It might be time for a second opinion. For people whose divorce has turned into a fight. You've been trying to be reasonable with someone who treats every concession as the opening for the next demand. Whether you're starting to fold or ready to torch the whole thing, this show is a system for getting through it without losing your mind. In a one-sided divorce, your calm is the weapon, not the weakness.The show is a curriculum in three phases: Get Clear, Get Going, Get Your Life Back. Most episodes are solo; some are conversations with guests. Listen in order if you're early in the process. Every episode also stands on its own.Corey Shapiro is a NYC divorce attorney. 25+ years in family law. Child of divorce.The book and 1-on-1 coaching with Corey: https://gettingdivorced.orgNew episodes Thursdays during the season.Audio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.